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Delight in Parenting with Dajana Yoakley

Delight in Parenting with Dajana Yoakley

著者： Empowering parents with peaceful & playful strategies to bring the delight back into parenting. 'Delight in Parenting with Dajana Yoakley' is your guide to a thriving family life.
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Welcome to Delight in Parenting Podcast. Let's into the essence of peaceful, playful and emotionally intelligent parenting, where I share the insights, expert advice & research, and support necessary to transform your parenting approach from struggling to delighting. Say goodbye to conflict and embrace cooperation, creating a more joyful home environment. Join me as we embark on a path to deeper connection and more peace & play within our families. I'm excited to connect and share this journey with you through each episode!

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  • Why Mindful, Connected Parents Can Still Feel Stuck With Their Child’s Anxiety

    Why Mindful, Connected Parents Can Still Feel Stuck With Their Child’s Anxiety
    2026/08/27
    Have you ever done everything the books told you to do, and your child is still anxious anyway?You validate. You get low and slow. You say things like “I can see this is really hard” and “I’m right here.” You’ve read enough to know that shaming a scared kid never works, so you don’t shame them. You stay calm. You connect.And somehow, the anxiety is still there tomorrow. Sound familiar?I want to tell you about a mom I’ll call Sarah, because her story is the one that kept coming up as I recorded this week’s podcast episode.Sarah isn’t new to this work. She knows what co-regulation means. She knows behavior is communication. When her son gets anxious at bedtime and doesn’t want her to leave, she stays, because she doesn’t want him to feel abandoned. And it helps, in the moment. He calms down.So the next night, he needs her again. And the night after that. Then he doesn’t want to go to his friend’s house unless she stays close by. Then there’s a field trip he says he can’t do, and she doesn’t want to push, because she knows forcing him could backfire and rupture the trust she’s worked so hard to build.Every single thing Sarah is doing comes from love. From real, hard-won knowledge. And her son’s world keeps getting smaller anyway.It’s completely normal to feel confused by that. I know it’s hard when you’re doing everything “right” and the fear just keeps finding a new door to walk through. Bedtime. Then school. Then friendships. Then anywhere you’re not standing right next to him.Here’s what I’ve come to believe after years of sitting with parents like Sarah: this usually isn’t a knowledge problem. It’s a calibration problem.You already know how to validate. You already know how to regulate yourself before you react. What nobody quite tells you is what comes after the validating. Your child says “I still don’t want to go,” and now what? Do you encourage him forward? Do you let it go for tonight? Do you hold the moment a little longer?That gray zone right there is where the real work lives. And it’s where even the most conscious, connected parents get stuck.Because here’s a distinction that changed everything for me: calm and confidence are not the same thing.A child can become very good at calming down and still walk away from every hard moment believing, “I can only be okay once this feeling stops.” What we actually want for our kids is different. We want them to be able to say, “I’m anxious, I’m not sure how this is going to go, and I can still handle this.” That’s a whole different kind of strength, and it doesn’t come from comfort alone.Calm isn’t the goal. Confidence is.If any part of Sarah’s story sounds like your house right now, I don’t think you need more information about validation. I think you need help with the gray zone, the part in between “I hear you” and “now what do we do.”That’s exactly what Dr. Christopher Willard and I are covering in our free live workshop:→ From Anxiety to ConfidenceWe’ll walk through why the same fear keeps showing up in new forms, how family life can quietly start revolving around anxiety without anyone meaning for that to happen, and why so many mindful, connected parents still feel stuck. Most importantly, we’ll talk about what actually helps a child move from “I need you to make this go away” to “I can handle this.”This is live, and it isn’t getting recorded and sent out later, so if you want to be there, now’s the time to grab your spot.→ Register free here: delightinparenting.com/anxietyWhen you register, you’ll also get the free Anxiety Pattern Finder, a quick check-in to help you notice where anxiety may already be showing up in your home in ways that don’t always look like fear on the surface.If you’ve been carrying that quiet question, “I should know how to do this by now,” I want you to hear this clearly: the problem was never that you don’t care enough or haven’t learned enough. You have. What you need now is the next layer, and that’s exactly where we’re headed together.Warmly, DajanaP.S. Connection matters. Regulation matters. And they were never meant to be the finish line on their own. The real goal is a child who can feel scared and still know, deep down, “I can handle hard things.” That’s what we’re building toward in this workshop. Save your seat: delightinparenting.com/anxiety This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit delightinparenting.substack.com/subscribe
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  • 76. When Mealtime Becomes a Battlefield: The Anxiety Hiding Behind Your Picky Eater

    76. When Mealtime Becomes a Battlefield: The Anxiety Hiding Behind Your Picky Eater
    2026/08/20
    Have you ever stood at the stove making a third different dinner, wondering if you’re the only parent whose kid survives on the same five foods?You’re not doing anything wrong. And I promise, that scene at your table is more common than you think.This week I’m bringing back my most downloaded episode ever, my conversation with Katie Kimball, a former teacher, two-time TEDx speaker, and mom of four who created Kids Cook Real Food and writes at Kitchen Stewardship. I recorded it a while back, and I keep coming back to it, because what she says about picky eating is really the same thing I keep saying about anxious kids in general. It just shows up at the dinner table instead of at drop-off or bedtime.I wanted to resurface it now, right before September 10th, because if you’ve got a child who struggles with worry anywhere in their life, this episode will help you see the pattern clearly before we dig into it together live.Here are three shifts from our conversation that I haven’t stopped thinking about.1. It’s rarely about the food.I know it’s hard not to take it personally when your child pushes the plate away again. Katie’s perspective on this stuck with me. A lot of what gets labeled picky eating is actually something physical hiding in plain sight, a child who hasn’t built the jaw strength to chew tougher foods, an undiagnosed food sensitivity, even constipation. And when it isn’t physical, it’s often anxiety wearing a disguise. Eating, sleeping, and using the bathroom are some of the only places a child has real control over their own body. When the rest of life feels unpredictable, that control shows up at the table.It’s completely normal to feel like your child is doing this on purpose. Almost always, they’re not.2. Zero pressure to eat doesn’t mean zero boundaries.This is the part that connects directly to what I teach about anxiety more broadly. Katie was clear that pressuring a child to eat backfires, because it’s a promise you can’t actually keep unless you’re willing to force feed, and kids learn fast when a parent doesn’t mean what they say. But she was just as clear that removing all boundaries creates its own kind of anxiety. A child with no structure around food, no expectation to at least sit at the table, doesn’t feel free. They feel unmoored.There’s a specific line she shared for holding that middle ground, one that’s honest enough for a child to trust and firm enough to actually mean something. I won’t spoil it here, but it’s a phrase I’ve started using myself.3. Confidence gets built through ownership, not outcome.I know it’s hard to celebrate a meal that ends in three bites and a lot of pushed-around peas. But Katie made a point I keep returning to: what you praise matters more than what gets eaten. She also talked about getting kids into the kitchen itself in small, doable ways, and how that changes a child’s relationship with food in a way the dinner table alone never could.She also shared her go-to approach for what to actually put on the plate and in what order, something she calls “leading with your ace.” It’s simple once you hear it, but it’s the kind of thing that’s easy to get backwards without knowing why it works.None of this means every meal needs to be a production, and Katie was honest about that too. Some nights you just need everyone fed.Click below to listen to the full conversation with Katie, including her take on picky eating in teenagers, the boundary she calls “leading with your ace,” and the free five-day picky eating challenge she offers listeners of this podcast.I’ve had a lot of you tell me this one changed how you think about your table. If you haven’t heard it yet, or it’s been a while, this is a good week to give it a listen.Want more support with the anxiety underneath the surface, whether it shows up at meals, bedtime, or drop-off?That’s exactly what Dr. Christopher Willard and I are digging into together in a free live workshop called From Anxiety to Confidence, on Thursday, September 10th.I’ll be honest with you: calm isn’t the goal. Confidence is. Helping your child feel better in the moment isn’t always the same thing as helping them believe they can handle hard things later. We’ll talk about why anxious patterns keep repeating even when you’re doing everything right, and how to interrupt that cycle while it’s still this easy to change.If you’ve got a child who struggles with worry, whether that’s around food, sleep, school, or something else entirely, I’d love to have you there.Join us for From Anxiety to ConfidenceTo learn more about Katie Kimball & Kitchen Stewardship:https://www.kitchenstewardship.com/ Connect with Dajana YoakleyDelight in ParentingStep #1 — Get the 3 Steps to Reset Your Nervous System FREE Guide or book a FREE 20 minute consult.https://www.delightinparenting.comhttps://www.delightinparenting.com/book-onlineStep #2 — Connect With The ...
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  • 75. Calm isn't the goal. Confidence is.

    75. Calm isn't the goal. Confidence is.
    2026/08/14
    What if helping your child feel better right now isn’t the same thing as helping them become confident over time?Because when your anxious child is spiraling, every instinct in your body says the same thing.→ Make this easier→ Help them calm down→ Get them through the moment→ Whatever it takes, just make the fear stopAnd of course it does. That instinct comes from love.In my latest podcast episode, I sat down with Dr. Christopher Willard, a clinical psychologist and author of twenty books on mindfulness and self-compassion, and he gave me a way of thinking about anxiety that I haven’t stopped turning over since we recorded it.He compares your child’s anxiety to a smoke alarm. Not a fire alarm. A smoke alarm.It’s completely normal for that alarm to go off when there’s no actual danger in the room. That jolt of panic or dread your child feels doesn’t mean something is wrong with them. Their nervous system is doing exactly what it was built to do. It’s trying to protect them.Here are three shifts from our conversation.1. You are the tool, not the techniqueDr. Willard put it plainly. When kids are anxious, or panicking, or shutting down, the best resource in the room isn’t a breathing exercise or a script. It’s you, staying present and steady, even while they’re dysregulated.I know it’s hard to hear that when you’re already stretched thin. It doesn’t mean you have to be calm all the time. It means your presence matters more than your perfect response.2. Repair matters more than the ruptureWe talked about what happens when you lose your patience, and he shared a story about snapping at his own wife in front of his kids that made me feel a lot less alone in my own imperfect moments.His point wasn’t that the outburst was fine. It’s that what your child actually learns from is watching you come back afterward. How do you apologize? How do you reconnect? That’s the part that shapes them, not the mistake itself.3. Relief and confidence aren’t always the same thingThis is the part that stuck with me most.Sometimes a child feels calmer because the hard thing went away. Because the plan changed. Because someone stepped in. Because the uncertainty disappeared.That relief is real. But confidence grows from something different. It grows when a child starts discovering, “This feels hard, and I can still handle it.”Click here to listen to the full conversation with Dr. Willard, including his thoughts on teaching kids self-compassion through play, why conflict with your child isn’t the problem, and the three-breath practice he gives to parents who feel like they’re about to lose it the second they walk in the door.To learn more about Dr. Christopher Willard:https://www.drchristopherwillard.comWant more support?That conversation with Dr. Willard really stuck with me, especially the part about the alarm system in our brains. When you see your child spiraling, everything in you wants to make it easier, help them calm down, get them through the moment. And that instinct comes from love.But here’s the question I’ve been thinking about a lot lately. Is helping my child feel better right now the same thing as helping them become more confident over time?Not always.That’s why I keep coming back to this idea: calm isn’t the goal. Confidence is.This is exactly what Dr. Willard and I are digging into together in a free live webinar called From Anxiety to Confidence.We’re going to talk about why anxious patterns can keep repeating even when you’re doing everything you can to help, why immediate relief and lasting confidence aren’t always the same thing, and how anxiety can start quietly organizing more and more of family life.If you’ve got a child who struggles with worry, whether that shows up as separation anxiety, bedtime struggles, school avoidance, social anxiety, reassurance-seeking, control, or a nervous system that seems to be on high alert more often than you’d like, I’d really love to have you there.Join us for From Anxiety to ConfidenceConnect with Dajana Yoakley Delight in ParentingStep #1: Get the 3 Steps to Reset Your Nervous System FREE Guide.Step #2: Connect With The FREE Facebook Community.Step #3: Follow me on Social Media:https://www.instagram.com/delightinparenting/https://www.facebook.com/delightinparentingcoaching/www.youtube.com/@DelightinParentinghttps://www.linkedin.com/in/delightinparenting/ This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit delightinparenting.substack.com/subscribe
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