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If you are a gay man who wants one committed relationship, you may have absorbed a quieter sentence: that want means you are unfinished. That non-monogamy is the healed position. That monogamy is something to grow out of.

That is not a fact. It is a belief.

This episode of The Gay Monogamy Coach is a cognitive audit of that belief — where it came from, what keeps it in place, and whether the evidence holds.

Alan Cox works through the thought the way he would in a session: naming it precisely, taking apart social proof, mislabeling and all-or-nothing thinking, then testing it against evidence. He does not rank relationship structures. He asks whether the sentence you are speaking is yours, or one you inherited so you would not cause friction.

Listening will show you the pattern. It will not change it. Insight does not rewire a belief you have been complying with for years. That happens when you put CBT on paper in the week you are actually living.

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The views in this episode are Alan’s, from his work as a life coach and CBT practitioner with gay men. Other people may see relationship structure differently. This is an audit of one belief, not a ruling on how anyone else should live.

Music: Light as Air by Reveille.

The Gay Monogamy Coach. Presented by Alan Cox.

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