We’ve all done it. One good date and suddenly you’re imagining the wedding playlist. In this episode of Guyset, I break down what I call the Ted Mosby Syndrome, when your expectations race ahead of reality and set you up for disappointment.

I talk about why so many of us build storylines around people we barely know, how that pressure kills real chemistry, and what it actually means to hold high expectations, loosely. Building on my last episode about how to approach someone at a bar, I share practical advice for handling early dating, managing expectations, and keeping your confidence intact.

The biggest mindset shift: Don’t tie your self-worth to someone else’s approval. When you stop chasing potential and start focusing on reality, dating gets easier, more fun, and a lot more honest.

If you’ve ever felt let down after a first date or caught yourself overanalyzing every text, this episode will help you approach dating with clarity, confidence, and calm.

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In this episode, I’m breaking down one of the biggest questions guys in their twenties ask: how to talk to girls at a bar without being awkward.

Walking up to a girl at a bar can feel awkward. You start overthinking, psych yourself out, and end up doing nothing. I’ve been there. We've all been there.

I share the three-step framework that helped me stop overthinking and actually start conversations that feel natural. I talk about how to give a real compliment, what to say next, and when to ask for her number.

More than that, I get into mindset of how to stop assuming you’ll get rejected, how to carry yourself with confidence, and why rejection doesn’t define you.

If you’ve ever stood across the room thinking, “I should say something” but didn’t, this episode is for you. It’s about confidence, connection, and getting out of your own way, because you either know or you never know.

Listen if you want to learn:

• How to talk to girls at a bar with confidence
• What to say when you walk up
• Real dating advice for guys in their twenties
• How to handle rejection without losing confidence

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I used to walk into the gym and feel completely out of place. Everyone seemed to know exactly what they were doing, and I was stuck in the corner wondering how to even start. In this episode, I talk about what it’s really like to deal with gym anxiety, imposter syndrome, and that fear of looking clueless.

This episode tackles the universal experience of "gym imposter syndrome" that most men face but rarely discuss. I reveal exactly how I broke through mental barriers by taking each challenge one movement at a time - a practical approach that transformed not just my fitness journey, but my entire mindset toward obstacles.

I share how I went from hiding in my own little space at the gym to finally building the confidence to move around, ask for help, and try new workouts. It wasn’t easy—I psyched myself out for months—but learning to break things down one rep at a time changed everything.

And this isn’t just about lifting weights. The same mindset applies to life, work, and relationships. Just because you’ve done something once doesn’t mean it’ll always be easy. But if you take it step by step, you’ll realize you’re capable of more than you thought.

In this episode, I get into:

• My experience with imposter syndrome at the gym
• Why nobody is actually paying attention to you when you’re working out
• How finding a starting place gave me confidence
• Why breaking big challenges into small steps makes them manageable
• How showing up consistently builds strength in and out of the gym

Whether you're struggling with gym anxiety or facing any overwhelming challenge, this episode offers actionable strategies for pushing past self-imposed limitations and discovering what you're truly capable of.

In this candid conversation, 22-year-old American tennis pro Zach Svajda shares his extraordinary journey from starting tennis at age 2 to facing Novak Djokovic on Arthur Ashe Stadium at the US Open. Discover the untold reality of professional tennis as Svajda details his rigorous training regimen (70% focused on leg strength), the grueling 35-week travel schedule that spans the globe, and what it really takes to compete at tennis's highest level.

Svajda offers rare insights into his mental approach to the sport, explaining how he manages pressure in crucial moments and bounces back from disappointments by reminding himself "it's just hitting a yellow ball over a net." He shares the exhilarating experience of winning the first set against Djokovic in their US Open clash and the valuable advice he received from the tennis legend about keeping all aspects of life in balance.

From his pre-match routines to his post-match practices (yes, even after wins), this conversation reveals the dedication required to succeed professionally in a passion-driven career. Whether you're a tennis enthusiast or seeking motivation to pursue your own dreams, Svajda's wisdom about maintaining balance, embracing discipline, and finding joy in the journey offers valuable lessons for anyone chasing greatness.

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Welcome back to another Ask Me Anything episode where I tackle the real questions guys are actually thinking about, wondering, and asking but don't know where to find answers to.

This episode covers 10 questions that make you feel like you should already know the answer but have no idea where to find. Every single question I answer here, I've personally wondered about and felt weird for thinking. These types of questions are exactly why I started Guyset in the first place.

Questions I Answer in This Episode:

• [4:55] When should I text her after getting her number at the bar?
• [7:13] How often do you drink?
• [11:52] What's the best way for girls to flirt with guys?
• [14:09] How do I tell my friend he smells?
• [16:27] How should I feel about my girlfriend reading smut?
• [20:50] How can I sound more confident instead of insecure?
• [25:36] When's the last time you cried?
• [26:45] How do I know if this is "it" with a girl?
• [29:50] What are little things to show your girl you care?

These aren't definitive answers in the sense of answers but they're my honest perspectives based on experience, mistakes, and what I've learned. I hope they make you feel less alone in wondering about these things and less weird for not already knowing the answers.

I'm also thrilled to announce that guyset.com is officially live after months of development! It's now a complete resource hub with weekly blog posts, dating advice, confidence tips, and perspectives on all the uncomfortable topics we need to talk about but usually avoid.

If you have questions you want me to tackle anonymously, head to guyset.com and click "Ask Me Anything." These episodes are my favorite to record because they address the topics that should be talked about but usually aren't.

Thanks for listening to Guyset - A Guy's Guide to What Should Be Talked About. New episodes every Tuesday with real advice for real situations guys face.

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If you're feeling completely lost in your twenties right now, this episode is for you. I saw this guy's TikTok about feeling directionless at 25, and it hit me so hard because I've been feeling the exact same way. So I wanted to share something that's been helping me navigate this weird post-grad phase we're all going through.

What I'll Share With You:

• The "Rule of Thirds" that changed how I think about my bad days (spoiler: you're only supposed to feel good 1/3 of the time)
• Why ages 22-28 feel so freaking weird and why that's totally normal
• How I've started categorizing my days to stop spiraling when things feel off
• Why we as guys never talk about this stuff (and why I think we should)
• My strategies for getting out of my own head when I'm overthinking everything

What Inspired This Episode:

• A viral TikTok from a 25-year-old guy who perfectly captured how I've been feeling
• The best advice from Emma Grede (Shark Tank) that applies perfectly to life transitions
• Keke Palmer's wisdom about life's ups and downs
• My own recent struggle with feeling like everyone else has it more figured out than I do

This Episode Is For You If:

✓ You're a recent college grad feeling completely directionless

✓ You're in your 20s wondering what the hell you're supposed to be doing

✓ You feel like you're the only one struggling while everyone else seems fine

✓ You're tired of pretending you have it all together

Topics I Cover: post-grad depression, quarter-life crisis, men's mental health, life transitions, twenties anxiety, career confusion, relationship uncertainty, personal growth, getting out of your head

I get really honest about my own bad days, my tendency to overthink things, and how I've been dealing with the pressure to have my life figured out by 25. This isn't me pretending I have all the answers, it's just me sharing what's actually helping me get through this weird time.

New episodes every Tuesday covering what we actually need to talk about as guys in our twenties.

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This week's episode is all about how to actually restart and build momentum again when everything feels completely scattered and you've been stuck in a cycle of bad habits.

After moving to a new apartment and completely losing my routine, I've been struggling with all the habits that used to make me feel good: going to the gym consistently, eating well, journaling, and staying off my phone before bed.

If you've ever felt like you've lost your momentum or can't seem to get back into the swing of things, this episode is for you. I share my honest experience of falling back into bad habits like scrolling until I fall asleep and snoozing my alarm 17 times, plus the overwhelming feeling of having stuff everywhere and not knowing where to start.

What I breakdown:

• Why starting over feels so much harder than you expect (even after just a few days off)
• The physical and mental reality of rebuilding routines from scratch
• 5 practical ways to start again when you're feeling stuck
• How to shift from focusing on what you didn't do to celebrating what you did
• Why consistency matters more than perfection when rebuilding habits

The 6 ways to start again:

1. Make a list of what you DID do (instead of dwelling on what you didn't)
2. Choose 2-3 things you actually want to do and will enjoy
3. Call someone - your mom, dad, friend, or whoever will make you feel connected
4. Add something completely new to try (this is your "start" moment)
5. Bring back one thing you used to love but dropped (this is your "again" moment)
6. Go outside and take a walk

Whether you're dealing with a recent move, coming out of summer mode, or just feeling generally off your game, this episode offers real talk about the struggle and actionable steps to get back to feeling like yourself. Perfect timing for anyone looking to reset as we head into fall.

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