What do men really need to feel safe in a relationship? In this episode from Grace & Truth Talks, the conversation gets real about growth, humility, leadership, and the often-overlooked ability to submit when your partner is stronger than you in certain areas. This is a powerful and necessary discussion for anyone pursuing healthy love and purposeful partnership.

The guys break down one of the most missing elements in modern relationships: growth, not just physical attraction, humility, or family values, but the intentional decision to evolve together. They explore how powerful it is when two people choose each other not just where they are, but where they’re going.

You’ll hear honest stories about:

• Submitting ego when your partner is better in certain areas
• Creating financial plans as a team
• Why accountability and humility matter
• The beauty of a woman who leads with elegance, wisdom, and presence
• The struggle many couples face when it comes to saying “I’m sorry” and taking responsibility

The conversation is open, raw, and real, touching on the ego of men, the accountability blind spots of women, and the importance of introspection, spiritual character, and emotional maturity in relationships today. If you’ve ever wondered why great relationships fall apart, or what keeps strong couples growing together, this clip hits home.

Everybody asks women what they want in a man, but this time, the fellas got the mic. In this raw and mature Grace & Truth episode, Pastor James sat down with three single men to have an honest conversation about what marriage-minded men actually look for in a wife, beyond looks, status or social media trends.

They talk humility, emotional safety, growth and how ego, pride, and timing shape the way men love and lead. It’s real, relevant and necessary. In this episode:

• The balance between strength, softness & submission

• How ego and pride affect love & leadership

• Emotional safety: why men shut down or open up

• Right woman, wrong season — when timing matters

• Modesty, femininity & what actually draws a godly man

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On this episode of Grace & Truth, we are getting real about the difference between infatuation and mature, sacrificial love. We discuss why so many of us get stuck in relationships that move in circles rather than spiraling upward, and why "potential" is the most dangerous thing to fall in love with. Pastor James and Pastor Tiff share the blueprint for spotting "fruit" in a partner—looking past the material things to see character, discipline, and purpose.

In this episode:

• The Reality Check: Why 85% of people who get into toxicity never come out of it.
• The Safety of Real Love: Why feeling emotionally safe is the ultimate indicator that you are with the right person.
• Financial & Emotional Red Flags: How selfishness shows up in small ways (like eating alone in the car!) and what it says about a person's character.
• The Law of Investment: Why you cannot reap a harvest where you haven't sown, but you must ensure the ground is fertile first.
• The final, liberating realization you must have: You must stop trusting God for the relationship and start trusting God with you and your future.

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For the single person or the grieving heart, the holidays can feel like a minefield of memories and expectations. In this segment, we discuss why you don't have to "perform" happiness this season.

Courtney Truitt, a Certified Trauma-Informed Grief Coach, joins Pastor Tiff to share actionable advice on setting holiday boundaries—including why you should always drive your own car to events so you can leave when you need to. She also explains the difference between "wallowing" and "sitting in the pain", and how to honor loved ones with new traditions rather than trying to recreate the past.

In this episode:

• Exit Strategies: Practical boundaries for attending holiday events.
• Understanding Triggers: How to spot when you are becoming irritable due to suppressed grief.
• Reclaiming Joy: How to stop identifying solely as a "griever" and start finding peace again.
• New Traditions: Why you should create new rituals (like the "red truck" ornament) instead of forcing old ones.

We talked about creating new traditions instead of forcing old ones. What is one small way you are honoring a loved one this holiday season? Let us know in the comments! Available now on all podcast platforms.

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What if "falling out of love" isn't something that happens to you? What if it's a choice?

In this profound and powerful "aha" moment, Pastors James and Tiffaney expose the real reason relationships grow cold.

In this video, you will discover:

• The powerful reframe: "Falling out of love" is actually "falling into selfishness."
• How silence and internalization become the biggest enemy of your relationship.
• The #1 sign you've started choosing yourself over your union.
• Why you're really mad (and it's probably not what you think they did).

Comment below: Have you ever been "mad at the scenario in your head"? Share your 'aha' moment with us.

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In relationships, it is easy to fall in love with who someone could be, rather than who they actually are right now. But how do you tell the difference between a partner who is building a future and one who is just wasting your time?

In this touching and transformative conversation, Pastor Tiffaney opens up about the early days of her relationship with Pastor James. She shares why she felt completely safe with him, even when he was driving a 1993 Nissan Sentra and rebuilding his life after prison. She didn't look at his bank account; she looked at his character and how he treated her.

Pastor James drops a powerful truth about the law of "Seed time and harvest time" in love. This video will teach you how to inspect the "fruit" of a person’s life so you don't spend years sowing your heart into laziness, pride, or rebellion.

In this video, you will learn:

- The "Safety" Signal: Why feeling emotionally safe and heard is more valuable than material wealth.

- Potential vs. Purpose: How to identify if someone has truly found their purpose or if they are selling you a dream.

- The "Seed" Rule: Why you must stop nurturing deficits in people who refuse to grow.

- True Vulnerability: The power of being 100% your authentic self with your partner.

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So many women say they want a Godly man, but when the wait feels long, the boundaries start to blur. In this powerful episode, Pastor Tiffaney sits down with Carin Pinto, founder of Philly Connect®, for a raw, honest conversation on femininity, boundaries, submission, and faith in dating.

They discuss what it means to stay soft in a hard world, how to lead as a woman without losing your femininity, and why submission starts with God, not a man. From identity and independence to desperation and discernment, this one’s for every woman learning how to balance strength and softness.

In this episode:

• When waiting turns into settling, and how to stop it

• Why femininity isn’t about appearance, it’s about heart posture

• Leadership as a woman without losing softness

• Boundaries, standards, and the pressure to compromise

• Submission to God vs. submission to men

• How to date as a spiritually mature woman

• Grace, fear, and knowing when it’s time to walk away

Watch now and share with a woman who needs this conversation.

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When a relationship is on the brink, the confusion can be as painful as the heartbreak. What does "separation" really mean? Is it a "pause for purification," a chance to heal and rebuild? Or is it just a "pathway for permanent division," a slow walk to a painful end?

In this incredibly raw and necessary episode, Pastors James and Tiffany go beyond the surface-level advice to navigate the painful realities of breakups, separation, and divorce. This is a must-watch conversation for anyone caught in the "in-between"—wondering whether to fight for it or finally face that it's time to let go.

In this episode, you will discover:

The 2 Definitions of Separation

Is It Healthy to Separate in a Marriage?

"Did God Put It Together?

The Painful Reason You Can't Let Go

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