What makes your shoulders drop?

Maybe it’s hearing a familiar voice. Pulling on your favorite sweatshirt. Sitting in the one chair where your body seems to soften. Spending a few quiet minutes in your car. Or being with someone who doesn’t require you to explain, perform, or carefully monitor their mood.

When you are healing from coercive control, especially while dealing with post-separation abuse, felt safety can seem unreachable. How are you supposed to feel safe when litigation, threats, harassment, financial abuse, or one message from your former partner can derail your entire afternoon?

In this solo episode, Sybil explains that felt safety is not about convincing yourself that everything is safe or pretending that the harm has ended. It is about creating and noticing more moments when it is safe to feel safe.

Sybil explores three different places where we can experience felt safety:

• Inside: the sensory experiences and small rituals that help you reconnect with your body
• Outside: the spaces, routines, and environmental cues that allow your nervous system to soften
• In between: the relationships in which you can simply be, without rehearsing, monitoring, or defending yourself

This is not another assignment or an elaborate self-care routine. You do not need to wake up at 5:30 a.m., meditate, journal, do yoga, and take a cold plunge. The smallest moments count.

A warm drink. A familiar podcast. A cozy bed. A safe friend. A few minutes beside your child. A place where you can breathe.

Each moment gives your nervous system another piece of evidence: In this moment, I am safe enough to soften.

Ask Me Anything - https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/ama2026
Happening November 2nd at 12pm MST, November 3rd at 2pm MST and November 7th at 9am MST

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

If you want to chat more about this topic, I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc

If you want to support the show, you may do so here at Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.

If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/

Wondering where to start? Check out our top free resources - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/resources.html

If you're interested in guesting on the show, please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7

Where to find more from Rising Beyond:
Rising Beyond Facebook
Rising Beyond LinkedIn
Rising Beyond Pinterest