"It's okay to be a griever."

In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, sits down with Monette Hopkins, a graduate of Forever Changed and Processing the Pain of Grief, to share an honest conversation about what healing can look like after unimaginable loss.

Monette has experienced the deaths of her husband, three children, and several other loved ones. When she first met Sharon, the weight of her grief was so overwhelming that she could barely speak in complete sentences.

Today, she shares how grief work helped her find hope, peace, laughter, and the courage to keep living.

Together, Sharon and Monette talk about the power of brain dumps, why healing takes time, the importance of boundaries, and how telling the truth about your grief can change everything.

This episode is a beautiful reminder that healing doesn't mean forgetting the people you love.

It means learning how to carry their love without carrying the unbearable weight of unprocessed grief.

Because no matter how deep your pain feels...

There is still hope.

• Why it's okay to be a griever
• How brain dumps help process overwhelming emotions
• Why grief healing looks different for everyone
• The importance of honesty during the healing process
• How boundaries support emotional healing
• Why laughter can exist alongside grief
• How community helps us heal
• What happens when you finally begin processing years of unresolved pain

What have I been carrying that I've never put into words?

Am I giving myself permission to grieve honestly?

Who has been walking alongside me in my grief?

What would it look like to tell the truth about my pain?

Take a journal and spend ten minutes doing a brain dump.

Write whatever comes to mind without editing, judging, or organizing your thoughts.

Then ask yourself:

"What is my heart trying to tell me that my mind has been avoiding?"

Because sometimes healing begins the moment we stop holding everything inside.

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Because your grief deserves to be heard.

And you never have to walk through it alone.

"What if the problem was never that you weren't enough?"

In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, sits down with licensed professional counselor, trauma specialist, speaker, and co-author Dawna Daigneault for a powerful conversation about self-worth, grief, and the stories we carry about ourselves.

Because grief doesn't just break your heart.

Sometimes it breaks the way you see yourself.

After a significant loss, many grievers find themselves asking questions they never expected:

Who am I now?

Why do I feel invisible?

Why do I feel abandoned?

Why do I suddenly feel like I'm not enough?

Dawna introduces the concept of birthright self-worth—the idea that your worth was never something you had to earn. It was yours from the moment you arrived in this world.

Together, Sharon and Dawna explore how family systems, childhood experiences, trauma, grief, shame, and relationships shape the way we view ourselves. They discuss why so many people spend their lives chasing worth through achievement, productivity, appearance, or success, while never realizing the worth they were searching for was already there.

This episode is a deep and healing conversation about what happens when grief uncovers old wounds, why loss often triggers questions about identity and value, and how learning to reconnect with your worth can change everything.

Because sometimes grief isn't just about missing the person.

Sometimes it's about rediscovering yourself.

• What "birthright self-worth" actually means
• Why worth is different from self-esteem and confidence
• How grief can trigger questions about identity and value
• The connection between childhood experiences and self-worth
• Why achievement, success, and productivity often become substitutes for worth
• How shame impacts the way we see ourselves
• The relationship between trauma and self-worth
• Why comparison keeps people stuck
• The difference between authentic worth and ego
• How healing begins when you reconnect with your value

When did I first begin questioning my worth?

What experiences taught me that I had to earn love, acceptance, or belonging?

Do I tie my worth to achievement, productivity, appearance, or relationships?

What parts of myself have I been trying to prove?

What would change if I truly believed I was worthy simply because I exist?

Take a piece of paper and answer this question:

"What makes me believe I am enough?"

Then answer a second question:

"Who taught me that I wasn't?"

Write without judgment.

Write without editing.

Just tell the truth.

Because sometimes healing begins when we stop trying to earn our worth and start remembering we already have it.

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Because grief may shake your world.

But it does not get to decide your value.

You were worthy before the loss.

You are worthy during the grief.

And you will still be worthy on the other side of it.

"Time doesn't heal grief. It just passes."

In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, takes on some of the biggest grief myths we've all heard—and tells the truth about why they're keeping grievers stuck.

"Just give it time."

"Grief comes in waves."

"You're never supposed to let go of the pain."

"Grief is a roller coaster."

We hear these phrases all the time. They're repeated at funerals, shared by friends, posted online, and passed from one griever to another.

But are they actually helping?

Or are they keeping people trapped in survival mode?

In this powerful episode, Sharon breaks down the hidden messages behind common grief advice and explains why healing requires more than simply waiting for time to pass.

She explores why so many grievers believe holding onto pain is the same as holding onto their person, why grief keeps showing up in waves, and what it really means to process loss instead of avoiding it.

This episode is a reminder that grief is not something time fixes.

It's something we learn to move through.

Because healing doesn't happen by accident.

It happens when we stop waiting and start doing the work.

• Why "just give it time" is some of the most misunderstood grief advice
• What time actually does—and doesn't do—for grief
• Why looking better is not the same as healing
• The truth about holding onto pain after loss
• Why many grievers fear letting go of their suffering
• What it means when grief comes in waves
• The difference between surviving grief and processing grief
• Why grief feels like a roller coaster—and how to step off
• How unprocessed grief continues to resurface
• Why healing requires action, not just time

What am I waiting for time to fix?

Am I healing my grief or simply learning how to hide it?

What pain am I afraid to let go of?

What emotions keep showing up over and over again?

What would change if I stopped waiting and started processing?

Take out a piece of paper and answer this question:

"What am I hoping time will do for me?"

Write down every answer that comes up.

Then ask yourself:

"What if time isn't the thing that's supposed to heal this?"

Because healing doesn't happen because enough days pass.

Healing happens when you become willing to face the pain that's asking for your attention.

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Because time is not coming to save you.

But that doesn't mean you're stuck.

It means the power to heal has been inside you all along.

And there is a way forward.