What happens when the people who once took care of you suddenly need you to take care of them?

As the From Crisis to Healing series continues, Pam Feinberg-Rivkin and Steve Feldman explore the complicated role reversal families face when an aging parent begins needing more support. Adult children can suddenly find themselves managing medical appointments, making difficult decisions, coordinating care, and navigating disagreements with siblings, all while trying to preserve their parent's independence and dignity. Steve explains why planning for aging before a crisis happens can make an enormous difference for everyone involved.

Pam and Steve also look at what happens after hospitalization, when families may assume discharge planning will cover everything their loved one needs. From medications and medical equipment to home modifications, specialists, caregivers, and ongoing advocacy, coordinating care for aging parents can quickly become overwhelming. They reflect on how experienced care management can help families move from reacting to emergencies toward anticipating needs and making thoughtful decisions together.

But caring for someone is about more than managing their medical needs. It is also about remembering the person who still wants music, lunch with family, meaningful experiences, and a life that feels like their own. Aging may change what someone needs, but it does not erase who they are.

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