We often think communication is the key to a strong marriage, but what if the real secret is friendship? In this episode, we’re talking about what it looks like to actually be friends with your spouse, how that can get lost when life gets busy and kids need more from you, and the ways we’ve each seen this play out in our own marriages. We’re also sharing some simple ways to rebuild connection that can help you find your way back to liking each other again.

Key Topics Covered:

• How to show genuine interest in your partner’s hobbies and interests
• The mental load and how sharing responsibilities can create more room for connection
• Why small acts of kindness and quick repairs matter
• Ways to turn toward your partner instead of away during frustrating moments
• Creating more opportunities for fun and shared experiences

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To Have and to Hold: Motherhood, Marriage, and the Modern Dilemma by Molly Millwood: https://amzlink.to/az0O8mPASBGdi

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Read the blog post from The Gottman Institute: https://www.gottman.com/blog/thirty-years-later/

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Today, we’re talking all things motherhood, mindset, and youth sports with Chandler Ashcraft, the creator behind @chanwiththeboys and founder of Moms Away. Chandler brings her background in education and her experience raising four boys to the conversation, sharing why perspective can help us take the pressure off, how to set developmentally appropriate expectations for our kids, and why confidence often comes from being willing to do hard things. We also get into the reality of youth sports, from the pressure to do more to the mental load that comes with keeping everyone’s schedules moving, and how to make choices that actually fit your family.

Key Topics Covered

• How exposure to hard moments builds confidence and resilience
• Teaching kids to take ownership of their attitude, effort, and response
• Why confidence, especially for women, is built through failure and trying again
• How to evaluate the tradeoffs that come with youth sports
• Keeping the long game in mind when making decisions for your family

CONNECT WITH CHANDLER:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chanwiththeboys

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Since it’s Labor Day here in the U.S., we’re bringing back one of our favorite conversations on shifting jealousy and comparison into inspiration and possibility. It’s easy to fall into the trap of comparing yourself to other women and feeling jealous, intimidated, or like you’re somehow behind. But what if you could shift that mindset and instead feel genuinely inspired by the success around you? In this episode, we share a recent real-life experience from a mastermind we attended with highly successful business owners and how it challenged us to see comparison differently. Instead of letting the “small fish in a big sea” feeling discourage us, we used it as proof of what’s possible. We talk about the mindset shift that helped us move from comparison to inspiration, why personal growth plays a huge role in that process, and how surrounding yourself with the right people can change the way you view your own potential.

In this episode, we discuss:

• What it felt like walking into a room full of highly successful entrepreneurs.
• The surprising common habits we noticed among women operating at a high level.
• Why taking care of your physical health often supports long-term success.
• The “highlight reel vs. inner life” trap and why it distorts how we see other people’s journeys.
• Questions to ask yourself when someone else's success triggers comparison.
• The hidden sacrifices and personal work that often sit behind visible success.
• Practical ways to shift from jealousy to curiosity and inspiration.
• Why your mindset about others’ success can either hold you back or move you forward.
• How getting support, such as a mindset coach, can help you break out of negative thought patterns.
• The powerful question to ask when a negative thought about someone else pops up.

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