Many parents say it without thinking: “Go to your room.”

But biblically, psychologically, and developmentally it’s a mistake.

In this episode, I explain why isolating children during discipline does more harm than good. Scripture shows us that isolation erodes identity, value, and hope. Add modern research on loneliness and child brain development, and the conclusion is unavoidable: connection, not isolation, is how kids learn, grow, and heal.

If we discipline our kids without connection, we aren’t teaching reflection, we’re teaching shame. And shame doesn’t produce wisdom; it produces withdrawal.

I am challenging a deeply ingrained parenting tactic and offering a better way. A way that more closely mirrors how our Heavenly Father disciplines us.

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I was raised to believe backtalk was disrespectful and had to be shut down immediately.

But when I started looking at Scripture, especially the psalms of lament, I realized something uncomfortable: God invites questions, frustration, and hard conversations from His children.

So why don’t we?

In this episode, I explain why silencing your kids may be damaging trust, weakening your influence, and working against real discipleship, and what to do instead.

If you’re a dad who wants strong relationships, not silent obedience, this conversation matters.

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You’re a Christian dad. You want to teach your kids about the Bible but the Old Testament makes you uncomfortable because it can feel intense with the bloody stories, tough questions, and a God who seems “angry.” That’s ok. I’ve got you.

This episode I connect with Chad Bird, Scholar in Residence at 1517, who specializes in the Old Testament. He helps clear up some misconceptions about the Old Testament and provides guidance on how to talk about the Old Testament to our children. You’ll learn:

• The Bible is one unified salvation story
• Moralism is not the point of the Scriptures
• How to see Jesus in the Old Testament stories
• How to answer questions like, “Why does God kill so many people?”

If you want to learn more about Chad, follow him and check out some of his resources below.

Facebook: @writingsofchadbird

Instagram: @chadlbird

YouTube: @chadbird1517

https://www.1517.org/articles/is-your-sunday-school-training-good-little-pharisees

www.1517.org/oneyear

Hitchhiking with Prophets (Book): https://amzn.to/4b24YHN (Amazon)

Untamed Prayers (Book): https://amzn.to/3ZkY7C2 (Amazon)

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