In this enlightening conversation, Gail Kirshenbaum shares her profound journey of forgiveness, focusing on her relationship with her mother and the impact of generational trauma. She emphasizes that forgiveness is a personal journey meant for self-healing rather than condoning past behaviors. Through her experiences, Gail illustrates the importance of understanding the backgrounds of those who have hurt us, reframing our expectations, and the transformative power of kindness. She also outlines her seven steps to finding forgiveness, highlighting the significance of creating distance, building a support system, and engaging in creative expression as essential tools for healing.

Key Takeaways

• Forgiveness is for ourselves, not for others.
• Understanding the past of those who hurt us is crucial.
• Creating distance can help in the healing process.
• Forgiveness can transform relationships, even if one party isn't ready.
• Kindness can change someone's day and perspective.
• Generational trauma affects how we relate to others.
• Self-forgiveness is essential for healthy relationships.
• Reframing expectations can lead to emotional freedom.
• Journaling and creative expression are powerful healing tools.
• Forgiveness is a journey that takes time and effort.

Chapters

00:00 - The Essence of Forgiveness
04:15 - Gail's Journey of Healing
10:23 - Reframing Relationships
16:34 - Understanding the Power of Forgiveness
21:43 - The Impact of Generational Trauma
27:32 - Steps to Finding Forgiveness
33:24 - The Role of Kindness in Healing

If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:

Email - familydisappeared@gmail.com
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss
(All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree)

Gayle Kirschenbaum’s Website: https://www.gaylekirschenbaum.com

Please donate to support PAA programs:
https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXS

This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:
Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host
Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager

Connect with Lawrence Joss:
Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/
Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com

In this episode, Lawrence Joss delves into the complexities of parental alienation, estrangement, and the importance of compassionate communication. He emphasizes the need for a long-term perspective in relationships, the value of community support, and the significance of trusting a child's perspective. Throughout the conversation, he highlights the development of emotional intelligence as a crucial skill for navigating these challenges, encouraging listeners to engage in self-reflection and community involvement.

Key Takeaways

• Compassionate communication.
• The long view.
• Cultivating community.
• Acknowledging the child's suffering.
• Developing emotional intelligence.
• Parental alienation and estrangement create complex emotional landscapes.
• Acknowledging others' perspectives does not mean agreeing with them.
• Learning from community experiences shapes personal growth.
• Being a good parent is possible even without direct contact.
• Expressing love and vulnerability is part of personal growth.

Chapters

00:00 - Understanding Parental Alienation and Estrangement
02:50 - The Importance of Compassionate Communication
05:43 - The Long View in Relationships
09:01 - Cultivating Community for Support
11:53 - Trusting the Child's Perspective
14:45 - Developing Emotional Intelligence

If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:

Email - familydisappeared@gmail.com
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss

(All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree)

Please donate to support PAA programs:
https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXS

This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:
Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host
Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager

Connect with Lawrence Joss:
Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/
Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com

In this episode of the Family Disappeared podcast, Lawrence Joss discusses the transformative journey from suffering to living, particularly in the context of parental alienation. He emphasizes the importance of community support, creative expression, and emotional intelligence in navigating the complexities of family dynamics. Joss shares personal experiences and insights on how to support children emotionally while accepting the powerlessness that comes with parenting. The conversation highlights the significance of acknowledging suffering and the role of creativity in recovery and personal growth.

Key Takeaways

• Survival to living
• Creative expression
• How do we support the kids emotionally?
• Is it possible to accept powerlessness?
• How do I acknowledge my child's suffering and reality?
• Through change, you will transform your suffering.
• Community is essential for survival in difficult times.
• Emotional intelligence is key in family dynamics.
• Volunteering can shift your perspective and enrich your life.
• It's important to share experiences and support one another.

Chapters

00:00 - Transforming Suffering Through Change
03:04 - Community and Support in Parental Alienation
05:52 - From Survival to Living: A Personal Journey
08:44 - Creative Expression as a Healing Tool
12:05 - Supporting Children Emotionally
14:57 - Accepting Powerlessness and Acknowledging Suffering

If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:

Email - familydisappeared@gmail.com
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss

(All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree)

Please donate to support PAA programs:
https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXS

This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:
Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host
Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager

Connect with Lawrence Joss:
Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/
Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com

In this episode, Laurence Joss speaks with Daniel Ryan, a UK attorney, about the challenges and realities of the court system, particularly in family law. They discuss the need for a fundamental change in how disputes are handled, the complexities of parental alienation, and the often negative outcomes of court proceedings. Daniel emphasizes the importance of understanding the court's limitations and the need for better resources and support for parents navigating these difficult situations. They also explore the role of children in court proceedings and envision a more inclusive and supportive family court system.

Key Takeaways

• There needs to be a fundamental change in the court system.
• Nobody wins in court; everyone loses.
• Parental alienation is often misunderstood and mishandled in court.
• The court system is designed for conflict, not resolution.
• Children should be involved in the court process to minimize their impact.
• Judges often lack the psychological expertise needed for cases involving parental alienation.
• The current approach to parental alienation is overly simplistic.
• Mediation and counseling should be prioritized before court proceedings.
• The backlog in the court system exacerbates the issues faced by families.
• A more relaxed and inclusive court environment could benefit all parties involved.

Chapters

00:00 - The Need for Change in the Court System
05:02 - Understanding the Reality of Court Proceedings
09:41 - Parental Alienation: A Complex Issue
15:03 - The Role of Children in Court Proceedings
19:47 - Envisioning a Better Family Court System

For more detailed information, please click the link below:
https://www.mckenziepicave.com/

If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:

Email - familydisappeared@gmail.com
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss

(All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree)

Please donate to support PAA programs:
https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXS

This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:
Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host
Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager

Connect with Lawrence Joss:
Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/
Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com

In this episode, Laurence Joss interviews Daniel Ryan, a family law attorney from the UK, discussing the complexities of the family court system, the importance of a child-centric approach, and the challenges faced by parents navigating custody battles. Daniel emphasizes the need for mediation and alternative dispute resolution, the financial strains on families, and the commercial nature of the legal system. He shares insights on how to prioritize children's needs and the importance of providing support to clients regardless of their financial situation.

Key Takeaways

• What you want is not necessarily what I'm going to pursue.
• Family court comes as a real shock to people.
• The family court system in the UK is so congested.
• People have stopped being reasonable.
• The court system is broken.
• It's about the money first and a justice setting second.
• He who has the most money will win the day.
• I can't afford to let you leave and potentially be slaughtered.
• We do keep looking for the holistic approach.
• I can't have somebody walk through the door and lose their children.

Chapters

00:00 - Introduction to Family Law and Child-Centric Approach
03:02 - Understanding the Family Court System
06:02 - Challenges in the Family Court System
08:50 - Child-Centric Strategies in Family Law
11:53 - Mediation and Alternative Dispute Resolution
14:48 - Financial Strain and Access to Justice
17:49 - The Commercial Nature of Family Law
21:00 - The Impact of Resources on Custody Battles
23:53 - Positive Changes and Client Progress
26:55 - Conclusion and Reflections on Family Law

For more detailed information, please click the link below:
https://www.mckenziepicave.com/

If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:

Email - familydisappeared@gmail.com
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss

(All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree)

Please donate to support PAA programs:
https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXS

This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:
Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host
Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager

Connect with Lawrence Joss:
Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/
Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com

In this episode of the Family Disappeared podcast, host Laurence Joss leads a heartfelt discussion with a panel of parents and grandparents about their experiences with parental alienation and recovery. The conversation explores the transformative power of the 12-step program, the concept of alienation as a family disease, and the importance of community support in the healing process. Panelists share personal stories of growth, the challenges of navigating relationships, and the significance of self-reflection in recovery. The episode emphasizes the need for patience and understanding in the journey of healing and the impact of individual change on family dynamics.

Key Takeaways

• The 12-step process can help change unmanageable situations.
• Community support is crucial in the recovery journey.
• Alienation affects the entire family system, not just individuals.
• Personal growth leads to changes in family dynamics.
• Recovery is about how we show up in relationships.
• Patience is essential in the healing process.
• The 12 steps provide a framework for addressing dysfunction.
• Isolation can hinder recovery; connection is key.
• Understanding alienation as a family disease helps in healing.
• Self-reflection is vital for personal transformation.

Chapters

00:00 - Reflections on Change and Recovery
02:58 - The Power of Community in Recovery
05:49 - Understanding the 12-Step Framework
08:42 - Personal Experiences with Parental Alienation
11:55 - The Concept of Family Disease
14:48 - Navigating Relationships and Alienation
17:38 - The Role of Consistency in Recovery
20:49 - The Journey of Healing and Growth
23:47 - Final Thoughts and Community Support

If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:

Email - familydisappeared@gmail.com
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss

(All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree)

Please donate to support PAA programs:
https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXS

This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:
Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host
Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager

Connect with Lawrence Joss:
Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/
Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com

This conversation delves into the complexities of parental alienation, exploring personal experiences, emotional struggles, and the importance of community support. The panel discusses the challenges faced in navigating relationships, the role of institutions, and the impact of recovery tools in managing crises. Through shared stories and insights, the discussion highlights the need for patience, understanding, and resilience in the face of familial estrangement.

Key Takeaways

• Parental alienation is a complex issue that is often misunderstood.
• Personal experiences of alienation can vary greatly among individuals.
• Community support plays a crucial role in recovery from parental alienation.
• Emotional regulation is key in navigating relationships with estranged family members.
• Institutions often lack understanding of parental alienation, complicating recovery efforts.
• Recovery tools, such as patience and surrender, can help manage crises.
• It's important to take time before responding to emotionally charged situations.
• The journey of recovery is ongoing and requires continuous effort and support.
• Coping mechanisms evolve over time as individuals gain more experience in recovery.
• Building resilience is essential for dealing with the challenges of parental alienation.

Chapters

00:00 - Understanding Parental Alienation
02:39 - Personal Experiences and Introductions
05:42 - Check-In: Current Emotional States
08:54 - Navigating Relationships and Recovery
11:48 - The Role of Institutions in Parental Alienation
14:54 - Complexities of Parental Alienation
17:56 - The Impact of Recovery Tools
20:40 - Coping Mechanisms in Crisis
24:06 - Community Support and Resilience
26:47 - Reflections on Recovery and Growth

If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:

Email - familydisappeared@gmail.com
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss

(All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree)

Please donate to support PAA programs:
https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXS

This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:
Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host
Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager

Connect with Lawrence Joss:
Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/
Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com

In this episode, Lawrence Joss interviews Charles McCready, a compassion-based coach who shares insights on parental alienation and the healing journey for parents and children. The conversation covers the importance of understanding child alienation, the dynamics of trust and connection, and the role of grandparents. Charles introduces his nine-step program designed to help parents navigate their emotions and improve their relationships with their children. The discussion emphasizes the need for self-work, support networks, and the importance of living one's life while waiting for reconnection with children.

Key Takeaways

• Advocate for parents to take their own healing journey.
• Changing parenting styles can positively impact relationships.
• Children often experience loyalty conflicts during alienation.
• Understanding the alienating parent's control mechanisms is crucial.
• The nine-step program focuses on both parents and children.
• Building trust with adult children requires a different approach.
• Grandparents should also engage in their own healing process.
• Self-work is essential for effective parenting.
• Living your life while waiting for reconnection is important.
• Support networks can provide necessary resources for parents.

Chapters

00:00 - Healing Journeys and Parenting Dynamics
02:52 - Understanding Child Alienation and Its Effects
05:57 - The Nine-Step Program for Reconnection
08:56 - Building Trust and Connection with Adult Children
11:39 - The Role of Grandparents in Alienation
14:50 - Empowerment Through Self-Work and Support
17:48 - Living Your Life While Waiting for Reconnection
20:43 - Strategies for Reestablishing Contact
23:53 - The Importance of Support Networks
26:42 - Conclusion and Future Conversations

For more detailed information regarding Charlie McCready and the 9-step program, please click the link below:

https://charliemccready.com/

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1sU40Zul0RDNDxb-Vmh0-bWkXpyRnO0qj/view?usp=sharing

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1JcmEUSYpt25kkBUCQP2DnmtO7bZI7Cz-/view?usp=sharing

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1WaClh5wrJ3AYY9cD4lnrD0aYg-wh61cJ/view?usp=sharing

If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:

Email - familydisappeared@gmail.com
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss

(All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree)

Please donate to support PAA programs:
https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXS

This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:
Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host
Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager

Connect with Lawrence Joss:
Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/
Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com