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Wanting a bigger body is one of the most misunderstood desires in kink and the confusion usually starts with the vocabulary. I’m joined by James, a gainer and the voice behind the Thicc Radio podcast, to lay out what gaining and feedism actually mean, how people use terms like gainer, feeder, encourager, and admirer, and why these dynamics can be deeply intimate even when they have nothing to do with dominance and submission.

We also get honest about the parts people love to moralize: fatphobia, “health” as a dog-whistle, and the pressure gay culture puts on bodies through status, aesthetics, and belonging. James shares what it looks like to pursue size while still caring for your body, from boundaries and mobility to nutrition and hygiene, plus how GLP-1 drugs like Ozempic are reshaping the wider conversation around bears, body acceptance, and who feels “allowed” to stay big.

Along the way, we talk kink overlap with macrophilia and other size fantasies, how to find the gainer community without guessing or projecting onto strangers, and why James started a podcast to push back on clickbait media narratives. Then we shift into Ask Edge for a listener question about stepping into the Daddy role for the first time, with practical guidance on communication, leading by example, and supporting someone’s growth without running their life.

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• Find Thicc Radio on Instragram at @thiccradio or thiccradio.com or in your favorite podcast directory.
• Interested in Gaining? Check out Grommr, Feabie, and FantasyFeeder

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WARNING: THIS EPISODE CONTAINS SPOILERS FOR THE MOVIE AND SOME BRIEF DISCUSSION OF SEXUAL ASSAULT.

Pillion looks like a breakthrough for leather and BDSM visibility, then it dares you to ask an uncomfortable question: are we watching dominance and submission, or are we watching abuse filmed like romance? I walk through my reaction in real time, because I went in expecting a love letter to kink community and walked out increasingly horrified by what’s missing on screen: consent, negotiation, aftercare, affection, and anything that signals ethical power exchange.

We also talk about why the response is so divided. If you already know what healthy DS dynamics look like, you may be able to enjoy the film as fantasy and keep it safely in the realm of fiction. If you’re newer to leather, younger, or searching for a model of how kink “should” work, the same scenes can land as dangerous misinformation. Along the way I put the film next to earlier examples of queer representation that carried both erotic charge and harmful messaging, and I name the political stakes of seeing leather in public while parts of queer culture argue about erasing it from Pride.

Then we shift to Ask Edge: a listener shares a breakup rooted in a partner rejecting his interest in leather. I talk about the difference between “not my thing” and shame, the red flags that matter, and the real-world paths people take in erotically mismatched relationships, including polyamory, openness, and hard limits. If any of this hits close to home, subscribe, share the episode with someone who cares about consent culture, and leave a review. What did Pillion bring up for you?

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Leather can feel like a closed circle until someone hands you a map and reminds you that there’s more than one way to belong. We sit down with Graham Clark, an Australian leatherman who identifies as a daddy, to talk about his book Finding Your Leather Tribe and the real problem it solves: not just learning “how leather works,” but finding people who make your desires feel legible, welcome, and safe.

We dig into the idea of a second coming out, first as gay, then as leather or BDSM, and why that process can still be emotional even with endless information online. Graham shares how he collected coming out stories from leathermen around the world, what he looked for, and what made some stories too painful to revisit. We also talk about why international leather culture matters, where representation is growing, and where political reality and language barriers still make visibility harder.

Then we shift to the practical side: consent and negotiation as baseline skills, plus the nuts and bolts of building a living resource guide with bars, clubs, social groups, retailers, events, and apps. Graham explains how the website expands beyond the book and why community submissions are essential to keeping it accurate and truly global.

To close, Ask Edge tackles a challenging question about feederism and a weight gain fetish: how to work through shame, apply risk-aware consensual kink, protect health, and cope with a society that judges bodies harshly when a fetish is visible every day. If you’ve ever wondered how community changes what you can accept about yourself, this conversation goes there.

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Ask Edge! Go to https://www.speakpipe.com/LTHREDGE to leave ask a question or leave feedback. Find Edge's other content on Instagram and Twitter. Also visit his archive of educational videos, Tchick-Tchick.