222 What if the problem isn't that the love in your relationship has faded—but that your nervous system and biochemistry is making it hard to experience the love that's there?

We tend to think of connection as something that happens between two people.

But connection is also an experience happening inside your body, and your internal state can profoundly affect how available you are to experience it.

In this episode, we’re looking at oxytocin—the hormone involved in bonding, attachment, trust, affection, and connection—and its fascinating relationship with your nervous system.

You'll learn why connection and regulation can create an upward feedback loop, why dysregulation can make you feel more disconnected even when your relationship hasn't actually changed, and why sometimes what feels like a relationship problem may have more to do with what's happening inside your nervous system.

Of course, this doesn't mean every relationship problem is a nervous-system problem.

But it does mean that your internal state is a very important part of the picture—and understanding that can give you a powerful place to begin creating more of the connection, warmth, and love you're longing to experience in your marriage.

I'll also share an exciting announcement in this episode, so, if you want to be able to feel more of the love you want in your marriage, you've got to listen in.

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