When I was first a believer, I had a very strong view of what was right and what was wrong.

I had a sense that anything I was uncomfortable with was definitely wrong.

After a lot of of life…and sadly time away from Jesus…and God healing and redeeming my journey, I've come to realize that there are things I am uncomfortable with, but are not necessarily sin.

And there are things I am comfortable with that aren't sin necessarily.

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Quote from a recent Coaching Program graduate:

The program is great! I love the focus on self-growth, personal responsibility and spiritual practices that unlock God's love in our heart and the heart of our spouse. God truly used this program to change my life...

I have a softened heart toward my wife now. I desire to love her the way God desires. I went from a miserable and sexless marriage to a wonderful and passionate sex-filled marriage!

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Because you and I are not meant to be led by what's comfortable.

We are meant to be led by the word of God.

Today, I want to tackle some really important topics that will help, I think, clarify topics and themes that often trip Christians up.

And it makes people love each other less.

In your marriage. And your friendships. And your schools. And your workplace.

We want to be defining our life in our direction.

We do not want to be defining how we should behave and what we should do and what we should think simply because it's the opposite of what the world does.

We need to define ourselves by what God wants us to be doing.

So today, I'm hoping that when you listen, you will gain a level of freedom in your heart and thoughts that you maybe didn't have before listening.

Because God calls us to freedom.

In our relationships, in our thoughts, and in our hearts.

That's why he came to set us free.

And I want that for you.

Let's get into it.

Blessings,

Belah

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PPS - Here is a quote from another recent Coaching program graduate:
My biggest marital struggle was resentment and poor communication. I was so unhappy.
My husband is my best friend, and I didn't want to be around him or be intimate...
[Now,] our communication is so much better.
I learned to be vulnerable which showed him I trust him. In return he feels safe to be vulnerable with me.

Ten years of no physical intimacy.

That is where husband & wife, Jim & Willa, found themselves.

For 38 years of marriage, Willa described her husband as a "my way or the highway" kind of guy. And up until recently, Jim felt so frustrated and angry in his marriage that he wanted to leave.

They were sleeping in separate bedrooms, had busy lives, he left before she woke up just to avoid her most days.

Jim shared they literally hadn't touched in years.

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Quote from a recent Coaching Program graduate:

"Week by week in this program, I've been taking an honest look at myself and owning the ways I've dropped the ball in our marriage. I've been working on making [my wife] feel safe, known, and cherished, and when things get tough, I've been fighting my old habit of pulling away by choosing to lean in instead.

I've been putting what I'm learning into practice—going from arguing almost every day to just a few times in the last six months, looking at my own heart first instead of blaming [my wife], and using the tools from MR so I'm not stuck feeling helpless when things aren't going well... I'm seeing real growth in how I love her and how we connect."

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They did a marriage program. It was good information, but by the end, it didn't help.

Jim was at the end of his rope. He decided that he was ready to leave.

When Willa suggested Delight Your Marriage, he essentially said: "I'll try it, but if this doesn't work, that's the end."

What shocked him was the change that took place between the two of them week by week.

He had to be willing to feel silly and do something new. She had to be willing to slow down enough to focus on her highest priority human.

They both had to humble themselves, roll up their sleeves, and do the work.

And the Lord changed everything.

Now they're connecting, laughing, hugging, and yes, even intimacy. In just a couple of months, they're enjoying the best connection they've ever had in 38 years.

Maybe it's also been a decade for you of no physical intimacy.
Maybe it's been even longer.
Maybe you haven't laughed together in years.
Maybe you don't even like being in the same room together.

We want you to know that you are not alone, and God is still working.

Take this with you:
No one is too far gone for God.
No marriage is irredeemable.
And He can bring delight to your marriage.

Blessings,

The Delight Your Marriage Team

PS - Ready to take the next step in healing your marriage? Schedule a free Clarity Call today (before prices increase!)

PPS - Here is a quote from another recent Coaching program graduate:
"As I reflect back over this journey, I see how God has led me closer to Him. I have begun to understand what it means in Romans when Paul says; "Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind….." Truly grasping the perspective that [my wife] is God's beautifully made daughter has changed everything for me. She is a blessing and a gift from the Lord….and my love for her today is so much greater than ever before... Thanks be to God for His abounding love. And thank you too Belah for your biblical passion, discernment, wisdom and courage to have this ministry."