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Who do you turn to for your most meaningful wins? For a lot of people, the honest answer is nobody, not because they lack people around them, but because the people around them don't understand what it actually took to get there. In this episode, Emilia shares a session with a longtime client who came to her in tears over a story about her teenage son, a beach day that almost turned into a fight, and a moment of vulnerability most parents only dream of witnessing. The client wanted to celebrate the win with her partner. Her partner couldn't see it.

In this episode, we unpack what it actually means to be seen in your growth, why so many evolvers end up carrying their biggest wins alone, and what it takes to be the kind of person who can hold space for someone else's pride without it triggering their own shame. We also get into the difference between chasing validation and simply wanting to be witnessed, and why having the right person in your corner, whether that's a coach, a therapist, or a truly present friend, changes everything.

Here's a related episode that builds on today's conversation:
#448 | What Real Validation Looks Like - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/448-what-real-validation-looks-like/id1511831621?i=1000734176973

🤝 Out of the Mud (OOTM) - "Why Change Feels So Uncomfortable (Even When You Want It)"- https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/IykObX8eR7ixJaQ-qqZogw#/registration

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CHAPTERS

(0:00) Intro
(1:54) A client's win worth celebrating
(4:04) The beach, the boys, and the girl
(7:28) Choosing connection over conflict
(8:47) The ripple effect of doing the work
(11:07) Here's what Matthew has to say about the Evolve Ventures community and how it has helped in his journey
(11:58) Reframing the win, lily pad by lily pad
(18:27) Sitting in the mountain-peak moment
(19:40) What it feels like to finally be seen
(21:56) Who do you turn to? Final thoughts
(23:57) Outro

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If you keep telling yourself you “just need more motivation,” the real thing holding you back may be much deeper. Shame can quietly shape the way you see yourself, what you believe you deserve, and whether you take action at all. Turning even simple goals, rest, or meaningful pursuits into something that feels nearly impossible.

In this episode, we unpack how shame interferes with the cycle of motivation, why motivation often comes after action instead of before it, and how shame-based narratives can keep you stuck in avoidance, guilt, and self-criticism. Emilia and Bianca share real client examples involving rest, career decisions, and pursuing what you actually want, while exploring how self-compassion, identity, support, and a better understanding of your needs can help you create a stronger foundation for meaningful action.

Here's a related episode that builds on today's conversation:
#521 | How to Trust Yourself and Eliminate Self-Doubt 👇

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/521-how-to-trust-yourself-and-eliminate-self-doubt/id1511831621?i=1000776557116

Learn more about:
🤝 Out of the Mud (OOTM) - "Why Change Feels So Uncomfortable (Even When You Want It)" - https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/IykObX8eR7ixJaQ-qqZogw#/registration

📆 Evolve Group Coaching - https://evolveventurestech.com/evolve-group-coaching/

📽️ Insightful films. Meaningful growth. Join our Evolve Movie Club - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7

🌱 The #YouDoYou Therapy Program gives you support when and how you need it. No pressure. Just real help. Start your free 7-day trial today - https://buy.stripe.com/fZe8Avdfx8bW9gcfZc

Connect with Emilia, Bianca & the EVOLVE VENTURES Community:

Website: http://www.evolveventurestech.com
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/evolveventures/
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/EvolveVenturesTech (Public Page)
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Emilia's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithemilia
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Show notes:

(0:00) Why motivation isn't the real problem
(1:35) Rethinking how motivation works
(3:47) What actually gets us to take action
(5:15) When shame becomes the foundation
(8:18) Building on self-compassion instead of shame
(10:35) When your to-do list becomes shame
(13:08) Why rest can feel undeserved
(15:03) How shame shuts down motivation
(16:53) Out of the Mud
(17:30) How shame quietly runs your life
(20:06) Choosing what you actually want
(23:16) Finding the story underneath your resistance
(27:22) Why shame needs outside support
(29:26) Outro

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The movies that stay with us don’t just entertain us. They can challenge the way we think about our lives, our choices, and the legacy we’re leaving behind. In this Evolve Movie Club recap, Emilia and Bianca reflect on Only the Brave and the conversations it sparked around courage, grief, responsibility, and what it means to become a better ancestor.

In this episode, we unpack ecological grief, climate anxiety, seventh generation thinking, and the impact our everyday decisions can have far beyond our own lifetime. We also explore how meaning and purpose can become an antidote to nihilism, why small choices matter, and how becoming more conscious of the future can change the way we live today.

Here's a related episode that builds on today's conversation:
#510 | How to Cultivate a Conscious Leader's Mindset: -https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/510-how-to-cultivate-a-conscious-leaders-mindset/id1511831621?i=1000771122618

Learn more about:

🤝 Out of the Mud (OOTM) - "Why Change Feels So Uncomfortable (Even When You Want It)" - https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/IykObX8eR7ixJaQ-qqZogw#/registration

📆 Evolve Group Coaching - https://evolveventurestech.com/evolve-group-coaching/

📽️ Insightful films. Meaningful growth. Join our Evolve Movie Club - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7

🌱 The #YouDoYou Therapy Program gives you support when and how you need it. No pressure. Just real help. Start your free 7-day trial today - https://buy.stripe.com/fZe8Avdfx8bW9gcfZc

Connect with Emilia, Bianca & the EVOLVE VENTURES Community:

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Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/evolveventures/
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Emilia's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithemilia
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Show notes:

00:00 - Intro
01:43 - Why Evolve Movie Club matters
03:03 - Turning movies into reflection
05:56 - Wildfires and ecological grief
08:29 - What kind of ancestor will you be?
12:30 - Seventh generation thinking
15:22 - Naming ecological grief and climate anxiety
18:16 - Evolve Testimonial
19:13 - Choosing meaning over nihilism
27:50 - Outro

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