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Ep 8: Parenting After a Late Autism Diagnosis: Reflection, Projection, and Regulation-First Parenting

Ep 8: Parenting After a Late Autism Diagnosis: Reflection, Projection, and Regulation-First Parenting

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 Show NotesEpisode details* Season (Thread): 8* Episode number: 09* Release date: 2026-07-14* Hosts:* Natasha Stavros, PhD — author of The Unmasking Diary and Burning Inside Out (coming to a bookstore near you in December 2026)* Sarah Liebman — licensed marriage and family therapist, ADHD-diagnosed, special interests all things neurodiverse* Tara Neri, Unmasked Parenting – licensed clinical mental health counselor, certified in ADHD and autism spectrum disorder practice, and the creator of Unmasked Parenting. She is an autistic/ADHD parent with sensory processing differences and has spent over two decades supporting children and families who need more understanding, flexibility, and practical support. Her work blends clinical experience, lived experience, nervous system support, relational repair, and neurodivergent-affirming parenting.* Audio Engineer and Composer: Noah Smith* Director: Linda Highfield* Duration: 30:56* Audience and tone: Educational, conversational, supportive; stigma-free exploration of neurodivergence, diagnosis, and self-understanding using personal experience as a case study* Summary: When a late autism diagnosis reveals that your child is likely neurodivergent too, the emotional reckoning is layered: relief, grief, anger, and a fierce protectiveness — all at once. In this episode, Natasha Stavros and Sarah Liebman welcome their first ever guest, Tara Neri (LCMHC, creator of UnmaskedParenting), to explore three frameworks for neurodivergent-affirming parenting after a late diagnosis: 1) distinguishing reflection from projection when you see yourself in your child; 2) interrupting the intergenerational cycle by asking "am I responding or reacting — and to my child, or to my younger self?"; and 3) Tara's signature approach, regulation-first parenting, which centers the parent's own nervous system as the foundation for the child's. The episode closes with a diary excerpt from After the Masquerade in which Natasha navigates alexithymia, sensory exhaustion, and two real-time parenting moments that show what neurodivergent-affirming parenting actually looks like in practice — imperfect, attuned, and quietly revolutionary.Key takeaways about parenting with reflection and not projection:* Reflection vs. projection: When you recognize your neurodivergent traits in your child, the path forward begins with the painful but liberating realization that if your child deserves deep love and understanding for who they are, so do you.* Interrupt the cycle: Breaking intergenerational patterns means pausing to ask “am I responding or reacting, and is it to my child in front of me, or to my younger self?”; when you get it wrong, it’s important to repair rather than pretend it didn’t happen.* Regulation-first parenting: You cannot pour from an empty cup, regulating yourself first is not permissive parenting, it is the most powerful thing you can model, because children learn self-advocacy and self-compassion by watching you practice it on yourself.Resources and referencesRead more on this topic from our guest Tara Neri:* Recognition Without Projection - For parents who see themselves in their child and are trying to separate compassion from fear.* The Nature of Nurture - For parents thinking about what children need from us beyond behavior correction, performance, or compliance.* You’re Running on Outdated Survival Rules - For parents noticing that old coping patterns may still be shaping how they respond, protect, avoid, or control.Books* Brain-Body Parenting by Mona Delahooke - Best for understanding behavior as nervous-system information, not just a choice or discipline problem. This book helps move parenting away from compliance-based responses and toward bottom-up support.* Low-Demand Parenting by Amanda Diekman - Best for reducing unnecessary demands, rebuilding connection, and supporting neurodivergent kids without constant pressure. Especially useful for families navigating burnout, demand sensitivity, and low capacity.* Unmasking Autism by Devon Price - Best for adult self-understanding, masking, identity, burnout, and authenticity. This connects strongly to the idea that we cannot help our children unmask while continuing to abandon ourselves.Don’t Miss Out on Early AccessJoin our community of late-diagnosed adults learning to unmask. Subscribe to get the next episode of Following the Threads directly in your inbox. Upgrade to paid for early access to the book and other resources.Leave a review and share your own diagnostic journey to help others feel seen.Thanks for reading A Jester's Musings! This post is public so feel free to share it.The Unmasking Autism Diary: Memoir Excerpt on Recognition Without ProjectionHonestly, since I started down this path, I had no idea what cascade of events would take place. I hadn’t really thought about how I would process a diagnosis or what it would mean. All I knew is that whatever it meant, couldn’t be as bad as not knowing. ...
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