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  • 56| Here Is Why You Give More Than You Need To

    56| Here Is Why You Give More Than You Need To
    2026/06/09

    Have you ever said yes when everything inside you wanted to say no?

    Do you ever feel resentful after giving so much — and then feel guilty for feeling that way?

    What if the reason you over-give has nothing to do with generosity — and everything to do with a wound you haven't healed yet?

    Ready to go deeper?

    💛 Join the Dating After Divorce membership — a safe community of women just like you walking this journey together. 👉

    Instagram http://relaltionshipcoach4women

    📲 Come find me on Instagram — send me a DM and tell me your biggest takeaway from today's episode. I read every single one.

    You are not starting over. You are starting better. And you don't have to do it alone. 💛

    Grab my FREE guide to help you Heal Your Heart After Divorce

    https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76
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    12 分
  • 55| Stop Pretending You Are Fine — The Real Truth About Emotional Recovery After Divorce

    55| Stop Pretending You Are Fine — The Real Truth About Emotional Recovery After Divorce
    2026/05/26

    You keep saying you're fine. But late at night, when it's quiet... you know you're not.

    This episode is for the woman who has been holding it together for everyone else — and quietly falling apart alone. It's time to stop pretending. Real healing starts here.

    • Are you tired of saying "I'm fine" when you are anything but?
    • Have you been staying busy just so you don't have to feel it?
    • Do you feel like you should be "over it" by now — but you're not?
    • What if the breakdown you've been avoiding is actually the breakthrough you've been waiting for?
    • Are you healing — or are you just surviving?

    🎙️ In this episode you will discover:

    • Why saying "I'm fine" is keeping you emotionally stuck after divorce
    • The one grief step most women skip — and why it makes everything harder
    • How comparing your healing timeline to others is a lie rooted in shame
    • What real emotional recovery actually looks like for a Christian woman over 40
    • The simple shift that moves you from performing recovery to actually living it

    • The mask of "I'm fine" is a protection tool — but it becomes a prison
    • Grief is not weakness. It is love with nowhere to go
    • Your healing does not have a deadline — growth matters more than speed
    • "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted." — Psalm 34:18
    Resources and Links Mentioned
    • 📖 Scripture: Psalm 34:18 — "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit."
    • 💻 Work with Patty: pattymartinlifecoach.com
    • 🎙️ Join the Membership — Rebuild After Divorce: (add your link)
    • 📲 DM Patty the word RISE on Instagram for more healing resources → @pattymartinlifecoach
    Connecting + Next Steps

    Loved this episode? You will also love these:

    • 🎧 "Why You're Not Over Your Divorce Yet — And What to Do About It"
    • 🎧 "When God Feels Silent After Divorce"
    • 🎧 "How to Stop Living in Survival Mode After Divorce"

    Your next step: If this episode hit home, don't just listen — take one action today. Pick one person you trust and tell them the truth about how you really are. That one moment of honesty can change everything.

    Ready to go deeper?

    💛 Join the Dating After Divorce membership — a safe community of women just like you walking this journey together. 👉

    Instagram http://relaltionshipcoach4women

    📲 Come find me on Instagram — send me a DM and tell me your biggest takeaway from today's episode. I read every single one.

    You are not starting over. You are starting better. And you don't have to do it alone. 💛

    Grab my FREE guide to help you Heal Your Heart After Divorce

    https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76

    Resources https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76Freebie landing page

    Next Steps:

    Step 1: Join a supportive community of Divorced Christian Women over 40 at the free Facebook group

    https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61586012813361

    Step 2: Sign up for the weekly NAME OF NEWSLETTER at

    https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/47c6755225

    Step 3: Get more personalized support with my Healing After Divorce Membership. DM me via Instagram for more details.

    Instagram http://relaltionshipcoach4women
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    10 分
  • 54| What The Bible Says About Starting Over After Divorce

    54| What The Bible Says About Starting Over After Divorce
    2026/05/19

    You are not damaged goods because of your divorce....

    Ready to go deeper?

    💛 Join the Dating After Divorce membership — a safe community of women just like you walking this journey together. Instagram http://relaltionshipcoach4women

    📲 Come find me on Instagram — send me a DM and tell me your biggest takeaway from today's episode. I read every single one.

    You are not starting over. You are starting better. And you don't have to do it alone. 💛

    Grab my FREE guide to help you Heal Your Heart After Divorce

    https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76

    RECOMMENDED EPISODES:

    EP 32| Rewriting Your Love Story in 2026

    EP 40| Being Selective Isn't Bad, It's Biblical
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    5 分
  • 53| Building Confidence After Divorce for Women Over 40 Starts Right Here

    53| Building Confidence After Divorce for Women Over 40 Starts Right Here
    2026/05/13

    Have you ever stayed in a situation — a relationship, a dynamic, a version of yourself — just because it felt safer than asking for more?

    Do you second-guess your own judgment when it comes to dating because you still blame yourself for your marriage not working?

    Have you ever heard "don't be picky" or "at your age you can't afford to be choosy" — and somewhere deep down, believed it?

    Ready to go deeper?

    💛 Join the Dating After Divorce membership — a safe community of women just like you walking this journey together. 👉 [Insert link]

    📲 Come find me on Instagram — send me a DM and tell me your biggest takeaway from today's episode. I read every single one.

    You are not starting over. You are starting better. And you don't have to do it alone. 💛

    Grab my FREE guide to help you Heal Your Heart After Divorce

    https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76

    Connect https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61586012813361

    Instagram http://relaltionshipcoach4women

    Resources https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76Freebie landing page

    Next Steps:

    Step 1: Join a supportive community of Divorced Christian Women over 40 at the free Facebook group

    https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61586012813361

    Step 2: Sign up for the weekly NAME OF NEWSLETTER at

    https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/47c6755225

    Step 3: Get more personalized support with my Dating/Healing After Divorce Membership at

    https://www.pattymartinlifecoach.com/dating-after-divorce-membership

    RECOMMENDED EPISODES:

    EP 32| Rewriting Your Love Story in 2026

    EP 40| Being Selective Isn't Bad, It's Biblical

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    17 分
  • 52| Is Healing After Divorce Taking Too Long? This Might Be The Reason Why

    52| Is Healing After Divorce Taking Too Long? This Might Be The Reason Why
    2026/05/05
    Did you do everything right after your divorce, you prayed, you cried, you kept going, and yet something still feels… stuck? You're not weak. You're not faithless. And you are absolutely not alone. In this episode, we're having the honest conversation that most people are too afraid to start, because the reason your healing is taking longer than expected might not be what you think. Ask yourself honestly… Have you been telling everyone — and yourself — that you're "fine" when deep down you know you're not?Do you feel like you've forgiven, moved on, and done the work… but the pain still shows up uninvited?Are you secretly comparing your healing timeline to other women and wondering what's wrong with you?Does it feel like you don't even know who you are anymore — outside of being a wife, a mom, or the woman who went through a divorce?Have you rushed into dating, a new routine, or a "new you" to escape the grief — only to find it caught up with you?Do you feel guilty for still hurting, especially as a woman of faith who believes God is in control?Are you exhausted from performing okayness for your kids, your church, and your family — while quietly falling apart inside? If you said yes to even one of these — this episode was made for you. ✦ The Difference Between Coping and Actually Healing There's a version of "strong" that looks like healing on the outside but is actually suppression on the inside. We talk about why managing your emotions is NOT the same as processing them — and why faith culture can sometimes accidentally reinforce this pattern. You'll leave knowing the difference, and what to do about it. ✦ Why You Might Be Grieving More Than Just Your Marriage Your divorce didn't just end a relationship. It dismantled a story — the story of who you were, who you thought you'd become, and what your future was supposed to look like. If healing feels impossible, it might be because you're trying to heal back to a woman who no longer exists. This is the conversation that changes everything. "Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing!" — Isaiah 43:18-19 God isn't asking you to forget the pain. He's inviting you to look up — and see what He's already building in you. 📖 Scripture Referenced Isaiah 43:18-19 — "See, I am doing a new thing!" Grab my FREE guide to help you Heal Your Heart After Divorce https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76 Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dating-after-divorce-christian-dating-codependency/id1818255020 Instagram http://relationshipcoach4women FREE GUIDE - TO HEAL YOUR HEART https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76Freebie landing page Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of Divorced Christian Women over 40 at the free Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61586012813361 Step 2: Sign up for the weekly NAME OF NEWSLETTER at https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/47c6755225 Step 3: Get more personalized support with my Dating/Healing After Divorce Membership at https://www.pattymartinlifecoach.com/dating-after-divorce-membership
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    13 分
  • 51| Co-Parenting After Divorce: How to Protect Your Peace

    51| Co-Parenting After Divorce: How to Protect Your Peace
    2026/04/28

    Co-Parenting After Divorce: How to Protect Your Peace

    If co-parenting with your ex leaves you feeling anxious, angry, or emotionally exhausted — this episode is for you.

    One text. One phone call. One unexpected change in plans. And suddenly your entire day is derailed. Your heart is racing, your mind is spinning, and you can't focus on anything else. Sound familiar?

    Co-parenting after divorce is one of the hardest emotional challenges a woman can face — especially when the relationship ended in pain. You're trying to heal. You're trying to show up for your kids. But every interaction with your ex feels like a step backward in your recovery.

    Here's what I want you to know, you are not weak, and you are not broken. You just haven't been given the tools to protect your emotional space while still being the mom your kids need.

    In this episode we're talking about:

    ✅ Why your ex still has the power to trigger you, even after the divorce

    ✅ How one interaction can completely hijack your emotions and your day

    ✅ Practical tools to protect your peace so YOU decide how your day goes, not him

    ✅ How to show up for your kids from a place of calm instead of chaos

    ✅ The faith-based mindset shift that will change how you approach every co-parenting interaction

    By the end of this episode you will have real, actionable tools to take your emotional power back, one interaction at a time.

    Because you deserve peace, sis. Not when he finally changes. Right now. Today.

    🎧 This episode is for you if:

    You feel like your ex still controls your emotions even though the marriage is over

    Co-parenting stress is spilling over into your home and your relationship with your kids

    You're tired of feeling anxious every time his name pops up on your phone

    You want to heal completely, not just on the outside

    Grab my FREE guide to help you Heal Your Heart After Divorce

    https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76

    Podcast Https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dating-after-divorce-christian-dating-codependency/id1818255020

    Connect https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61586012813361

    Instagram http://relaltionshipcoach4women

    Resources https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76Freebie landing page

    Next Steps:

    Step 1: Join a supportive community of Divorced Christian Women over 40 at the free Facebook group

    https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61586012813361

    Step 2: Sign up for the weekly NAME OF NEWSLETTER at

    https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/47c6755225

    Step 3: Get more personalized support with my Dating/Healing After Divorce Membership at

    https://www.pattymartinlifecoach.com/dating-after-divorce-membership

    RECOMMENDED EPISODES:

    EP 32| Rewriting Your Love Story in 2026

    EP 40| Being Selective Isn't Bad, It's Biblical

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    13 分
  • 50| Why You Haven't Found Love Yet After Divorce (And What's Really in the Way)

    50| Why You Haven't Found Love Yet After Divorce (And What's Really in the Way)
    2026/04/21

    Today is my birthday — and the best gift I can give you is the truth.

    I found real love at 49. Not by luck. Not by magic. But by doing the work — even when I didn't feel like it, even when I doubted myself, even when I wondered if it was too late.

    If you've been praying, waiting, and wondering why nothing is changing — this episode is for you.

    In this episode I share:

    • Why passive hope is not the same as active faith
    • The invisible emotional wall that might be blocking real connection
    • The "I'll be ready when…" trap that keeps you stuck longer than anything else
    • My personal story of what I actually did to find love after divorce

    "Faith without works is dead." — James 2:17

    You don't have to be finished. You just have to be available.

    🎧 Listen now — and share this with a friend who needs to hear it today.

    Ready to stop waiting and start doing the work? Join the Dating After Divorce membership — link below.

    Grab my FREE guide to help you Heal Your Heart After Divorce

    https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76

    Podcast Https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dating-after-divorce-christian-dating-codependency/id1818255020

    Connect https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61586012813361

    Instagram http://relaltionshipcoach4women

    Resources https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76Freebie landing page

    Next Steps:

    Step 1: Join a supportive community of Divorced Christian Women over 40 at the free Facebook group

    https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61586012813361

    Step 2: Sign up for the weekly NAME OF NEWSLETTER at

    https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/47c6755225

    Step 3: Get more personalized support with my Dating/Healing After Divorce Membership at

    https://www.pattymartinlifecoach.com/dating-after-divorce-membership

    RECOMMENDED EPISODES:

    EP 32| Rewriting Your Love Story in 2026

    EP 40| Being Selective Isn't Bad, It's Biblical

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    14 分
  • 49| How to Trust God After a Painful Divorce When Prayer Feels Like Silence

    49| How to Trust God After a Painful Divorce When Prayer Feels Like Silence
    2026/04/14
    THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF
    • ✅ You feel like God stopped listening when your marriage fell apart
    • ✅ You are angry and ashamed of how angry you are
    • ✅ You don't recognize yourself anymore after the divorce
    • ✅ You have stopped praying because it feels pointless
    • ✅ You need someone to tell you healing is still possible for you

    FREE GUIDE - TO HEAL YOUR HEART

    https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76Freebie landing page

    Next Steps:

    Step 1: Join a supportive community of Divorced Christian Women over 40 at the free Facebook group

    https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61586012813361

    Step 2: Sign up for the weekly NAME OF NEWSLETTER at

    https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/47c6755225

    Step 3: Get more personalized support with my Dating/Healing After Divorce Membership at

    https://www.pattymartinlifecoach.com/dating-after-divorce-membership

    RECOMMENDED EPISODES:

    EP 32| Rewriting Your Love Story in 2026

    EP 40| Being Selective Isn't Bad, It's Biblical

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    11 分