Thoughts are powerful. They are what create results in our lives. Knowing that is one of the most liberating things I have ever learned!

What's the difference between fact and story? I give some examples in the hope that you can understand the difference between circumstances and thoughts. Listen in for the ah ha moment I had when criticizing my husband!

When you're looking at the facts of a circumstance, it helps to get specific about, time, place, words, details, etc. It helps take your mind from the thoughts or story that's creating emotion and lets you get curious about what it all means.

Today I use a metaphor of a gear shift in a car to talk more about how circumstances are neutral.

Circumstances, facts, situations, conditions, incidents occurrences, and reality are all neutral. See how your thoughts come into play.

Facts are just facts until we tell ourselves a story about them. What can you learn from the times I chose to dismount a moving horse?

People can say all kinds of strange things. Remember it's about them, not about you. When you feel hurt, it's helpful to ask yourself if you are safe and if you feel safe. If you aren't safe, get to a place of safety. If you are safe but don't feel safe it's a good time to look at where you feel unsafe in your body and give yourself some time to breathe into those places. Acknowledge them and give them space until you feel safe again.