Episode 43

Why Am I Comparing Myself to Everyone Else?

Finding Your Identity in Christ Instead of the World's Standards

Have you ever scrolled through social media and suddenly felt like your life wasn't enough?

Maybe someone else's marriage looked happier... their ministry seemed bigger... their family looked perfect... or their success made you question your own worth.

Comparison has a way of stealing our joy before we even realize it's happening.

In this heartfelt episode of Girls Can Pray Too, Kara and Misty explore one of the enemy's most subtle tactics—comparison—and how it quietly robs us of gratitude, contentment, and confidence in God's purpose for our lives.

Together they discuss:

✨ Why comparison steals our joy

✨ How jealousy begins in the heart

✨ Why God never called you to become someone else

✨ How contentment is learned through Christ

✨ Finding your identity in Jesus instead of the opinions of people

If you've ever felt like you don't measure up...

If you've ever wondered why everyone else seems farther ahead...

Or if you've forgotten just how valuable you are to God...

This conversation is for you.

Key Scriptures (KJV)

• Galatians 6:4–5

• James 3:16

• Philippians 4:11–13

• Psalm 139:13–14

Stop comparing.

Start trusting.

The God who created you has never made a mistake.

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🎙 EPISODE 42C: AFTER PRAYER

Would the Holy Spirit Talk to Me Like That?

Testing the Voices You Listen To

A thought enters your mind:

“God is disappointed in you.”

“You’ve messed up too many times.”

“If you were really a Christian, you wouldn’t struggle like this.”

But here’s the question…

Would the Holy Spirit actually talk to you like that?

Not every thought deserves your agreement—and not every spiritual-sounding thought comes from God.

In this After Prayer companion to Episode 42, Kara and Misty continue the conversation about conviction, condemnation, and learning to recognize the voice of the Good Shepherd.

We’re getting practical about how to test what you’re hearing.

✨ Does it agree with Scripture?

✨ Does it sound like the character of Jesus?

✨ Is it specific conviction—or vague accusation?

✨ Does it lead you toward repentance and restoration—or shame and hopelessness?

✨ Are you hearing God's truth… or your own fear, insecurity, past wounds, or the lies of the enemy?

The Holy Spirit will correct you.

He may reveal sin.

He may challenge you.

He may tell you something needs to change.

But He doesn't have to destroy your identity to correct your behavior.

Conviction says: “This needs to change. Come to Me.”

Condemnation says: “You'll never change. Stay away.”

There is a difference.

And the more you know God's Word, the easier it becomes to recognize when something doesn't sound like your Shepherd.

📖 Key Scriptures (KJV):

John 10:27 • 1 John 4:1 • Romans 8:1 • John 16:13 • Philippians 4:8

❤️ Your challenge:

The next time a condemning thought enters your mind, don't automatically agree with it.

Stop.

Test it against Scripture.

And ask:

“Would the Holy Spirit talk to me like that?”

You don't have to believe every voice competing for your attention.

Learn the Shepherd's voice. Know His Word. Test everything. Follow Him.

🙏 God loves you.

❤️ We love you.

🎙️ And Girls Can Pray Too.

🎙EPISODE 42

Is It Conviction… or Is It Guilt?

You messed up. You prayed. You repented.

So why do you still feel guilty?

Is that heavy feeling the Holy Spirit convicting you… or is it condemnation trying to convince you that God is disappointed in you?

Because conviction and condemnation may both make us uncomfortable—but they do not lead us to the same place.

❤️ Conviction says: “Come back to Me.”

💔 Condemnation says: “You’ll never be good enough.”

In this episode, Kara and Misty talk about how to recognize the difference between the loving conviction of the Holy Spirit and the accusing voice that keeps us trapped in guilt and shame.

We’re digging into:

✨ How to recognize the voice of the Good Shepherd

✨ Why conviction draws you toward Jesus

✨ How condemnation keeps you stuck in your past

✨ Why Satan is called “the accuser”

✨ How to test your thoughts against Scripture

✨ What to do when guilt remains after you’ve already repented

Maybe you’ve been carrying something Jesus already forgave.

Maybe you’ve mistaken shame for God’s voice.

Or maybe the Holy Spirit really is dealing with your heart—and lovingly calling you closer.

📖 Key Scriptures (KJV): Romans 8:1 • John 10:27–28 • Revelation 12:10 • 1 John 1:9

“There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus…” — Romans 8:1 KJV

🎧 NEXT: Episode 42C — After Prayer

Would the Holy Spirit Talk to Me Like That?

🙏 God loves you.

❤️ We love you.

🎙️ And Girls Can Pray Too.

🎙️ Episode 41C — Companion Episode

Church People Get on My Nerves… Now What?

Loving Difficult Christians Without Losing Your Peace

The lesson is over. The prayer has been prayed.

Now… what does this actually look like in real life?

In Episode 41, I Love Jesus… But I Don’t Like Church People, we talked about church hurt, forgiveness, boundaries, and Jesus’ command to love one another.

But what about the Christian who hasn’t necessarily deeply wounded you…

They just get on your last nerve? 😅

The one who always has an opinion.

The one whose personality rubs you the wrong way.

The one you see across the sanctuary and suddenly think, “Lord, You said love my neighbor… You didn’t say I had to sit beside her.”

Welcome to the Companion Episode—the conversation after the lesson and prayer.

Kara and Misty are back at the table talking honestly about what loving difficult Christians looks like when faith meets Monday morning.

We’re getting practical about:

❤️ Loving someone without pretending they're your best friend

❤️ The difference between someone who irritates you and someone who is actually harming you

❤️ Forgiveness, trust, and healthy boundaries

❤️ Knowing when to let something go—and when something needs to be addressed

❤️ Praying before you react

❤️ Why you don't have to win every argument

❤️ The uncomfortable possibility that we might be somebody else's difficult church person

And one question may hit closer to home than all the others:

When difficult people encounter me… do they encounter Jesus too?

Church is full of imperfect people—including us.

We're going to misunderstand each other. We'll need grace. We'll need forgiveness. Sometimes we'll need boundaries. And sometimes we'll need the humility to simply say:

“I was wrong.”

But whatever happens…

Don't let imperfect Christians make you walk away from a perfect Christ.

☕ Pull up a chair and join us for the conversation after the prayer.

🎧 Girls Can Pray Too — where faith meets real life, and no conversation is off limits.

🎙️ Episode 41: I Love Jesus… But I Don’t Like Church People

When Loving Your Neighbor Gets Complicated

You love Jesus. You believe in His Word. You want to follow Him.

But sometimes… church people make it hard.

Maybe you’ve been judged, gossiped about, excluded, embarrassed, or hurt by the very people who were supposed to show you the love of Christ. Maybe you’ve even caught yourself thinking:

“I love Jesus… I just don’t like church people.”

We get it. But Jesus never told us to love only the people who are easy to love.

In Episode 41 of Girls Can Pray Too, Kara and Misty have an honest conversation about church hurt, difficult Christians, forgiveness, boundaries, hypocrisy, and what it actually means to love your neighbor when your neighbor gets on your last nerve.

📖 “By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another.” — John 13:35 KJV

In this episode, we’re talking about:

✨ Why church hurt can cut so deeply

✨ The difference between loving someone and trusting them

✨ Why healthy boundaries aren’t the same as bitterness

✨ What to do when Christians don’t act very Christlike

✨ Examining our own hearts before pointing at someone else

✨ How Jesus calls us to love without pretending the hurt didn’t happen

✨ Why imperfect church people still need grace — including us

Heart Check: What if the church person somebody is struggling to love… is me?

You don’t have to pretend people haven’t hurt you. You don’t have to call unhealthy behavior acceptable. But you also don’t have to let someone else’s behavior build a wall between you and Jesus.

Church people will disappoint you.

Jesus won’t.

Come pray, talk, and grow with us as we ask God to teach us how to love people the way Christ loves us — even when loving our neighbor gets complicated.

🎧 Girls Can Pray Too — where faith meets real life, and no conversation is off limits.

🎧 EPISODE 40C: I FORGAVE THEM… SO WHY DOES IT STILL HURT?

You forgave them.

You prayed about it.

You gave it to God.

You decided you weren't going to hold it against them anymore.

So why does it still hurt?

Sometimes we think forgiveness is supposed to erase the pain. We expect that once we've forgiven someone, the memories won't sting anymore, the anger will disappear, and we'll immediately feel free.

But what happens when you genuinely forgive... and your heart is still healing?

In this companion episode of Girls Can Pray Too, Kara and Misty continue the conversation on forgiveness and talk about something many Christians struggle to admit:

Forgiveness and healing aren't always the same thing.

We'll talk about the difference between forgiveness, reconciliation, trust, and access—and why forgiving someone doesn't necessarily mean pretending nothing happened.

We'll also discuss what it looks like to keep bringing the wound to Jesus when you've already made the decision to forgive.

If you've ever wondered...

Did I really forgive them if I'm still hurting?

This episode is for you.

You don't have to keep rehearsing the offense.

But you also don't have to fake being healed.

Forgiveness can happen in a moment. Healing may take time. And Jesus can meet you in both.

📖 Scripture: Ephesians 4:31–32 • Colossians 3:13 • Matthew 6:14–15 • Psalm 147:3 KJV

🎙️ Girls Can Pray Too — Where faith meets real life, and no conversation is off limits.

God loves you. We love you. And Girls Can Pray Too.

🎙️ GIRLS CAN PRAY TOO — Episode 40

Why Can't I Let It Go?

When Forgiveness Feels Impossible

You prayed about it. You tried to move on. You told yourself you forgave them… so why does it still hurt?

Forgiveness can be one of the hardest things God asks us to do—especially when the apology never came, the damage was real, or the person who hurt us seems completely unaffected.

In Episode 40, Kara and Misty talk about what biblical forgiveness really means, what it doesn't mean, and how we can begin releasing the hurt without pretending it never happened.

You may not be able to change what they did—but through Jesus, you don't have to stay chained to it.

✨ Where faith meets real life & no conversation is off limits. Let’s pray, talk & grow together.

Episode 39C: The Christian Nobody Knows (Companion Episode)

What happens after the microphone turns off?

In this companion episode, Kara and Misty go deeper into one of the most important questions every believer must answer:

Who am I when nobody is watching?

Real faith isn't built on applause. It's built in the quiet moments—when no one sees your prayers, your obedience, your repentance, or your sacrifices. God sees what the world never will, and He is far more interested in your private walk than your public image.

In this episode, we discuss:

✨ Why hidden obedience matters to God

✨ The danger of performing Christianity instead of living it

✨ How God prepares people in private before using them in public

✨ Practical ways to strengthen your walk with Christ every day

✨ Encouragement for believers who feel unseen, forgotten, or overlooked

Friend, if you've ever wondered whether your quiet faithfulness matters, the answer is yes. Every prayer whispered, every act of obedience, every sacrifice made for Christ is seen by your Heavenly Father.

Keep following Jesus—even when no one is applauding.

Key Scripture (KJV):

"But thou, when thou prayest, enter into thy closet... and thy Father which seeth in secret shall reward thee openly." — Matthew 6:6

Remember, your greatest ministry may be the one only God sees.

We love you, God loves you, & Girls Can Pray Too.