Hosts: Andrew Dewar & Catherine Collins

Reinvention doesn’t have to mean blowing up your life, burning bridges, or starting from zero. In this episode, Andrew and Catherine talk about how real, sustainable change actually happens — slowly, intentionally, and with respect for the life you’ve already built.

If you’ve ever felt called to become a new version of yourself but feared what it would cost your relationships, career, or sense of safety, this episode is for you. You’ll learn how to release old identities gently, navigate fear without letting it run the show, and grow in a way that feels stable instead of chaotic.

1. Why reinvention feels so scary (and why that’s normal)
2. The difference between dramatic change and sustainable growth
3. How fear and safety keep us attached to old identities
4. Why “burn it all down” reinvention is mostly a myth
5. Honoring the version of you that got you here
6. Separating identity from behavior
7. How to evolve without erasing yourself
8. Why small, incremental change is more powerful than radical overhauls
9. Navigating relationship friction when you start changing
10. Setting quiet boundaries without over-explaining yourself
11. Allowing grief and excitement to coexist during growth
12. How to know if your reinvention is actually aligned

1. Acknowledge your current identity — it helped you survive and get here.
2. Start with 1% changes, not dramatic life explosions.
3. Replace control with structure, not rigidity.
4. Separate who you are from what you do — habits can change without self-rejection.
5. Expect some discomfort, especially in relationships, and allow time for adjustment.
6. Let your boundaries be quiet — not everything needs an announcement.
7. Notice calm as a signal that you’re changing in the right direction.
8. You’re allowed to grow gently, safely, and on your own timeline.

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Episode Title: Why Starting Over Feels So Scary

Hosts: Andrew Dewar & Cat Collins

Starting over sounds inspiring… until you actually think about doing it.

In this episode, Andrew and Cat unpack why the idea of starting over triggers so much fear — even when you knowsomething in your life needs to change. They explore the psychology behind fear, identity attachment, sunk cost, and why staying stuck often feels safer than stepping into the unknown.

If you’ve ever felt called to a new version of yourself but found yourself frozen, overthinking, or staying where you are out of fear — this episode will help you understand what’s really happening beneath the surface.

• Why fear shows up right before growth

• How fear is designed to keep you safe — not fulfilled

• The difference between familiar pain and unfamiliar possibility

• The sunk cost fallacy and why it keeps people stuck

• Fear of losing your identity when you change

• Why being a beginner again feels threatening

• Fear of judgment and disappointing others

• Why staying stuck has a cost — even if it feels “safe”

• How time will pass whether you change or not

• Why curiosity is a more powerful guide than certainty

• How to explore change without burning your life down

• Fear doesn’t mean you’re on the wrong path — it means you’re at the edge of growth

• You don’t need clarity to start; clarity comes after movement

• Nothing you’ve done is wasted — every version of you counts

• Familiar discomfort often feels safer than unfamiliar freedom

• You’re allowed to evolve without having all the answers

• Fear is information, not a stop sign

• You don’t have to commit to change — you can simply get curious

• Starting over doesn’t mean erasing your past

• Small steps are safer for your nervous system than drastic moves

Cat: Enjoying small moments of self-expression and self-care, including makeup and nails that felt playful and grounding.

Andrew: Finding a pair of Air Jordans while thrifting — a reminder that joy and healing can come from unexpected places.

In the next episode, Andrew and Cat explore:

“How to Let Go of Who You Used to Be Without Burning Your Life Down”

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If this episode resonated, share it with someone who’s quietly considering a new beginning.

Fear doesn’t mean stop — it means something new is trying to emerge.

Have you ever felt an internal pull toward something more—even though your life looks “fine” on the outside?

In this episode, Andrew and Cat explore the quiet but powerful feeling many people experience when they’re ready for growth: the sense that the current version of yourself no longer fits. This conversation unpacks why this feeling shows up, what it actually means, and how to listen to it without burning your life down.

This episode is about identity shifts, alignment, and understanding that wanting more doesn’t mean you’re ungrateful—it means you’re evolving.

• Why feeling unsettled is often a sign of growth, not failure
• The difference between wanting to escape and wanting to align
• Why adults lose permission to explore new versions of themselves
• How future-self awareness begins before action
• Why growth can feel uncomfortable even when it’s right
• How fear shows up when your identity starts to change
• Why imagining a future version of yourself is meaningful
• Letting go of outdated goals, habits, and identities
• Why growth doesn’t require drastic life changes

1. Notice the Nudge – Pay attention to feelings of restlessness or misalignment instead of suppressing them.
2. Name What’s Changing – Ask yourself what no longer fits instead of what’s “wrong.”
3. Release the Pressure – Growth doesn’t require immediate action or dramatic decisions.
4. Honor Both Truths – You can be grateful for your life and still want more.
5. Think in Small Shifts – Identity change happens through awareness and micro-adjustments over time.

• What feels outdated in my life right now?
• What part of me is asking for growth or expansion?
• If I trusted this calling, what might it be pointing me toward?

Andrew reflects on recognizing subtle internal shifts before big changes.

Cat shares the relief that comes from realizing growth doesn’t have to be dramatic or destructive.

This episode begins the Five Year You series.

Next Episode:

Why Starting Over Feels So Scary (And What Staying Stuck Is Really Costing You)

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