How does a woman get so far away from herself without even realizing it?

It rarely happens all at once.

It can happen slowly, through years of taking care of other people, saying yes when you want to say no, ignoring what your body is telling you, keeping the peace, meeting expectations, and becoming really good at being who everyone else needs you to be.

Until one day, you realize you’re not entirely sure what you need anymore.

In this episode, Janell sits down with Angela Obert, business development expert and owner of Network Connection Minnesota, for a deeply personal conversation about people-pleasing, codependency, self-abandonment, identity, and what it takes to rebuild a relationship with yourself.

Angela shares openly about her own experience with codependency and how she began recognizing the ways she had changed or abandoned parts of herself to please, help, or fix others. She and Janell also explore why “doing the work” doesn’t mean old patterns disappear, and how transformation can look less like eliminating those parts of yourself and more like changing your relationship with them.

They talk about:

• How people-pleasing can become self-abandonment
• Why old patterns can still show up after years of personal growth
• What rebuilding self-trust actually looks like
• Why keeping small promises to yourself matters
• The difference between consistency and perfection
• How the nervous system can keep familiar identities and patterns in place
• Learning to listen to the signals your body is sending
• Why uncomfortable emotions, including anger, need space to be felt
• How to begin separating what you genuinely want from what you’ve been conditioned to want
• Why being physically “in the room” can create something another podcast, book, or program simply can’t

Ultimately, so much of this conversation comes back to one thing:

The relationship you have with yourself.

And perhaps coming back to yourself isn’t about reinventing who you are.

It’s about remembering.

On October 2, Janell and Angela are continuing this conversation in person with Remember Me, an intimate, full-day retreat for women at The Nest Retreat in Vadnais Heights, Minnesota.

It’s a day to step outside the noise and responsibilities of everyday life, reconnect with your body and your own voice, and explore who you are in this season of your life.

October 2, 2026 | 9:00 AM–5:00 PM
The Nest Retreat | Vadnais Heights, MN
Limited to 12 women

Learn more and reserve your spot:
https://www.thetransformationlife.com/rememberme

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