She broke my heart. But the hardest person to forgive wasn't her. It was myself.

Several years ago, someone I loved hurt me deeply. And even after discovering what had happened, I stayed in that relationship for two more years.

Why? Because I was afraid of what other people would think if I walked away.

When I finally left, I carried resentment toward her, but also toward myself. And that second burden was even harder to release.

During the writing of my book My Father Knew the Secret, I called my father, Bob Proctor, to ask him something I'd wondered about for years: How could he experience betrayal and disappointment without holding a grudge?

His answer changed the way I understood forgiveness.

Forgiveness is for you, not the person who hurt you.

In this deeply personal episode of Born to Win, I'm sharing a part of my life I haven't spoken about much, along with three powerful practices my father taught me that helped me find peace.

We'll explore:

• Why forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting, excusing, or allowing someone back into your life.

• How to stop replaying painful memories and take back control of your thinking.

• The remarkable power of sending love to someone who has hurt you.

• Why forgiving yourself can be the most difficult, and most liberating, step of all.

Here's what I've learned: We can't change what happened, but we can change how we carry it.

And sometimes, the greatest gift you can give yourself is to simply let go.

I call it dropping the rope.

If you've ever struggled to forgive someone, or yourself, I hope this conversation helps you find a little more peace and freedom.

And I'd love to hear from you. If this message resonates, leave a comment: "I dropped the rope."

Because your past doesn't have to hold your future hostage.

Simplified Success in 15 Minutes or Less.

My Father Knew the Secret: Growing Up with Bob Proctor: https://www.MyFatherKnewtheSecret.com

12 Easy Steps To Change Your Life: Stop Waiting For That BIG Thing: https://www.12easysteps.com

Quit Screwing Around: This is Your Life — now at Amazon, Audible, Walmart, Barnes & Noble and other retailers: https://www.brianproctor.com/quitscrewingaround

More from Brian Proctor: https://www.brianproctor.com