Do your children or grandchildren keep asking for money, or for their inheritance early? In this episode of Asset Protection Today, elder law attorney Bill Alexander explains why generosity toward family can backfire, and why well-meant asset protection moves often cause more problems than they solve.

Bill explains why most children are better off inheriting than receiving early gifts, especially for tax reasons, and why regular $10,000–$15,000 gifts can create expectations that strain family relationships. He covers why a loan to your child is usually really a gift, why an irrevocable trust can be a better gifting tool than cash, and how any gift made within five years of applying for Medicaid can count against you under the look-back period.

He also debunks a common myth: you don't have to be "dirt poor" to qualify for Medicaid nursing home care. Bill explains why irrevocable Medicaid asset protection trusts are rarely needed in North Carolina, and shares real cautionary stories: a couple who couldn't freely sell their own home after moving it into an irrevocable trust, a retired Medicaid caseworker who was better served by an enhanced durable power of attorney (and a full step-up in basis for her daughter) than by deeding part of her house, and a life estate deed that left a mother unable to pay for assisted living when one daughter refused to sign.

If you're thinking about gifting to family, protecting your home, or planning for long-term care costs, this episode offers practical guidance from one of North Carolina's most respected elder law attorneys.

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(1:03) Controlling Generosity with a "Chronic Borrower"
(3:33) When Gifts Make Sense (and the Problem with Recurring Gifts)
(5:40) Using Irrevocable Trusts Instead of Cash Gifts
(6:17) Why a Loan to Your Kids Is Really a Gift
(8:21) Seniors of Modest Means & the 5-Year Medicaid Look-Back
(9:59) Medicaid Myths: You Don't Have to Be Poor
(12:08) Irrevocable Medicaid Trusts: Why North Carolina Is Different
(15:03) Enhanced Power of Attorney vs. Deeding Your House
(19:09) Cautionary Tale: The Life Estate Deed Gone Wrong
(22:18) Lessons on Getting the Right Advice
(23:01) Recap, Contact Info & Free Webinars

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