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  • Why Am I So Hard on Myself? Meet Your Inner Mean Girl

    Why Am I So Hard on Myself? Meet Your Inner Mean Girl
    2026/08/31
    Episode Description:Why is your inner critic so cruel? Licensed psychologist Dr. Natalie Marr breaks down where the "inner mean girl" comes from, the brain science behind self-judgment, and the two-step path to finally quieting her — for good.Summary:That voice in your head — the one that would never let you off the hook, the one you'd never dare use on a stranger — has a name and an origin story. In this episode, Dr. Natalie Marr, a licensed psychologist with 20+ years of clinical experience with women, unpacks why self-criticism isn't a character flaw but an adaptive skill, born in childhood moments like being picked last for kickball. She traces the neuroscience of self-judgment (hello, medial prefrontal cortex), explains why control and anxiety fuel the inner critic, and lays out the real two-part fix: building mindfulness to interrupt the pattern, and learning to love yourself so thoroughly that the inner mean girl finally has nothing left to protect you from.Keywords:inner critic, inner mean girl, self-love, self-criticism, self-judgment, negative self-talk, mindfulness, midlife, mental health, self-compassion, self-awareness, therapy, medial prefrontal cortex, anxiety and controlKey Topics:Where the inner critic actually comes from — and why it's not a flawWhy control feels like the antidote to anxiety, but is actually gasoline on the fireThe neuroscience of self-criticism: fight-or-flight, the limbic system, and the medial prefrontal cortexMindfulness as a rep-based, brain-building practice (not perfection or stillness)The link between "earning lovability" and chronic self-criticismWhy self-love — not willpower — is what actually weakens the inner criticChoosing yourself first as the antidote to a lifetime of trying to be "chosen"Childhood moments of social rejection (like being picked last) often plant the root of adult self-judgment patterns.People who are harshly judgmental of others are frequently just as harsh with themselves; outward and inward judgment tend to travel together.The real antidote to the inner critic isn't fighting her — it's building a genuine, compassionate relationship with yourself so her voice loses its power.Quotes:"Control is not the antidote to anxiety — it's an accelerant.""I choose me first."Chapters:00:00 — The Inner Voice and Its Origins02:33 — Why Self-Criticism Is Adaptive06:26 — Childhood Lessons and Social Dynamics09:47 — The Role of Shame and Survival15:16 — Trauma, Patterns, and Reinforcement21:25 — Building Mindfulness and the Brain26:05 — Practicing the Step Back and Perspective28:23 — Loving Yourself and Compassion30:45 — From Self-Criticism to Self-Love33:09 — The Path to Inner Peace and Self-AcceptanceBased in the Twin Cities? Dr. Natalie Marr offers a small private practice for consultations - NatalieMarrCounseling.com and LearnToLoveYourStory.comDISCLAIMER:The content in this podcast and video is not a replacement for therapy and is not clinical, medical, or mental health treatment. Dr. Natalie Marr is a Licensed Psychologist in the state of Minnesota. Her work with LearnToLoveYourStory.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and NatalieMarrCounseling.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠,⁠⁠ and all affiliate social media entities is educational and coaching based ONLY. She IS NOT offering therapeutic services of any kind on these mediums.If you or someone you know is having a mental health crisis or having thoughts of suicide, please use the following crisis resources (this is not an exhaustive list of available resources):National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: suicidepreventionlifeline.org/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠or CALL 988Crisis Text Line:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.crisistextline.org ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠or Text HOME to 741741
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    37 分
  • Empty Nest Syndrome: What Nobody Tells You

    Empty Nest Syndrome: What Nobody Tells You
    2026/08/18

    Summary:

    This episode explores the emotional shock many midlife women feel when they drop a child off at college and come home to a quieter house. Dr. Natalie reframes empty nesting as more than just missing a child - it can be a loss of role, identity, and a long-standing way of getting needs met. She also connects this transition to grief, self-worth, caregiving patterns, and the need to build a new relationship with yourself as kids become independent.

    Key words and Phrases

    • ​empty nesting
    • ​grief
    • ​identity loss
    • ​motherhood
    • ​caregiving
    • ​self-worth
    • ​pattern interrupt
    • ​self-abandonment
    • ​midlife transition
    • ​perimenopause
    • ​inner critic
    • ​rebuilding yourself
    • ​self-reflection


    Quotes:

    • ​“The reward to being a good parent is that they're gonna eventually not be in our lives every day."
    • ​“The person you're gonna pick up and caretake for the rest of your life, that's you.”
    • ​“Self-abandonment is not a great way to manage grief and loss.”
    • ​“What hurts is not just the child leaving, but the loss of being needed.”
    • ​The inner critic often shows up when you’re trying something new.”
    • ​“The work now is building a relationship with yourself.”

    Key topics

    • ​Empty nesting can feel intolerable because it is not only separation, it is a major identity disruption.
    • ​Dr. Natalie says many women are grieving the loss of the mom role, not just the child leaving home.
    • ​If self-worth has been tied to being a “good mom,” empty nesting can trigger a crisis of identity.
    • ​Some women have also used parenting as the main way they have ever felt loved, which makes the transition even harder.
    • ​Parenting may have functioned as a coping strategy to numb old wounds, especially for women who grew up in emotionally barren families.
    • ​Her central message is that the path forward is building a relationship with yourself through reflection, counseling, new friendships, and honest self-inquiry.


    Timestamps

    (00:00) Why empty nesting hits so hard in midlife(01:22) The grief of letting kids go(03:46) When over-contacting children can damage the relationship(04:16) Grieving the role, not just the child(05:44) When worthiness gets tied to caregiving(08:06) Parenting as a source of being loved(09:03) Grief as a recurring process, not a single emotion(10:03) Building a relationship with yourself(11:28) Parenting as a way to avoid other unresolved issues(12:18) Why counseling or coaching can help in this transition(13:39) How Gen X women were trained to hide needs(14:38) Midlife, menopause, and lower distress tolerance(16:31) Why caretaker dynamics strain adult relationships(18:27) Relearning relationships and needs outside the family role(20:48) Empty nesting as a pattern interrupt(21:47) Moving through transition with less resilience(23:15) Journaling, reflection, and making space for self-knowledge(24:42) The inner critic as a sign of change, not failure(27:09) Giving yourself permission to grieve(28:32) Reorganizing life around your own needs(29:31) Why self-abandonment makes adjustment harder


    DISCLAIMER:

    The content in this podcast and video is not a replacement for therapy and is not clinical, medical, or mental health treatment. Dr. Natalie Marr is a Licensed Psychologist in the state of Minnesota. Her work with https://LearnToLoveYourStory.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, https://NatalieMarrCounseling.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠,⁠⁠ and all affiliate social media entities is educational and coaching based ONLY. She IS NOT offering therapeutic services of any kind on these mediums.

    If you or someone you know is having a mental health crisis or having thoughts of suicide, please use the following crisis resources (this is not an exhaustive list of available resources):

    National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠or CALL 988

    Crisis Text Line:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.crisistextline.org/ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠or Text HOME to 741741
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    33 分
  • How the Need to Be Needed to Feel Loved Is Wrecking My Midlife Relationships

    How the Need to Be Needed to Feel Loved Is Wrecking My Midlife Relationships
    2026/08/10
    Summary:Dr. Natalie explores how childhood trauma and cultural conditioning influence women's relationships in midlife, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and self-compassion to foster healthier connections and personal growth.Previous episode referenced in today's podcast: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0UrV8UKGgDdedTdw50BUdM?si=HphWMDhFTpCeMN4nJTsbNgKeywordsmidlife, relationships, childhood trauma, self-awareness, self-compassion, women, emotional health, neurochemistry, estrogen, codependencyKey topicsImpact of childhood trauma on adult relationshipsNeurochemical changes during perimenopauseThe role of estrogen in emotional resiliencePatterns of codependency and caretakingThe importance of self-awareness and self-compassionCultural influences on women's self-worthStrategies for breaking unhealthy relationship cyclesThe significance of therapy and self-reflectionTakeaways:Childhood trauma creates ingrained relationship patterns that persist into midlife.Estrogen decline in perimenopause reduces stress tolerance and can exacerbate emotional challenges.Self-awareness and self-compassion are crucial for recognizing and changing harmful patterns.Many women unconsciously conflate being needed with being loved due to early life conditioning.Healing involves understanding the origins of these patterns and actively working to rewrite them. Sound bites"Unhelpful patterns from childhood still shape us.""Estrogen decline reduces stress tolerance.""Neurochemicals protect us, but they fade in midlife."Chapters00:00 Introduction to childhood friendships and midlife reflections3555:31:04 Recognizing unhelpful relationship patterns in midlife7083:17:58 The role of childhood caretaking and its influence on adult patterns10722:11:40 The neurochemical effects of estrogen decline in perimenopause14249:58:30 Resentment and relational patterns in women during midlife17833:18:40 Understanding the origins of relationship behaviors and patterns19944:25:31 The unprecedented nature of women's midlife experiences today20638:52:16 Personal stories of escaping dysfunctional family environments22083:18:59 The importance of self-awareness and self-compassion in healing23555:32:22 The neurochemical and emotional impact of estrogen decline251111:05:48 The cycle of resentment and codependency in midlife women274722:12:33 Changing relationship patterns through awareness and intentionality288611:05:58 Recognizing residual patterns and the need for self-investment309444:26:17 The blueprint of needing to be needed and its effects316666:39:38 The importance of self-awareness in relationship transformation337777:46:21 Self-compassion and understanding the origins of patterns350833:19:46 Releasing shame and embracing growth in midlife366666:39:47 Seeking therapy and support for healing and change388888:53:11 The urgency of addressing emotional and psychological health in midlife395833:19:55 Empowering women to own their midlife journey and transformationDISCLAIMER: The content in this podcast and video is not a replacement for therapy and is not clinical, medical, or mental health treatment. Dr. Natalie Marr is a Licensed Psychologist in the state of Minnesota. Her work with ⁠⁠(⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://LearnToLoveYourStory.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠)⁠ ⁠(⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://NatalieMarrCounseling.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠),⁠ and all affiliate social media entities is educational and coaching based ONLY. She IS NOT offering therapeutic services of any kind on these mediums. If you or someone you know is having a mental health crisis or having thoughts of suicide, please use the following crisis resources (this is not an exhaustive list of available resources):National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://suicidepreventionlife ⁠⁠or CALL 988 Crisis Text Line:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.crisistextline.org/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠or Text HOME to 741741
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    27 分
  • The Grief Nobody Sent Flowers For: The Hidden Grief of Midlife Transitions

    The Grief Nobody Sent Flowers For: The Hidden Grief of Midlife Transitions
    2026/08/03

    Summary: Dr. Natalie explores the often overlooked topic of grief and loss in midlife, sharing personal stories and practical insights on navigating transitions, relationships, and emotional healing to thrive in this life stage.

    Keywords: midlife, grief, loss, relationships, parenting, emotional healing, personal growth, mental health, transitions, self-care

    Key Topics

    • The role of grief and loss in midlife

    • Transition from transactional to relational parenting

    • Managing relationships and friendships in midlife

    • The importance of feeling and processing emotions

    • Self-care and emotional resilience in midlife

    Takeaways

    • Grief is a natural and necessary part of midlife transitions.

    • Moving from transactional to relational parenting requires emotional work.

    • Loss of friendships and relationships is common and can be healthy.

    • Feeling emotions fully is essential for healing and growth.

    • Protecting your energy and setting boundaries is vital in midlife.

    Sound Bites

    • "Loss is a big part of midlife."

    • "Emotions need to be felt."

    • "You can't ignore grief; it will wait."

    Chapters

    00:00Introduction: Grief and Loss in Midlife

    02:16Understanding Grief and Loss in Midlife

    04:06The Transition from Transactional to Relational Parenting

    05:32Dealing with the Emotional Impact of Children Leaving Home

    06:28A Personal Parenting Moment and Reflection

    07:50The Experience of Residency and Overworking

    09:13A Heartfelt Conversation with Her Son

    10:39The Importance of Feeling and Processing Emotions

    12:05Grieving the End of a Transactional Mothering Role

    13:27Building a New Relationship with Her Son

    15:17The Concept of Closing the Bones and Transitioning

    16:13The Joy of a Centered Midlife

    18:07Letting Go of Codependent Behaviors

    19:33Embracing the Future and New Possibilities

    20:58Healing from Family Trauma and Codependency

    22:21The Guilt of Ending Old Relationships

    23:44Moving Forward with Self-Compassion

    25:41Choosing Self-Care Over Old Patterns

    26:40Seeking Support and Professional Help

    27:00Disclaimer and Resources for Crisis Support

    DISCLAIMER: The content in this podcast and video is not a replacement for therapy and is not clinical, medical, or mental health treatment. Dr. Natalie Marr is a Licensed Psychologist in the state of Minnesota. Her work with ⁠⁠(⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://LearnToLoveYourStory.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠)⁠, ⁠(⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://NatalieMarrCounseling.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠),⁠ and all affiliate social media entities is educational and coaching based ONLY. She IS NOT offering therapeutic services of any kind on these mediums. If you or someone you know is having a mental health crisis or having thoughts of suicide, please use the following crisis resources (this is not an exhaustive list of available resources):National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org⁠/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠or CALL 988Crisis Text Line:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.crisistextline.org/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠or Text HOME to 741741
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    31 分
  • The Petty Comeback I Didn't Send

    The Petty Comeback I Didn't Send
    2026/07/27

    Summary:

    Dr. Natalie shares a personal story about handling petty moments, grief, and the importance of protecting your energy and self-worth during midlife. This episode offers insights into emotional resilience, boundaries, and self-acceptance.


    Keywords:

    midlife, emotional resilience, boundaries, self-worth, personal growth, grief, self-acceptance, mental health, self-protection, life transitions


    Key topics:

    • Handling petty moments and emotional triggers
    • The importance of boundaries and self-protection
    • Grief and loss during midlife
    • Self-acceptance and personal growth
    • Navigating relationships and social judgments


    Takeaways:

    • It's normal to feel petty or triggered; what matters is how you handle it.
    • Protect your energy fiercely and set boundaries around your self-worth.
    • Grief is a layered process, especially during major life transitions.
    • Your self-worth is independent of others' opinions or judgments.
    • Reframing social judgments as small-mindedness helps maintain emotional resilience.


    Sound bites:

    • "Growth doesn't mean we don't get triggered."
    • "Protect your energy fiercely in midlife."
    • "Your self-worth is independent of others' opinions."


    Chapters:

    00:00 Introduction to Petty Moments and Growth

    2972:11:16 Sharing Personal Stories of Divorce and Loss

    6999:58:15 The Pain of Being Misjudged and Abandoned

    11694:25:11 The Fast Pace of Life and Aging Children

    14888:52:05 Grief and Rejection in Midlife

    196111:05:39 The Temptation to Be Petty and How to Resist

    251666:39:27 Understanding Self-Worth Beyond Roles

    296944:26:18 Setting Boundaries and Protecting Your Energy

    333888:53:07 The Power of Self-Validation and Moving On

    DISCLAIMER: The content in this podcast and video is not a replacement for therapy and is not clinical, medical, or mental health treatment. Dr. Natalie Marr is a Licensed Psychologist in the state of Minnesota. Her work with ⁠⁠(⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://LearnToLoveYourStory.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠)⁠, ⁠(⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://NatalieMarrCounseling.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠),⁠ and all affiliate social media entities is educational and coaching based ONLY. She IS NOT offering therapeutic services of any kind on these mediums. If you or someone you know is having a mental health crisis or having thoughts of suicide, please use the following crisis resources (this is not an exhaustive list of available resources):National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org⁠/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠or CALL 988Crisis Text Line:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.crisistextline.org/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠or Text HOME to 741741
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    24 分
  • How Do You Stop Overfunctioning in Midlife? A Personal Story of Moving, Rest & Letting Go of Shame

    How Do You Stop Overfunctioning in Midlife? A Personal Story of Moving, Rest & Letting Go of Shame
    2026/07/01

    Summary:

    Dr. Natalie shares her personal journey through moving, shredding decades of paperwork, and navigating midlife challenges, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness, rest, and intentional living during perimenopause. She aims in this episode to quelch the shame we feel when looking back across our lives and realizing how overfunctioning has come at a high cost.


    Keywords:

    midlife, perimenopause, self-care, moving, trauma, overfunctioning, regulated nervous system, self-awareness, mental health, personal growth


    Key topics:

    • Midlife transition and self-awareness
    • The significance of rest and self-care during perimenopause
    • Personal stories of moving and decluttering as a metaphor for life changes
    • Trauma responses and overfunctioning in women
    • The importance of creating a sanctuary and setting boundaries


    Takeaways:

    • Rest is a form of self-love and essential for health during midlife.
    • Decluttering can be a powerful act of self-discovery and healing.
    • Overfunctioning is often a trauma response that comes at a high personal cost.
    • Self-awareness allows for conscious choices that align with one’s well-being.
    • Midlife is an opportunity for renewal and creating a life that feels right.

    Resources & Links to Connect with Dr. Natalie:Learn to Love Your Story Coaching- ⁠⁠⁠https://learntoloveyourstory.com⁠⁠⁠Dr. Natalie’s Counseling Practice - ⁠⁠⁠https://nataliemarcounseling.com⁠⁠⁠ If you are in MN, book your free 15-minute consultation with Dr. Natalie. Facebook:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/learntoloveyourstory⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/dr.nataliemarr⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Linked In:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/natalie-m-marr/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@doc.natalie⁠

    Sound bites

    • "Looking at it in black and white was profound."
    • "Midlife is a miracle, not a crisis."
    • "Choose yourself every day."

    Chapters

    00:00 Navigating Life Transitions

    08:32 The Weight of Paperwork and Memories

    17:13 The Cost of Overfunctioning

    23:19 Choosing Yourself in Midlife

    28:35 Creating a Centered Midlife

    34:34 Embracing Change and Choice

    DISCLAIMER: The content in this podcast and video is not a replacement for therapy and is not clinical, medical, or mental health treatment. Dr. Natalie Marr is a Licensed Psychologist in the state of Minnesota. Her work with ⁠⁠(⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://LearnToLoveYourStory.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠)⁠, ⁠(⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://NatalieMarrCounseling.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠),⁠ and all affiliate social media entities is educational and coaching based ONLY. She IS NOT offering therapeutic services of any kind on these mediums. If you or someone you know is having a mental health crisis or having thoughts of suicide, please use the following crisis resources (this is not an exhaustive list of available resources):National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org⁠/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠or CALL 988Crisis Text Line:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.crisistextline.org/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠or Text HOME to 741741
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    42 分
  • Caught in the Middle: Supporting Aging Parents While Raising Children

    Caught in the Middle: Supporting Aging Parents While Raising Children
    2026/06/04

    Summary

    This episode explores the challenges faced by the sandwich generation—adults caring for aging parents while managing their own families and careers. Dr. Natalie shares insights on emotional, physical, and financial strains, and offers practical strategies for setting boundaries, seeking support, and prioritizing self-care to navigate this demanding phase of life.


    Keywords

    sandwich generation, midlife, caregiving, self-care, boundaries, emotional health, physical strain, financial stress, family dynamics, personal growth


    Key Topics

    • Statistics on adult caregivers and gender differences
    • Emotional and physical toll of caregiving
    • Financial challenges faced by caregivers
    • The shift from transactional to relational caregiving
    • Strategies for setting boundaries and seeking support


    Takeaways

    • Prioritize self-care to sustain caregiving capacity
    • Set clear boundaries to protect emotional and physical health
    • Seek support and resources to avoid burnout
    • Reframe caregiving as an act of self-love and modeling for future generations
    • Recognize that saying no is a valid and necessary choice


    Sound bites:

    • "You're not alone in this."
    • "64% report moderate to high emotional strain."
    • "Saying no is a valid and necessary choice."


    Chapters

    • 00:00 Understanding the Sandwich Generation
    • 06:22 Financial Strain and Overwork
    • 11:19 Setting Boundaries and Self-Care
    • 16:39 Modeling Healthy Behaviors for Future Generations

    Resources & Links to Connect with Dr. Natalie:Learn to Love Your Story Coaching- ⁠⁠https://learntoloveyourstory.com⁠⁠Dr. Natalie’s Counseling Practice - ⁠⁠https://nataliemarcounseling.com⁠⁠ If you are in MN, book your free 15-minute consultation with Dr. Natalie. Facebook:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/learntoloveyourstory⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/dr.nataliemarr⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Linked In:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/natalie-m-marr/⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@doc.natalieDISCLAIMER:

    The content in this podcast and video is not a replacement for therapy and is not clinical, medical, or mental health treatment. Dr. Natalie Marr is a Licensed Psychologist in the state of Minnesota. Her work with ⁠⁠(⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://LearnToLoveYourStory.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠)⁠, ⁠(⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://NatalieMarrCounseling.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠),⁠ and all affiliate social media entities is educational and coaching based ONLY. She IS NOT offering therapeutic services of any kind on these mediums. If you or someone you know is having a mental health crisis or having thoughts of suicide, please use the following crisis resources (this is not an exhaustive list of available resources):National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org⁠/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠or CALL 988

    Crisis Text Line:⁠

    ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.crisistextline.org/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠or Text HOME to 741741
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    31 分
  • The Exhausting Lie that Perfectionism Sold You

    The Exhausting Lie that Perfectionism Sold You
    2026/05/22

    Summary:

    This episode explores the impact of perfectionism, societal conditioning, and hormonal changes during midlife on women's mental health. Dr. Natalie shares data, personal insights, and practical advice to help women love themselves and navigate this transformative phase with resilience.


    Keywords:

    midlife, women, perfectionism, mental health, hormonal changes, self-love, resilience, menopause, societal conditioning


    Key topics:

    • ​Perfectionism and its impact on mental health
    • ​The connection between hormonal changes and emotional well-being
    • ​Societal conditioning and self-betrayal in women
    • ​Practical steps to cultivate self-love and resilience


    Sound bites:

    "Relearn who you are and what you want."

    "Deserving love even when you screw up."

    "You do not have to be good."


    Chapters:

    00:00 The Burden of Perfectionism in Midlife

    03:24 Understanding the Mental Health Crisis for Women

    11:29 The Impact of Hormonal Changes and Medical Misunderstandings

    28:13 Reclaiming Self-Worth and Breaking Free from Perfectionism

    36:18 Introduction and Disclaimer

    37:55 Crisis Resources and Support

    Resources & Links to Connect with Dr. Natalie:

    Learn to Love Your Story Coaching- ⁠https://learntoloveyourstory.com⁠

    Dr. Natalie’s Counseling Practice - ⁠https://nataliemarcounseling.com⁠ If you are in MN, book your free 15-minute consultation with Dr. Natalie.

    Facebook:⁠ ⁠⁠facebook.com/learntoloveyourstory⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠ instagram.com/dr.nataliemarr⁠⁠⁠⁠Linked In:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠linkedin.com/in/natalie-m-marr-psy-d-lp-6a9298147⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠tiktok.com/@doc.natalie⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Resources:

    Mary Oliver's Wild Geese Poem - https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/45587/wild-geese

    Women's Health Initiative Study - https://www.nih.gov/news-events/nih-research-matters/women-s-health-initiative

    Understanding Perfectionism in Women - https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-moment-youth/201911/the-perfectionism-epidemic

    Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) Information - https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/menopause/in-depth/hormone-therapy/art-20046372


    Disclaimer:

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    National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org⁠/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠CALL 988


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