This week we're talking about something most of us carry around without even realizing it-the clutter in our minds.

Not a "new year, new me" conversation.....but to clear out what doesn't belong anymore.

Old lies.

Repetitive thought.

Past labels that we've already outgrown but somehow still believe.

We talk about where these core lies come from, trauma, failures, rejection, grief, divorce and how they quietly shape the way we see ourselves and our lives.

At some point you have to ask yourself: am I a prisoner to my own mind?

In this episode we unpack:

• How to recognize the lies we've normalized
• Why decluttering your mind is necessary for growth
• How to work through the lies once you identify them
• The power of letting trusted people speak truth into your life

Because freedom starts when the lies lose their place in your head.

Also....Somehow Forrest Gump makes another appearance.

Pull up a chair and join the conversation…..you always have a seat at our table!

Love, Ash & Chess

What if you were never "too much"...just in spaces that were too small?

In this episode, we dive deep into identity the labels we picked up, the roles we performed, and the versions of ourselves we created to survive. We talk about what it means to stop mowing over behaviors and finally pull up the roots. Because becoming isn't about reinventing yourself. It's about remembering who you were before the world told you who to be.

We unpack what it looks like to outgrow old identities, release survival roles like the fixer or the peacekeeper, and face the uncomfortable but peaceful feeling of growth.

You're not becoming someone new. You're becoming someone true.

And, you always have a seat at our table.

Love, Ash & Chess

This episode was shaped by feedback from you and most of it came from men.

You asked us to go deeper on boundaries and the pressure women sometimes place on you. So we did.

We unpack healthy vs. unhealthy boundaries and why healthy boundaries protect your peace instead of controlling others. They regulate, not retaliate. And they don't damage healthy relationships they expose unhealthy ones.

We also talk honestly about the expectations men often carry, the pressure to provide, to perform, to lead and the weight of "potential."

This conversation isn't about blame. It's about awareness, growth, and doing relationships better.

Men- we heard you.

And ladies....this one might stretch us a little.

And remember....You always have a seat at our table.

Love Ash & Chess

Friendship when you're younger? Effortless, spontaneous, built on proximity. Friendship as an adult? Calendars, boundaries, therapy terms...and still a little chaos.

In this episode, we rewind to our first impressions of each other and talk about how friendship actually changes as you grow- and into yourself.

We get into:

• Why adult friendships feel deeper (and sometimes harder)
• Friends in different seasons of life
• Outgrowing friendships without turning into villains
• Long-distance friendships and what really keeps them alive
• Red flags and green flags in friendships
• And how we handle conflict without burning the whole thing down

And of course, we wrapped it up with a game of "Who's Who?" calling out which friend we each are...and let's just say, there were no lies told.

Whether you're the planner, the peacemaker, the blunt one, or the "I'll text back in three business days" friend....there's room for you here.

Because around here, you always have a seat at our table!

Love, Ash & Chess

It's Valentine's Week, so you already know......we're talking romantic relationships.

Because romance in 2026 looks different than it did in 2006.

In this episode, we dive into the real stuff-not just the butterflies and date nights, but the communication (yes....communication communication, communication it's key), the buzzwords, and the baggage we all pretend we don't have.

We're unpacking:

- Dating after divorce - Gosting, breadcruming, love bombing, situationships, cuffing season, benching....(are we dating or playing fantasy football?) - Apology langues vs love languages - Red flags vs green flags - Emotional maturity - And why silly nicknames might matter more than you think

Basically, if you've ever wondered, "Is this healthy.....or am I ignoring something?" This one's for you.

And yes- Ash may or may not call out Riley Green at the end. You're welcome.

Whether you're married, dating, healing, or opting out of the pool entirely- you always have a seat at our table!

Love, Ash & Chess