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At some point, being the “cool girl” stops feeling cool and starts feeling like self-abandonment.

This week on Unfiltered-ish, we start with bachelorette parties, strippers, strip clubs, Maui, Bear Lake, and Nicki’s extremely memorable lap dance story. But the conversation turns into something more honest: what we used to tolerate in relationships, what we no longer want to pretend we’re fine with, and how our boundaries around flirting, jealousy, respect, and attention have changed.

We talk about the difference between being low-maintenance and ignoring your own discomfort, why a man being “just friendly” can still feel disrespectful, whether strip clubs are harmless or a hard no, and why the right relationship should make other women jealous of you, not make you jealous of other women.

We also talk about Carina and Josh’s relationship, the small moments that show emotional safety, and why being truly known by someone can feel more romantic than any grand gesture.

If you’ve ever tried to be the chill one, ignored a red flag to seem easygoing, or realized you’re no longer available for the things you used to tolerate, this episode is for you.

Unfiltered-ish is the midlife group chat for women talking honestly about friendship, ambition, marriage, dating, money, aging, reinvention, joy, and wanting more out of life.