Weight loss therapist Lora Grabow, LMSW has spent 23 years working with medical and surgical weight loss patients, and she says the same piece is still missing from almost every treatment plan. She calls it headwork.

Mindset is about what you think. Headwork is about what to do with what you think, and that difference is the whole episode.

Lora joins Dr. Weiner and Zoe for a conversation that goes from the practical to the personal. She walks through her three-step "power of the pause" framework using a real scenario (it's 11pm, you're anxious about work tomorrow, and you're standing in the kitchen), explains why shame is the single biggest barrier to behavior change, and gets honest about her own decision to start a GLP-1 this past June after a hysterectomy and perimenopause left her doing everything right and getting nowhere.

That last part is the moment of the episode. Lora caught herself in the exact thinking she coaches patients out of every day, believing she had to earn help.

What we get into

• Headwork vs. mindset, and why "information only turns into transformation when you know what to do with it"
• The power of the pause, Lora's three tips for food noise: catch the thought, name the feeling, then choose how you respond
• Why we say "I'm feeling anxious," not "I'm anxious", because we are not our feelings
• Shame vs. guilt, through Brené Brown's framing: shame says I am a mistake, guilt says I made a mistake. One drives binge eating and isolation. The other drives change.
• Obesity is a disease, not a decision, and why Lora describes her role as a "shame lifter"
• Lora's GLP-1 story, from the menopause middle to the friend at breakfast who asked the question that stopped her in her tracks
• What actually got quiet for her, and it wasn't food noise, it was how hard she was being on herself
• Dr. Weiner's bell curve: roughly 15% of people do great on GLP-1s no matter what, roughly 15% won't respond at all, and the 70% in the middle almost never show up on your feed. That's where headwork, nutrition, and exercise decide the outcome.
• Numbing vs. coping through, and the lidocaine shot analogy that explains why food, phones, and doom scrolling all make the next round harder
• "Dead people goals", Dr. Susan David's line about the only people not feeling uncomfortable emotions
• Community is treatment, and the mic drop question Lora asks at the end of every support group

Free workshop from Lora:

What Happens After the Food Noise Gets Quiet? Tuesday, September 16 at 7:00pm Eastern. Completely free, no limit on attendance, and a replay goes out to everyone who registers.

Lora is walking through her brand new headwork framework and taking attendees through a live exercise on root cause work and patterns. If this conversation resonated, this is the deeper version of it.

👉 Register at loragrabow.com

Find Lora

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• Facebook: Lora Grabow, LMSW
• Substack: https://substack.com/@lora809857