Your child walks through the front door after time at their other home, talking a mile a minute about everything you missed. What your face does next matters more than any custody schedule.

In this episode of the Divorce Discussions Podcast, host Angie Weber sits down with Lyerly Spongberg, founder of Step Up With Lyerly and a Certified ADR Divorce Coach, High Conflict Coach, and Co-Parenting Specialist. Lyerly brings more than 20 years of personal experience to this conversation, from her own high-conflict divorce to raising a blended family of six now-grown children.

Lyerly explains why a parenting plan is really about your child's time with you, not your time with your child, and why planning ahead for cell phones, driving, college, and who pays for what can head off years of conflict. She breaks down when parallel parenting makes more sense than traditional co-parenting, shares her three-zone chaos filter for letting go of what you can't control, and opens up about the grief that still catches her when her kids come home from trips she wasn't on.

Whether you're just starting out or years into a co-parenting relationship that isn't working, this conversation will help you take a step back and keep your kids at the center.

Connect with Lyerly:
Step Up With Lyerly: https://stepupwithlyerly.com
Lyerly on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stepup_withlyerly/
Lyerly on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lyerly-spongberg-2968483/
Lyerly on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StepUpWithLyerly

Should I stay or should I go? If that question has been running through your mind in the car, at the dinner table, or at two in the morning, this episode is for you.

Host Angie Weber sits down with Karen Covy, a divorce coach, lawyer, mediator, author, and speaker who has seen divorce from every angle. Karen explains how to make a clear, confident decision about your marriage using your head, your heart, and your gut, and why the advice you get from friends, family, and even AI can lead you astray.

Karen also shares how to prepare before you ever say the word divorce, what that first conversation with your spouse can actually sound like, and what it really means to become the CEO of your own divorce. Plus, she talks about protecting your kids from conflict, letting go of the small stuff in co-parenting, and the special considerations that come with gray divorce.

Whether you're still on the fence or already in the thick of it, Karen's reminder is one to hold onto: no decision is still a decision.

Connect with Karen:
Website: https://karencovy.com
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCjduJ54De46L1g69v3yQgrQ
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/KarenCovy
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karencovylawyer
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/karencovy/
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@karen.covy
X: https://x.com/KarenCovy

The Divorce Discussions Podcast by the Divorce Support Collective reimagines the process of divorce through collaboration and support. New episodes every Wednesday. Follow the show, leave a review, and visit thedivorcesupportcollective.com for resources and support.

You get the text. Before you even finish reading it your jaw is tight, and you have somehow already typed half a response you are absolutely going to regret sending. It happens so fast that it does not feel like a decision. It feels like who divorce turned you into.

It is not who you are. It is a pattern, and patterns can be studied.

Tara Scott has spent twenty years walking into organizations all over the world asking one question: what is actually driving the behavior here? Then her own divorce took that question and made it deeply personal. In this episode she brings behavioral science all the way down to the level of a single text message from an ex.

Tara and Angie get into what amygdala hijack actually is and why your thinking brain has such a hard time staying online when your phone lights up. They talk through the Responsibility Process, a framework for noticing whether you are sitting in blame, justification, or shame before you fire off a response. They get honest about what it costs to keep pushing when your tank is already empty, and about the grief that shows up on a wedding anniversary that no longer exists.

You will hear why Tara keeps a note stuck to her phone that says give yourself time, why she is certain nobody else is ever going to hand you that time, and how to build a practice that gets you back to steady faster each time instead of expecting to never get knocked over at all.

Tara's book, Breaking the Permission Loop, releases in October.

Connect with Tara:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/taralyonscott/
https://www.tarascott.net/

This is Episode 19 of the Divorce Discussions Podcast by the Divorce Support Collective, where we seek to reimagine the process of divorce through collaboration and support. New episodes drop every Wednesday. Find out more at https://www.thedivorcesupportcollective.com/.