We can get so caught up in the little things that we completely miss the bigger picture.

I'm joined by Avery Reeves for a conversation that goes everywhere from church culture and spiritual maturity to the Holy Spirit, serving others, and figuring out what actually matters.

Are we making following Jesus more complicated than it needs to be? Are we really serving God, or have we made some of this about ourselves? And why do we give Satan credit for things that might just be poor decisions?

We get into all of it.

Fair warning: technology got the best of us, and we lost the last 27 minutes of our original conversation. But what survived was worth sharing.

Much love to Avery (@theekingsson) and his ministry, Gr8er.

God Is Laughing at Us. Y'all enjoy.

There's being right, and then there's needing everybody else to know you're right. And apparently, an MJ vs. LeBron debate is still capable of bringing that out of me.

In this episode, we're talking about what happens when proving our point becomes more important than the conversation itself. I've had to recognize that sometimes I can be right about the details and still be wrong in how I handle things.

But protecting your peace doesn't mean avoiding every disagreement, either. Sometimes you need to leave a conversation alone, and sometimes you need to have the uncomfortable conversation you've been putting off.

So how do we know the difference? And when did being right become something we feel like we have to win?

Apparently there’s a growing list of things you’re not supposed to do “as a man.”

Stand on your tiptoes. Use an umbrella. Blow on hot food. Vent to your friends.

…according to who?

What starts as internet foolishness turns into a bigger conversation about how easily preference becomes principle—and how quickly somebody else’s standard can start sounding like truth.

We do it online. We do it culturally. Sometimes we even do it in church.

In this episode, I’m looking at the standards we accept without questioning where they came from, what actually defines manhood, and what happens when those standards don’t even hold up against the example of Jesus.

Romans 12 gets into conformity. Jesus washes His disciples’ feet. Jesus weeps. And somewhere in all of that is a pretty simple question:

If Jesus doesn’t pass the “as a man” check, how good is the check?

Scripture: Romans 12:2 • John 13:3–5 • John 11:35

Some things matter without deserving the weight we give them.

In this episode, Anthony reflects on the battles we choose, the convictions we elevate, marriage, other people’s walks, and the difference between what matters and what Jesus called the “weightier matters.”

The question isn’t always, Does this matter? Sometimes it’s, How much weight should this actually carry?

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Some things matter. They just don’t all carry the same weight.

Fresh off Man Camp, Anthony starts thinking about battles, side quests, convictions, marriage, other people’s walks, and all the things we can give more attention than God ever asked us to.

Using Jesus’ words about the “weightier matters” in Matthew 23 as the thread, this episode asks a different question: not simply does this matter? but how much should this matter compared to what God has actually assigned me?

Along the way: church clothes, orange juice pulp, financial provision in marriage, purity conversations, forgiveness, Instagram bios, making faces at the camera, and the reminder that being made for war doesn’t mean you’re assigned to every battle.

Scripture referenced: Matthew 23:23–24, Romans 8:28, 1 Corinthians 13

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What happens when you’re convinced it’s time to move on, and God seems to be saying, “Not yet”?

Anthony sits down with longtime friend Whitney Brown for the kind of conversation that only comes from more than 20 years of history. Whitney shares how a demanding season at work had him exhausted and ready to leave, only for a raise, an unexpected conversation about succession, and some suspiciously perfect timing to make him reconsider what God might already be doing.

That opens the door to Anthony’s own experience of wanting out, realizing his frustration was following him home, and learning the difference between being grateful for God’s provision, and pretending a difficult situation doesn’t bother you.

From there, the conversation goes where conversations between old friends go. Patience, perspective, leadership, boundaries, the Golden Rule, “habitual line steppers,” serving the church without making church inaccessible, fatherhood, rest, and the All-Pro brotherhood that has kept the same group of Xavier friends connected for more than two decades.

Somewhere in all of it is Proverbs 19:21. We can make all the plans we want, but God still gets the final word.

Anthony opens an old draft of the God Is Laughing at Us book and finds a prediction that aged terribly:

“I’m sure this will publish before I’m actually 40.”

He’s 40 now.

Still no book.

In Wow… Job’s Not Finished, Anthony wrestles with what happens when you’re good at starting, good at staying busy, and maybe even genuinely productive—but the thing you know you’re supposed to finish keeps getting pushed behind the next fresh idea.

From an unfinished tower in Luke 14 to getting completely distracted by side missions in Grand Theft Auto, the conversation turns into a bigger question: Have you misunderstood the assignment, or have you simply stopped touching it?

But this isn’t “finish everything you’ve ever started.” Some things should be released. Some things were seasonal. The real question is: What was the charge when you started?

Anthony gets into multitasking, the pull of new ideas, trackable progress, urgency without rushing, being fruitful instead of merely productive, and the surprising possibility that some of the things that looked like delays may have also been preparing him to finish.

And eventually, the episode moves beyond discipline into trust.

Because when the assignment is no longer fresh, exciting, or easy, continuing may reveal how much you trust the One who gave it to you.

With Grand Theft Auto, Kobe Bryant, Luke 14, Romans 8:28, Hebrews 12, Philippians 1:6, and an uncomfortable amount of self-awareness, this episode is about recognizing what still needs to be finished—and trusting God enough to keep moving it forward.

Scripture referenced:
Luke 14:28–30
Romans 8:28
Hebrews 12:1–2
Philippians 1:6

Let’s just start here: life’s been lifing. When everything hits you from every direction, it’s incredibly easy to slip into full "Martha mode" and just try to manage the chaos. But when the dust finally settled for me recently, I had to admit something—the closeness I usually feel with God had quietly slipped away.

It made me think of that classic Commissioned track, I Am Here. I realized I was essentially insisting on loving Him from a distance. The truth is, God didn't change His location; my own busyness was just creating resistance.

Join me for an honest conversation on how simple praise is the ultimate pattern-interrupt for an anxious mind. It’s how we get out of our own heads, drop the resistance, and just draw near again.

I’m finally back after a longer-than-planned break! In this episode, I’m sharing a story that’s equal parts funny, honest, and probably a little uncomfortably relatable. Pride has a way of making ordinary life feel like a solo mission, doesn't it? I’ll tell you how a chaotic attempt to move a refrigerator into my new house, a leadership conference, and 1 Samuel 15:17 all combined into one sharp reminder: the moment you stop trying to be the hero, everything starts working better. It’s a tough lesson about ego, control, and why growth often requires us to step back before God can step in.