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Don't Lose Your Color-Coded Friendship Boundaries

Don't Lose Your Color-Coded Friendship Boundaries

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Not every relationship is meant to stay as close as it once was. In this episode, Karen shares her color-coded way of looking at friendships, workplace relationships, trust, and what happens when the people in our lives naturally evolve from where the relationship first started.TRANSCRIPT:00:03Hi, I’m Karen Thrall. Welcome to the Don’t Lose Podcast, where we talk about stories that have meaning, life lessons, and something worth thinking about. I’m filming this week from beautiful Revelstoke, BC, surrounded by mountains and rivers. Today’s episode is called Don’t Lose Your Color-Coded Friendship Boundaries, and we’re talking about how relationships evolve in both our personal and professional lives.00:47I’ve often struggled with what to do when a relationship starts to feel different. Sometimes I feel hurt, confused, pressured, drained, or even deeply grateful and connected. But what happens when you notice the relationship changing?01:16Years ago, a friend showed me a program for elementary school students that used colors to help kids understand kindness, friendliness, bullying, and how to respond. I thought it was brilliant, and it made me think this applies to adults too. So I expanded the colors. Today we’re talking about green, blue, yellow, orange, red, grey, and black. As you listen, think about the people in your life and where they might fit.02:40Green is the deepest circle. These are the people you trust completely, the ones who see you on your worst days and still love you. They know the everyday version of you, they journey with you, and you can fully be yourself. This group should be small. These people have earned that place in your life through trust, consistency, and time.03:48Blue relationships are also strong and lasting, but they may not be part of your everyday life. They may live far away or simply not see every side of you, but the connection is still easy and trusted. You confide in them, share things you wouldn’t share with most people, and there’s a natural bond. Both green and blue relationships require emotional investment, and there’s reciprocity. It isn’t one-sided. There’s a mutual sharing of life.05:20Yellow is for people you genuinely adore, but timing, geography, or life circumstances keep the relationship from becoming deeper. These are the people you think, “If we were neighbours, we’d probably hang out all the time.” You may only talk once a year, but when you do, it feels easy. They hold a special place in your heart.06:29In the workplace, yellow might be the colleague you love having lunch with or working alongside. You have great camaraderie, maybe you go for happy hour, and you enjoy each other. But your lives outside work are different, so the friendship doesn’t necessarily move into weekends or vacations. You still value and appreciate each other.07:17Orange moves us into more social or professional relationships. You might have a great boss who mentors you and plays a huge role in your career, but there isn’t necessarily emotional intimacy. Or you might have people you love seeing at parties. You laugh, connect, and have a great time, but you keep your cards a little closer. The relationship is warm, but there is more distance and less emotional investment.08:46Years ago, I heard someone say, “We may not be friends, but we can be friendly.” That stayed with me. Not every good relationship has to become a friendship. Some relationships are perfectly healthy at the surface level, and that can be enough.09:27Red is what I call the barista relationship. It’s simple, polite friendliness. Someone knows your coffee order, you smile, say hello, and treat each other kindly. Red is old-fashioned kindness. Anyone can sit there. And there may be people in your life who actually belong there, even if you’ve been trying to keep them in a deeper circle.10:18During COVID, many people started rethinking relationships. When routines disappeared and people weren’t socializing the same way, some friendships naturally drifted. It raised a question: am I investing in this relationship because it still fits, or simply because I always have?10:47Relationships evolve. You may have a colleague you never want to stop working with, and then one of you leaves. At first you stay connected, meet up after work, and make plans. Eventually it may fade. That doesn’t mean the relationship failed. It may simply have belonged to a particular season of your life. You can still hold that person in your heart and appreciate what the relationship was.11:34Give yourself permission to let relationships change. This was hard for me. I felt pressure to maintain relationships at a level they were no longer meant to be maintained at. If someone didn’t respond, I would wonder what I had done wrong. But the colors helped me see it differently. Maybe we’re just not blue anymore. Maybe we’re orange now. That realization brought relief because I didn’t ...
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