What's Your Type? takes a look at modern relationships through the lens of The Enneagram, attachment theory and self-awareness.

Today's episode discusses whether your attachment style and Enneagram type are RED FLAGS! Your thoughts? Dealbreaker or not a big deal?

If you're like me, you've been overwhelmed with all the choices available to you on dating apps and the mixed signals that you receive over text that are hard to understand.

A few years ago, I was in the same place so I sought out relationship experts and real life daters to help our audience understand how to navigate modern dating where texting, social media and dating apps are ways that people connect and communicate in the modern world.

Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave me a review on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and YouTube. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the Community, and help others find the self-awareness they're looking for.

Are you looking for support as you navigate modern dating with texting, social media and dating apps as a primary way that people connect and communicate?

Are you looking to heal your relationships while receiving and contributing to the lives of others from around the world?

Check out the challenge group and join me today for a free week trial of the like changing program.

Check out my Tiktok Page for a candid look into modern dating.

Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Spotify | YouTube For more episodes visit me at DaveGlaser.com | Instagram @coachdaveglaser

In this episode, I explore whether long-distance relationships are a deal breaker, examining factors like attachment styles, communication, and compatibility across different Enneagram types. Discover practical insights to help you decide if the challenges and opportunities of long-distance love make sense for you.

If you're like me, you've been overwhelmed with all the choices available to you on dating apps and the mixed signals that you receive over text that are hard to understand.

A few years ago, I was in the same place so I sought out relationship experts and real life daters to help our audience understand how to navigate modern dating where texting, social media and dating apps are ways that people connect and communicate in the modern world.

Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave me a review on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and YouTube. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the Community, and help others find the self-awareness they're looking for.

Are you looking for support as you navigate modern dating with texting, social media and dating apps as a primary way that people connect and communicate?

Are you looking to heal your relationships while receiving and contributing to the lives of others from around the world?

Check out the challenge group and join me today for a free week trial of the like changing program.

Check out my Tiktok Page for a candid look into modern dating. @dave.glaser

Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Spotify | YouTube

For more episodes visit me at DaveGlaser.com | Instagram @coachdaveglaser

Key topics

The impact of attachment styles on long-distance relationships
How Enneagram types view and handle distance
Communication strategies for maintaining connection
Signs of healthy vs. unhealthy long-distance relationships
The importance of shared goals and expectations
How to assess compatibility for long-distance love
The role of emotional and spiritual intimacy
Challenges faced by anxious and avoidant attachment styles
Practical tips for making long-distance relationships work
Recognizing when distance reveals incompatibility

Chapters

00:00 Introduction: Are Long-Distance Relationships a Deal Breaker?
02:09 What Makes a Long-Distance Relationship Work?
05:01 The Importance of Communication and Planning
08:01 Attachment Styles and Their Influence on Distance
11:12 Enneagram Types and Their Perspectives on Distance
15:04 Signs of a Healthy Long-Distance Relationship
19:01 Common Challenges for Anxiously and Avoidantly Attached Partners
22:51 How to Build Trust and Manage Uncertainty
27:05 The Role of Compatibility and Shared Goals
30:50 The Upsides of Long-Distance Love
35:02 When Distance Reveals Incompatibility
39:09 Key Takeaways and Final Thoughts

The Dealbreakers Podcast takes a look at modern relationships through the lens of The Enneagram, attachment theory and self-awareness.

Today's episode discusses what to do if your date is friends with their ex! Your thoughts? Dealbreaker or nah?

If you're like me, you've been overwhelmed with all the choices available to you on dating apps and the mixed signals that you receive over text that are hard to understand.

A few years ago, I was in the same place so I sought out relationship experts and real life daters to help our audience understand how to navigate modern dating where texting, social media and dating apps are ways that people connect and communicate in the modern world.

Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave me a review on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and YouTube. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the Community, and help others find the self-awareness they're looking for.

Are you looking for support as you navigate modern dating with texting, social media and dating apps as a primary way that people connect and communicate?

Are you looking to heal your relationships while receiving and contributing to the lives of others from around the world?

Check out the challenge group and join me today for a free week trial of the like changing program.

Check out my Tiktok Page for a candid look into modern dating.

Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Spotify | YouTube

For more episodes visit me at DaveGlaser.com | Instagram @coachdaveglaser

In this episode, Dave Glaser explores the common red flag of claiming all exes are crazy, and what it reveals about self-awareness, patterns, and accountability in dating. He offers insights into how to interpret this phrase and what it means for healthy relationships.

The Dealbreaker Podcast takes a look at modern relationships through the lens of The Enneagram, attachment theory and self-awareness.

If you're like me, you've been overwhelmed with all the choices available to you on dating apps and the mixed signals that you receive over text that are hard to understand.

A few years ago, I was in the same place so I sought out relationship experts and real life daters to help our audience understand how to navigate modern dating where texting, social media and dating apps are ways that people connect and communicate in the modern world.

Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave me a review on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the Dave Glaser Community, and help others find the self-awareness they're looking for.

Are you looking for support as you navigate modern dating with texting, social media and dating apps as a primary way that people connect and communicate?

Are you looking to heal your relationships while receiving and contributing to the lives of others from around the world? Check out one-on-one coaching and join me today for a free week trial of the life changing program.

Check out my Tiktok Page for a candid look into modern dating.

Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Spotify | YouTube For more episodes visit me at DaveGlaser.com | Instagram @coachdaveglaser

In this episode, I want to explore the nuanced role of alcohol has in dating, asking the question, "How many drinks is too many?" and how drinking behaviors reveal deeper compatibility issues. I emphasize the importance of self-awareness, boundaries, and understanding what your deal breakers truly are.

How many drinks is your dealbreaker? Have you ever seen someone lose control on a first date after too many drinks? Let's explore this question together and tie it in to each Enneagram type.

Your weekly challenge: Five dealbreakers vs. Five preferences. Write them down and email them to me at riseup@fitlifechampions.com or DM me on Instagram @datingdealbreakers

Key topics

The impact of alcohol on first dates and relationship signals
How different Enneagram types respond to alcohol in dating scenarios
The importance of self-awareness and boundaries in dating
Red flags and deal breakers related to alcohol consumption
How alcohol can mask or reveal emotional regulation issues

Takeaways

Alcohol use on a first date can reveal more than it conceals about a person's emotional regulation and compatibility.
Self-awareness about your deal breakers is crucial for healthy dating and relationships.
Different Enneagram types have distinct responses to alcohol that can influence dating dynamics.
Understanding whether alcohol is a cover-up or a reveal can help you assess relationship potential.
Your deal breakers should protect your well-being, not prevent genuine connection.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to the role of alcohol in dating
01:52 How many drinks are too many? Personal boundaries vary
03:59 Behavior changes after drinking and what they reveal
05:54 Alcohol as a mask or reveal of emotional regulation
07:52 Key relationship questions beyond alcohol
08:49 The impact of alcohol on the speed of emotional connection
10:13 Enneagram types and their responses to alcohol
15:04 Vulnerability, honesty, and alcohol in relationships
16:57 Reflecting on your deal breakers and boundaries

In this episode, Dave Glaser explores the importance of vulnerability for Enneagram 8s, challenging the misconception that strength equals emotional suppression. He shares personal insights and practical advice on how Eights can embrace vulnerability to foster deeper connections and healing.

The misconception that toughness equals strength for Enneagram 8s
The importance of processing and healing emotional pain
The difference between enduring and healing
Practical steps for practicing vulnerability
The role of boundaries and trust in emotional health
The impact of unprocessed pain on relationships and well-being
The concept of healthy vulnerability versus walls and armor
The significance of forgiveness and letting go of past hurts

Takeaways

Vulnerability doesn't mean weakness, but strength in authenticity.
Enduring pain without processing can hinder growth and healing.
Setting boundaries is healthy; walls are isolating.
Expressing hurt and needs is crucial for deep connection.
Unprocessed pain can manifest as anger, control, or withdrawal.
Healthy vulnerability involves trusting others with your true feelings.
Forgiveness is about releasing the burden of past hurts.
Asking yourself what you've never said can be a powerful step.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to vulnerability and Enneagram 8s
01:51 The misconception: toughness equals strength
03:55 The importance of processing emotional pain
05:49 Enduring vs. healing: the difference
08:11 How unprocessed pain affects relationships
10:05 Vulnerability as a strength, not weakness
11:58 Setting boundaries versus building walls
13:49 The role of trust and connection
16:10 Practical steps to practice vulnerability
18:03 The power of saying 'that hurt me'
19:53 Forgiveness and releasing past hurts
22:14 The challenge: asking yourself what you've never said
23:10 Conclusion: embracing vulnerability for true strength

In this episode, Dave Glaser explores what it means for an Enneagram type 8 to be out of alignment, how it manifests, and practical steps to regain balance. This is essential listening for anyone looking to understand the subtle signs of imbalance and how to live more authentically.

Signs of out-of-alignment in Enneagram Type 8
The difference between strength and control
The importance of vulnerability and self-care
Practical steps to regain alignment
The role of honesty and slowing down

Out-of-alignment eights often feel resistance and battle everything.
Control creates the illusion of safety but leads to exhaustion.
Vulnerability is crucial for authentic connection and healing.
Self-care often gets sacrificed for achievement.
Slowing down and honest self-reflection are key to realignment.

Chapters

00:00 Recognizing the signs of being out of alignment
02:13 The strength of functioning versus the risk of burnout
04:28 The danger of fighting everything and control as an illusion
06:20 The importance of vulnerability and emotional access
07:16 Self-care neglect and its consequences
08:15 Steps to become a healthy, aligned eight
09:40 The power of honest self-reflection and letting go
11:03 The true meaning of strength: vulnerability and trust
12:01 The challenge of living authentically as an eight
12:56 Encouragement to embrace honesty and connection

In this episode, Dave Glaser shares insights from his experience as an Enneagram 8 leader, exploring how power dynamics influence coaching, leadership, and personal development. Discover how letting go of control can unlock potential in others and transform your leadership style.

Key topics

Enneagram 8 and leadership
Power struggles and control
Building trust and buy-in
The importance of vulnerability in leadership
Shifting from authority to partnership
Lessons from coaching athletes
Patience and humility in leadership
Creating psychologically safe environments

Takeaways

Leadership is about creating buy-in, not control.
Letting go of ego can lead to better performance.
Empowerment comes from confidence, not authority.
Athletes perform better when they feel safe and seen.
Healthy Enneagram 8s redirect power to uplift others.

Chapters

00:27 Why I took a break and what this episode covers
00:50 The power dynamic in leadership and coaching
01:18 My experience returning to coaching after unemployment
01:46 Initial enthusiasm and resistance from athletes
02:13 Understanding the power struggle with high school athletes
02:38 How energy and intensity can create resistance
03:07 The importance of awareness and checking your ego
03:56 The shift from authority to partnership
05:46 The impact of trust and safety on performance
06:42 The misconception about healthy Enneagram 8s
07:10 The true strength of healthy Enneagram 8s
07:29 Challenger moment: leadership vs control
07:57 Applying these lessons in personal life and home projects
08:48 The remodeling project and lessons in patience
15:12 Patience and humility in leadership
16:07 Final thoughts: empowering others and leadership takeaway