You don’t feel like you fit. You’re not sure what the point of any of it is. And the people around you keep doing things that get under your skin.

So you do what most of us do. You look outward. You decide it’s your partner, your colleague, your mother, your kids. If they’d just change, you’d feel better.

They won’t. And you won’t.

In this first episode of a nine-part series, Anthony Hartcher sits down with you to map the three relationships that make up a whole life — the one with yourself, the one with others, and the one with everything — and why the order isn’t negotiable. The relationship with you comes first. The other two are reflections of it.

He gets into the uncomfortable part too: that the behaviour you judge hardest in other people is almost always something you’ve done yourself and never forgiven. Your mirror neurons replay it. An old association fires. You feel awful. And you hand the blame to whoever’s standing in front of you.

The way back isn’t to think positively about it. It’s to look at the behaviour honestly — what it cost, what it served — until it stops carrying a charge at all. Then you just see the person. And they feel seen.

It’s homework. Anthony’s honest that it’s hard. He’s also clear it’s the highest-value work you’ll ever do, because every relationship you have is downstream of it.

This series runs alongside the book he’s writing, Feeling Broken: A Pathway to Self-Love and Healing.

In this episode:
→ The three relationships, and why they stack in that order
→ What disconnection actually feels like from the inside
→ Why survival mode keeps you looking outward for the answer
→ Mirror neurons and the old memory behind every trigger
→ How to dissolve guilt and shame instead of managing them
→ Why love and gratitude do more healing than anything you can buy

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Anthony Hartcher is a clinical nutritionist, lifestyle medicine specialist and your joyful journey mentor.