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If you feel like you've built a good life, but you can't remember the last time something actually excited you, this episode is for you. And if someone asked you right now what you want for your own birthday and you genuinely couldn't answer, that's exactly who this is for too. You're not broken. You've just been trading away little pieces of yourself for so long you stopped noticing.

EPISODE SUMMARY

This episode starts with one line Sari couldn't shake: "I do what I do because I like doing it." A quote from Elizabeth Gilbert's Big Magic that stopped her mid-thought and made her ask, of every single thing in her life, do I actually like this, or am I just doing what I'm supposed to do? For high-functioning women, moms, wives, business owners, that question can feel foreign. Somewhere between the roles and the responsibilities, excitement quietly got replaced with obligation, one "should" at a time. This isn't about something being clinically wrong with you. Sari unpacks why that matters for anxiety specifically: anxiety thrives in a life with no room for joy, for desire, for play. She shares her own moment of realizing she wasn't excited about anything, the story of turning down a day she genuinely wanted (and needing someone to basically convince her she deserved it), and why not knowing what lights you up isn't a dead end. It's feedback. If you've done the healing work, feel calmer than you used to, and still feel like something's missing, this one's going to name it.

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN

• Why "I do what I do because I like doing it" feels foreign to most high-achieving women
• How overthinking and control can quietly replace your own excitement with obligation
• Why anxiety is fertile in a life with no room for joy, desire, or play
• The difference between being productive and actually being excited
• How you lose yourself one "should" at a time, not all at once
• Why not knowing what you like anymore is information, not a failure
• What a hypnotherapy discovery journey uncovers when you don't know what you want

REFLECTION

How much of your day is built around what you're supposed to do versus what you actually want to do? If someone asked you right now, not as a mom, not as a wife, not as the one who holds it all together, but just as you, what do you actually want, could you answer?

WORK WITH SARI

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TIMESTAMPS

01:48 — Sari's own confession: recently saying out loud, "I'm not excited about anything," and what a life of ease was hiding

03:33 — The gut-check: evaluating everything in her life against "am I doing this because I like doing it"

04:07 — Why she does this podcast, and the difference between liking journaling and liking what journaling gives her

05:16 — The agreement she and her husband made about not becoming slaves to their kids' activities, and the gymnastics years that broke it

07:42 — Reframing parenting: loving your kids and still getting to love your own life, and what that models for them

08:36 — The radically honest question: how much of your day is actually chosen versus obligated

09:22 — How we lose ourselves one "should" at a time, not in one dramatic moment

10:49 — Who actually decided what you're "supposed to" do, and where that script came from

11:37 — The wake surfing story: turning down a day she wanted, out of guilt she didn't examine

13:31 — Anxiety as fertile ground in a life with no room for joy, desire, or play

15:06 — Why not being able to answer "what excites you" is feedback, not a dead end

17:06 — Permission doesn't require it to be big, profitable, or impressive, plus what a discovery journey is and how hypnosis helps you find what you actually want