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Flip Your Mindset

Flip Your Mindset

著者： Stacey Uhrig
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Having spent over four decades overcoming childhood adversities and helping others with my post-traumatic wisdom, I decided to change careers and pursue my purpose at the age of 49. I became a Certified in Trauma Recovery, Rapid Transformational Therapy Practitioner, and Parts Work soon after, I launched Flip Your Mindset, a podcast that serves as a no-cost entry point for those looking to resolve their own traumas. Through Flip Your Mindset™, my goal is to help listeners transform their perspectives and see their lives through a new lens. As a foul-mouthed, unapologetic Buddhist enthusiast, I'm not afraid to use colorful language to express my emotions, but I draw the line at any derogatory or dehumanizing language. Join me and let's explore new ways to overcome life's challenges and emerge stronger and more resilient than ever before. Thank you for listening.

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  • Ep 207: Trauma Filmmaker: Your Anxiety Diagnosis Is Just A Checklist, And They're PROFITING From It!

    Ep 207: Trauma Filmmaker: Your Anxiety Diagnosis Is Just A Checklist, And They're PROFITING From It!
    2026/10/19
    In his twenties, Ton Mazzone couldn’t get through a conversation without his mind going blank and his heart racing. He bought every confidence book he could find. Nothing worked. The only time he felt like himself was after a drink. So he did what so many of us do. He self-medicated, until that stopped working too.When he finally went to his doctor and asked for help, the appointment went the way so many of these appointments go. His symptoms were clustered into a diagnosis. Anxiety. Depression. Here’s the medication. He told me he left that room feeling even more broken than when he walked in, because the message underneath it was: you’re the problem, and this chemical is going to fix you.Nobody asked what had happened to him.It took Ton five more years to learn the word that changed everything: trauma. Not the big, one-off event he had always pictured, but the relational, developmental kind that stacks up quietly in a childhood that looks happy from the outside. Once he understood that, his whole belief flipped, from “I am broken” to “these are normal responses to abnormal experiences.”I felt that one in my bones, because it is my story too. I lived with anxiety for 30 years. I was told I had generalized anxiety disorder at 30, and with my grandmother’s history of shock treatment and lithium, I assumed it was simply my lot in life. When you get a label like that, you lose your agency. It took two breakdowns and a lot of learning before I understood that my nervous system had done exactly what it was designed to do.Ton turned his awakening into a film. Traumality took him four years, with no funding, no studio and no production company behind him. He reached out to more than a hundred of them and didn’t hear back from a single one. When he started, he didn’t even own a camera. The finished film features people every trauma practitioner I know studies and learns from, including Peter Levine, Deb Dana and Janina Fisher. It has since been screened for more than 100 healthcare professionals inside the very NHS that once handed him a prescription and sent him home.In this episode we go where the film goes, and yes, I got up on my soapbox. We talk about the DSM-5, the book often called the bible of psychiatry. As Ton puts it, mental health is the only field where they don’t scan the organ they’re treating. A diagnosis comes from a checklist of symptoms, and five different doctors can give you five different labels. Ton shares that roughly 60% of the people who wrote the DSM had funding from pharmaceutical companies. (A 2012 study in PLOS Medicine found that 69% of the DSM-5 task force reported ties to the pharmaceutical industry.) In his words: “I wouldn’t want to take the advice of somebody who’s profiting from the very thing that they’re diagnosing me from.”We also talk about why complex PTSD still isn’t in the DSM-5, even though the World Health Organization recognizes it, and how that gap leaves so many people carrying a label that never fit. And we talk about what a trauma-informed world could actually look like, from the belief systems we bring into a room, to Scotland’s trauma-informed experiment, to the way we parent.That last part matters to me more than almost anything. When a parent brings me a struggling child, I will very gently say, I won’t work with your child, but I will work with you. Not because anyone failed, but because so many of us are parenting with a playbook handed down by generations who were simply trying to survive. Our kids aren’t a collection of disorders. They learned brilliant adaptations.If you have ever been told something is wrong with you and quietly wondered whether there was more to the story, this conversation is for you. You are not broken. You adapted.Rent and stream Traumality here: https://traumality.comIf this conversation stirs something about your own patterns, my free HURRT Assessment (Healing Unresolved Roots of Trauma) maps how experiences before 18 may still be shaping you now:Take it here: https://www.flipyourmindset.com/hurrtPrefer to watch? The full video version is on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAQUNLlaDa262nD-iNvGHgFind Ton and Traumality on social media, where he shares every new screening.In this conversation: social anxiety and self-medicating, the appointment that left him more broken, discovering trauma five years later, why trauma isn’t always one big event, my own 30 years of anxiety, what the DSM-5 actually is, who writes it and who funds them, why complex PTSD isn’t in the DSM, bracing for pushback from psychiatry, the UK psychiatry apology, making a film with no funding, screening for NHS professionals, Scotland’s trauma-informed experiment, labels versus adaptations, and why it is so hard for parents to look at themselves.This conversation is for education and reflection, not medical advice. Please don’t start, stop or change any medication without talking to your doctor.New ...
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  • Ep 207: Co-Parenting With a Narcissist: When Leaving Isn’t the End w/ Sybil Cummin

    Ep 207: Co-Parenting With a Narcissist: When Leaving Isn’t the End w/ Sybil Cummin
    2026/10/12
    Most people assume that once you leave an abusive relationship, the abuse is over. You got out. You did the hard thing. Now you get to start healing.But what happens when you share children with that person?What happens when you cannot go no contact? When the courts require you to keep communicating? When parenting schedules, finances and the family court system itself become a brand new avenue for power and control?For a lot of survivors, leaving is not the end of the abuse. It is the beginning of a very different chapter of it.I sat down with Sybil Cummin for this week’s episode. Sybil is a licensed professional counselor who started her career as a play therapist, working almost entirely with children. She has testified in court for years. She went into this work believing what most of us believe: that everyone in the room, the judges, the evaluators, the attorneys, the court-appointed professionals, is on Team Kid.What she learned is that the system is not always on Team Kid.In most states, she told me, a parent’s rights will trump what is in a child’s best interest almost every time. Even when there is evidence of abuse. Even when there is coercive control in the home. A parent has the right to access their child, and it falls on the protective parent to prove, document and fight for every single protection.And the person who abused you knows that.They know a loophole in the parenting plan means another trip back to court. They know a late child support payment, followed by “oh, I didn’t know it was supposed to go through this way,” costs them nothing and costs you a filing fee, an attorney and another week of your nervous system on high alert. They know that joint decision making means they can quietly say no to the dentist, or to therapy, for the kid who needs it most.I am not sharing this to scare you. I am sharing it because I have watched too many people walk out of a toxic relationship thinking the hard part was over, and then feel like they were losing their minds when it was not. If no one tells you the truth, you will blame yourself for it. You are not crazy. You are not imagining it. This is a pattern, and it has a name: post-separation abuse.So I asked Sybil the question I most wanted answered. How does someone heal when the thing they are healing from never really ends?She called it the million dollar question. Then she said something I have not stopped thinking about. So many of the moms she works with carry this belief: it is impossible to heal while I am still stuck in this. My child is four. I have fourteen more years.Can you heal anyway? Absolutely.Sybil talks about felt safety: the times, places and people where you are safe to feel safe. Your nervous system has been doing its only job, keeping you alive, and anything connected to that person registers as danger. Healing is not waiting for the danger to end. It is giving your body small moments of proof that right now, in this moment, you are safe. In the shower. Getting dressed. Thirty seconds in the bathroom.And the piece she says matters most is relational safety. You cannot heal from relationship trauma outside of safe relationships. The survivors she has worked with who had even one safe person healed years faster than the ones who were alone.Which brings me to you, if you are the friend, the sister, the coworker someone finally opens up to. Please do not say, “Wow, I can’t believe that. He’s always been so nice.” What happens behind closed doors is designed to be unbelievable. Instead, try: “Tell me more. I may not understand, but I want to try.” And: “I believe you.”We also talked about the kids. Not only the ones whose pain is loud, but the ones Sybil worries about most. The helpful ones. The straight-A ones. The kids with a smile on their face and no problems, who have learned to read every mood in the house and become whatever keeps things calm. Those are the kids we are missing, because those are not the ones getting therapy.You were not weak for staying, and you are not weak for struggling now. Your body adapted to keep you safe. It just has not gotten the memo yet that it is allowed to rest.Go listen to this conversation, especially if this is your story or the story of someone you love. Sybil runs an online community for moms walking through exactly this, Rising Beyond Power and Control, at risingbeyondpc.com, and she hosts The Rising Beyond Podcast.And if someone you used to be close to has slowly disappeared, reach out. It does not have to be about any of this. Just: “Hey, I’ve been thinking about you. Can we grab a coffee?” Isolation is part of the playbook. Connection is part of the way out.If you want to understand how your own history is still showing up in your body today, my free HURRT Self-Assessment takes about eight minutes: flipyourmindset.com/hurrt.If you are in danger, please call 911. In the US, the National Domestic Violence Hotline is 1-800-799-7233, or text START ...
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  • Ep 205: Rich Dunning: Making Sense of the Silence We Learn to Survive

    Ep 205: Rich Dunning: Making Sense of the Silence We Learn to Survive
    2026/10/05

    There is a particular kind of person I keep meeting.

    From the outside, they look like the success story.

    The title. The career. The composure.

    And underneath, there is a child who learned a long time ago that needing things was not safe.

    Rich Dunning is one of those people.

    He grew up in a Bronx basement where silence was not calm.

    It was survival.

    By the time he was eleven, he had already stopped expecting anyone to come.

    So he did what so many of us do with that kind of beginning.

    He got good.

    He got useful.

    He climbed into one of the most demanding industries in the world and became a senior executive.

    On paper, he made it.

    But paper doesn’t show you the cost.

    The silence he learned as a boy did not leave when his circumstances changed.

    It came with him into the boardroom.

    Into his marriage.

    Into the quiet of his own house at night.

    And after all of it, after everything that was supposed to prove he was okay, he reached a moment where he wanted to end his life.

    Rich was never broken.

    I want to say something carefully here, because I think it is the whole point.

    Rich was never broken.

    He adapted.

    A young nervous system did something brilliant with what it was handed.

    It just never got the memo that the danger had passed.

    This is what we miss about childhood emotional neglect.

    It is not only what happened to us.

    It is also what did not happen.

    The comfort that never came.

    The feelings no one helped us hold.

    The reassurance we never received.

    A need ignored long enough stops feeling like a need.

    It starts feeling like who you are.

    And because it was quiet, because it was not dramatic, we never counted it.

    We told ourselves:

    It wasn’t that bad.

    That is the sentence that keeps it invisible.

    And what stays invisible stays in charge.

    A survival document

    Rich spent fifteen years and ten thousand hours turning his story into a book.

    He doesn’t call it a redemption.

    He calls it a survival document.

    When he told me that, I felt something settle.

    Because it is one of the most honest and hopeful things I have heard.

    He is not telling you that everything worked out in a neat arc.

    He is telling you he made it.

    That the past can shape you without getting the final word.

    If you see yourself in this...

    If you recognized yourself anywhere in this—in the over-functioning, the 3 a.m. waking, the exhaustion that sleep never touches—I want you to hear the same thing I told Rich:

    You are not too much.

    You were surviving.

    And you are allowed to put some of it down.

    I built a free assessment that helps you connect today’s patterns back to the roots they grew from.

    It takes about eight minutes, and it’s free.

    👉 Take the free assessment

    And please go listen to this episode.

    If Rich’s story moves you, his book, Silence Was My First Language, is out October 6.

    👉 Learn more about Rich’s book

    We cannot heal what we do not understand.



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