The conversation delves into the complexities of relationship problems faced by couples, emphasizing the common issues stemming from parenting and intimacy. It highlights the tendency of couples to seek external advice rather than resolving conflicts directly, and critiques the reliance on legal solutions for emotional and relational problems, advocating for a more psychological approach.

Key Takeaways

• Couples often face problems related to parenting or intimacy.
• Many couples avoid negotiating their issues directly.
• External influences complicate conflict resolution.
• Legal solutions are often misapplied to emotional problems.
• Emotional and relational issues require psychological approaches.
• Communication is key in resolving marital conflicts.
• Seeking help from friends or family can lead to confusion.
• Understanding the root cause of problems is essential.
• Negotiation skills are crucial for couples.
• Legal tools do not address emotional needs.

Chapter

1:20 - Systems theory meets family courts
2:44 - Family patterns and learned levers
4:16 - Attachment shifts during pregnancy
5:23 - Limits to self-reflection and change
6:59 - Expanding system: courts and professionals
7:52 - How politics shape couple conflict
11:04 - GDP, school pressure, and home stress
13:07 - Navigating legal systems in divorce
15:04 - Reciprocity and influence in relationships
17:05 - No legal fix for emotional needs
19:10 - Prevention through systemic therapy
21:07 - Challenging constructs and parenting norms
23:05 - Journal and master’s on alienation
25:07 - Closing reflections and resources

If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:

Email - familydisappeared@gmail.com
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss
(All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree)

Connect with Dr Charlie Azzopardi:
Website: https://ift-malta.com/⁩
Courses (IFT Malta): https://ift-malta.com/courses-2/
European Journal of Parental Alienation (EJPAP):
https://ift-malta.com/elementor-1206/

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This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:
Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host
Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager

Connect with Lawrence Joss:
Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/
Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com

Lawrence Joss explores the deeper systemic roots of parental alienation, revealing how alienation unfolds gradually through subtle family dynamics rather than appearing overnight. He and Dr. Charlie unpack how cultural norms, family structures, and early relational patterns shape the roles parents step into, and how those roles can quietly shift power, boundaries, and attachment inside the family system.

Key Takeaways

• Parental alienation is a gradual process.
• Negative talk about a parent is common in relationships.
• Cultural norms influence parenting roles significantly.
• In some cultures, mothers are primarily caregivers.
• Fathers often take on structural roles in parenting.
• Understanding alienation requires a cultural lens.
• Parental roles can vary widely across different societies.
• The dynamics of family relationships are complex.
• Emotional care is often seen as a mother's role.
• Structural care is typically associated with fathers.

Chapters

0:00 – Safety, Survival & Early Alienation Patterns
2:05 – What the Systemic Lens Reveals
5:40 – When Problems Become Relational
9:20 – Cultural & Structural Pressures on Families
11:55 – Alienation as a Gradual Process
14:40 – Boundary Breakdowns & Role Confusion
17:55 – Power Shifts: Children Elevated to Partner Role
21:25 – Why Kids Choose the Unpredictable Parent
25:40 – Subtle Behaviors That Shift Family Hierarchy
28:30 – Parentification & Emotional Oversharing
31:55 – Long-Term Effects on Attachment & Identity
35:50 – Attraction Patterns & the Drama Triangle

If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:

Email - familydisappeared@gmail.com
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss
(All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree)

Connect with Dr Charlie Azzopardi:
Website: https://ift-malta.com/⁩
Courses (IFT Malta): https://ift-malta.com/courses-2/
European Journal of Parental Alienation (EJPAP):
https://ift-malta.com/elementor-1206/

Please donate to support PAA programs:
https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXSsa bottom part

This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:
Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host
Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager

Connect with Lawrence Joss:
Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/
Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com

In this highly anticipated Part 2, Lawrence Joss and Dr. Nima Rahmany explore the unconscious dynamics that make relationships feel like a painful dance, especially in the context of family conflict and parental alienation. Dr. Rahmany breaks down the tension between the two core relational fears, abandonment and engulfment, that create the exhausting push-pull pattern in partnerships, and with your children.

Key Takeaways

• Many of us were born into cultures and societies where we had to choose attachment over our authentic truth.
• We are conditioned to fawn for safety.
• Fawning is a performative self abandonment that we do to feel safe.
• The codependent is the one that fawns, abandoning themselves for attachment.
• Deep down, every time you fawn, there's a little resentment towards the person you're fawning.
• People pleasing is a response that can lead to losing one's identity.
• Clients often express that they don't even know who they are anymore due to people pleasing.
• Cultural conditioning plays a significant role in shaping our behaviors.
• Self-abandonment can lead to unhealthy relationship dynamics.
• Understanding these patterns is crucial for personal growth.

Chapters
0:00 - Abandonment Meets Engulfment: The Cycle
0:25 - Mission, Community, and Parental Alienation Support
3:20 - Living the Pain and Grief of Alienation
5:10 - Defining The Push-Pull Pattern
8:15 - Becoming Trigger-Proof And Repair
10:25 - Enmeshment And Boundary Walls
12:07 - Alienation As A Repeating Pattern
18:05 - Shadow Work and Owning the Parts We Hide
23:35 - Authenticity And Secure Bonds
27:08 - Fawn Response Explained
32:00 - Health Costs Of People-Pleasing
35:02 - Boundaries And Nervous System Safety
38:24 - Breaking Cycles Through Parent Healing
41:28 - The Trigger-Proof Experience Overview

If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:

Email - familydisappeared@gmail.com
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss
(All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree)

Connect with Dr. Nima: https://drnima.com/

Please donate to support PAA programs:
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This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:
Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host
Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager

Connect with Lawrence Joss:
Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/
Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com