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Divorce: The Petty Fights That Cost You Thousands. What Top Attorneys Want You to Know...

Divorce: The Petty Fights That Cost You Thousands. What Top Attorneys Want You to Know...

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Guided Divorce MeditationsIf you’re stuck in a divorce fight that is making you anxious, angry, or completely unable to think clearly, start here.Our Guided Divorce Meditations are designed for the moments when you need to regulate your nervous system before you respond, negotiate, argue, or make another expensive decision.Divorce Crash CourseGoing through divorce and wondering what you should fight for, what you should let go, and how to avoid making expensive mistakes?Our Divorce Crash Course is a private podcast and guidebook designed to help you understand the divorce process, make smarter decisions, and avoid costly emotional mistakes.Typically priced at $150, it’s available now for $50, thanks to our angel underwriters OurFamilyWizard and Soberlink.Episode Show NotesPeople spend thousands of dollars fighting over some truly ridiculous things in divorce.A wooden spoon. A blender. A sixth-grade yearbook. Beanie Babies. Airline miles. Even a tanning bed.And as funny as those stories sound, there is a very real reason they matter.Because most of the time, the thing you are fighting over is not actually the thing you are fighting over.In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport and family law attorney Morgan Stogsdill are joined by attorneys Sarah Jacobs and Jamie Berger of Jacobs Berger for a conversation about the emotional and financial cost of digging in during divorce. One client spent hours in court fighting over a wooden spoon named Willy Woo. Another divorce came down to a battle over a blender. And one case required attorneys to spend days sorting through tubs of Beanie Babies because neither side could let them go. The stories are absurd.The behavior behind them is not.Divorce Can Turn Small Things Into Expensive BattlesWhen you are going through divorce, emotion can completely distort value.An object may be worth $100, but suddenly it represents your marriage, your history, your independence, your power, or your need to finally “win.”That is where people start spending far more in attorney fees than the thing they are fighting over is actually worth.In the episode, Andrea points out that the fight over one wooden spoon likely cost thousands of dollars in legal fees alone. And that is exactly why divorce strategy matters.Before you dig in, you have to ask yourself:What is this actually worth?Not emotionally.Financially.The Real Problem May Be ControlSometimes the fight is not about property at all.Morgan explains that many of these so-called “squirrel issues” ultimately come down to control. When someone feels like they have lost control of their life, their finances, their family, or the divorce process itself, they may try to regain that feeling of control by pushing the other person’s buttons. Sarah adds that fear can drive the same behavior: fear of change, fear of being alone, fear of losing the life you knew, and fear of what comes next. That means the blender may not be about the blender.The yearbook may not be about the yearbook.And the airline miles may not be about the airline miles.Sometimes the fight itself has become a way to stay connected to the relationship, hold onto control, or avoid confronting the much bigger reality that the marriage is ending.Principle Has a Price TagOne of the strongest lines in this episode comes from Jamie:Principle has a price tag.If you are fighting over something purely because you believe you are right, you need to understand what that principle is going to cost you.That cost may be financial.It may also be emotional.You can absolutely decide that something matters enough to fight for. But that decision should be intentional—not reactive.Jamie recommends being honest with yourself and with your attorney about what truly matters to you and why. Treat Divorce Like a Business TransactionMorgan’s advice is simple: do the math.Take the emotion out of the issue for a moment and write down the actual numbers.What is the item worth?What would it cost to replace?How many hours will your attorney spend fighting over it?How much will those hours cost?What are you potentially giving up in order to get it?Sometimes seeing those numbers on paper is enough to change your perspective. That does not mean divorce is emotionless.It means your decisions should not be controlled by those emotions.Give Your Attorney the “Shark Tank” PitchSarah offers another test:If you are determined to fight for something, explain why it matters in a way that would actually sound reasonable to a judge.Sell the argument.Explain the value.Explain what you are willing to give up in exchange.If you cannot make the case convincingly to your own attorney, you may want to reconsider whether this is really the hill you want to die on. And that matters beyond the object itself.Being unreasonable about a relatively small issue can affect how your position is perceived when the court is dealing with things that matter much more—support, custody, ...
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