COMING SOON: The battle for your eyes is real. The power to choose is yours.

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Shemiras Einayim with Rabbi Ari Klapper returns for Series 2 – diving deeper than ever into the raw challenges of guarding your eyes in today's digital age. No apologetics. No judgment. Just honest, practical wisdom for real-life struggles.

From smartphones to street encounters. From internal battles to external pressures. We're tackling the questions you're afraid to ask and the daily tests you face. Rabbi Klapper brings clarity, understanding, and practical tools to help you navigate these challenges while maintaining your dignity and spiritual growth.

This isn't just another mussar series. This is your guide to building real strength and finding true fulfillment in a world of constant visual temptation.

New episodes drop every two weeks starting 19th Feb 2025.

Real struggles. Real solutions. Real growth. Real Judaism.

Shemiras Einayim Series 2 – Because your battle matters.

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Marriage isn’t a continuation of dating — it’s a different world. Rabbi Klapper explains the essential “switch” every engaged person must make: moving from a life of mostly-me to one that is fundamentally “us.” The engagement sparkle can mask the hard reality that daily married life requires deep, sustained effort: shifting priorities, learning to care about things that don’t naturally move you, and accepting that many small slights (dirty socks, missed calls, a forgotten expectation) are really tests of consideration. He unpacks the ancient pairing of matzah (found, settled) vs motzah (still searching) to show why wholehearted commitment — not hedging or “let’s try it” ambivalence — is the strongest protection against future heartbreak.

This episode is a practical primer for engaged couples and their mentors. Rabbi Klapper gives concrete guidance: cultivate a rabbinic mentor, set realistic expectations for the engagement period, practice explicit communication instead of mind-reading, and deliberately reprioritize goals so the marriage’s needs come first. He stresses that many “common sense” shalom bayis techniques are deceptively hard in practice and require rehearsal — humility, vulnerability, and steady daily acts of care. If you want a marriage that lasts and grows, treat the engagement and first year as training for lifelong partnership, not as an extended honeymoon.

Can three months make — or unmake — a life together? Rabbi Klapper warns that the engagement period is a precarious, electric time: joyful and necessary, yet full of potholes. In this episode he explains why engagement is not marriage (kiddushin happens only with the ring), why too long a liminal stretch invites bad habits and illicit shortcuts, and why the right balance of preparation, boundaries, and rabbinic guidance protects both the couple and their future home. He unpacks practical needs (apartment, basics, halachic learning) alongside spiritual essentials, and reminds us of Rav Shach’s wry point about keeping the period short so the nisayon is minimized.

This is a roadmap for engaged couples: choose a sensible timeline, set real tasks (spiritual study, household basics, mentors), and make a plan to protect kedushah — emotionally, physically, and legally. Rabbi Klapper stresses one universal rule: talk to someone who knows you; personalized hadrachah prevents generic mistakes. If you’re engaged or advising one, use this episode as a checklist: shorten what can be shortened, prepare what must be prepared, and make the engagement a focused bridge — not a dangerous substitute — on the way to building a Torah home.

Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!