Who gets access to your time, energy, identity and even your body?

In this candid, unplanned conversation, Cristie and Drake explore the boundaries we create with others and the ones we must learn to honour within ourselves. They talk about energy vampires, keyboard warriors, unwanted attention and recognising the people who dim our light instead of helping us become our best selves.

Drake opens up about ageism within the LGBTQ+ community and the deeply personal language we use to describe our identities. After sharing why he identifies as a gay man rather than queer, a word connected to painful experiences with bullying and his father, he faced criticism online. His message is simple but important: everyone deserves the freedom to choose the words that feel right for them without having another identity imposed upon them.

He also shares the emotion, healing and clarity that have come from reconnecting with his former wife after 26 years. That conversation leads Cristie to reflect on her relationship with her high school sweetheart and the rare beauty of being known by someone who has witnessed many different versions of who you have been.

Cristie also gets honest about body image, confidence and the frustration of a weight-loss journey that hasn’t unfolded the way she hoped. When a photographer friend shared beautiful images taken at her highest weight, Cristie was reminded that confidence, beauty and sensuality do not belong to a number on the scale. But feeling visible can be a double-edged sword, especially when some men treat confidence as an invitation and push past clearly established boundaries with intrusive messages and demands for attention.

From body confidence and LGBTQ+ identity to aging, old relationships and protecting your peace, this episode asks an essential question: Are the people closest to you helping your light shine or slowly dimming it?

Because boundaries aren’t about shutting everyone out. They’re about becoming more intentional about what and whom you let in.