Episode 196 - Chris Kruger - Black Hawk Helicopters, Multiple Deployments, Anger and Fear, Lessons for Dads

Chris Kruger grew up just outside Spokane, Washington, and joined the Army before turning 21, driven by a sense of purpose and a thirst for challenge. Over the next 22 years, he forged a diverse and demanding military career—starting as an infantryman and eventually becoming a Blackhawk maintenance test pilot. His journey took him from Basic Training and Airborne School at Fort Benning to Fort Bragg, North Carolina, where he completed an impressive lineup of elite training programs, including Amphibious Reconnaissance School, Ranger School, HALO and HALO Jumpmaster, and Flight School, among others. Along the way, he earned the Expert and Combat Infantryman Badges, a Bronze Star, a Meritorious Service Medal, and several other honors.

Chris deployed to Iraq, Afghanistan, and the Far East, spending more than five and a half years overseas—experiences that deeply shaped his outlook on leadership, resilience, and life. After retiring, he turned to writing as a way to unpack and give meaning to those intense years. What began as personal reflection quickly became a mission to reach others walking similar paths.

Today, Chris lives in Huntsville, Alabama, with his wife Genevieve and their two daughters, Charlize and Isabelle—writing from a place of survival, strength, and connection. Together, Chris and Genevieve are active in their local church and committed to encouraging others to overcome life’s hardships, expanding their reach through writing and a forthcoming podcast aimed at inspiring healing, faith, and perseverance.

Book: Walking Away from the Ledge: A Soldier's Memoir

Walking Away from the Ledge is a hard-hitting, no-BS military memoir that goes beyond the battlefield to expose the raw truth of war, survival, and self-destruction. With an unapologetic voice and brutal honesty, Chris takes readers deep inside the challenging world of an Army Ranger, the brotherhood that holds soldiers together, and the personal demons that threaten to tear them apart.

More than a war story, this book is about what happens when the fight doesn’t end—the toll of combat, the grip of addiction, and the struggle to hold onto love when everything else is falling apart. This memoir hits hard, digs deep, and refuses to look away.

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Episode 195 - Kelly Farley - Grieving Dads, He Lost His Baby Too, Survival Guide for the Grieving Dad

If you have ever loved a child, then you understand what it’s like to love someone more than you love life itself. If you have ever lost a child, then you understand more about hell than anyone could possibly be expected to know. This isn’t something you get over. Only those who have lost a child can understand the depths to which this pain travels. Like most of the men who will read these books, I too am a grieving dad.

The message I want bereaved fathers to understand is that I know it’s hard, I know it hurts, I know it’s scary — but you can get through this. You can survive. It will be the hardest thing you will ever experience; it will drain you physically, mentally, and emotionally. You can come out on the other side of this very long and lonely tunnel, but you will be a different person when you do. There is no going back to the old you.

You also need to know that you are not alone in your grief. Other men have been through this and that the emotions they keep inside are the same emotions all of us experience, even if we don't talk about them. The best thing you can do is to reach out for help and to know it is not a sign of “weakness” to do so. Instead, it’s a sign of courage and strength — the kind that’s required to face this battle head on.

This book was written specifically for fathers grappling with the unbearable aftermath of losing a baby. It is all too easy for a bereaved father to succumb to a haunting sense of isolation after such a loss. However, within these pages lies a lifeline—a survival guide infused with wisdom, providing a roadmap through the complicated path of grief.

In the wake of a tragic loss—whether it be a miscarriage, a stillbirth, or the untimely passing of an infant—this invaluable resource unravels the layers of anguish that overwhelm grieving fathers. Written by a grieving dad, this book offers unflinching honesty and poignant insight, it also delves into the raw pain that accompanies such a profound loss, assuring these men that their emotions, however overwhelming, are both valid and shared by others who have walked a similar path.

A collection of candid stories from grieving dads that were interviewed over a two-year period. The book offers insight from fellow members of, in the haunting words of one dad, “this terrible, terrible club,” which consists of men who have experienced the death of a child. This book is a collection of survival stories by men who have survived the worst possible loss and lived to tell the tale.

They are real stories that pull no punches and are told with brutal honesty. Men that have shared their deepest and darkest moments. Moments that included thoughts of suicide, self-medication, and homelessness. Some of these men have found their way back from the brink, while others are still standing there, stuck in their pain. The core message of Grieving Dads is “you’re not alone.” It is a message that desperately needs to be delivered to grieving dads who often grieve in silence due to society’s expectations.

https://www.grievingdads.com/

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Episode 194 - Shellee Howard - Get Your Kids College Ready with a Plan and a Question - Who Are You

College Ready Founder and CEO

Shellee has traveled around the world helping students plan for their “perfect match” college. She knows what it takes to compete in the Ivy schools as well as finding the best fit for all students. Shellee believes that no two students are the same, and each student must have their own strategy and plan to be successful. Each student has a gift/talent and a passion that will set him or her apart from their competition. College Ready has clients all over the world, and each one is important. Her focus is to find the best academic, financial, and social fit college for each student to thrive at!

You deserve the College Ready “All hands on deck!” approach to your college application. We have the best college admissions consultants ready to help your student succeed!

At College Ready, we are a team of certified college admissions consultants driven to help your student succeed both in college and in life. We plan individually with students and their families to build the perfect college match as well as financial fit.

Our focus is your son or daughter and what he or she aspires to achieve. We are Certified College Counselors from UCSD, UCLA and come with years of experience helping students get into the perfect college or university. We enjoy working with students of all ages and stages. We have specialists who focus on the Ivy schools, and we have specialists who focus on getting B students into the best-fit college. Our goal is to help your student be the best they can be while graduating with little or no debt!

https://collegereadyplan.com/

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Episode 193 - He Lost His Baby Too, Who Cares for the Father When Loss Hits Your Home

Who cares for Dads when the unthinkable happens - well it happened to me when we lost our child during pregnacy - I almost lost my wife as well. I recently had a guest author on my Living The Next Chapter Podcast.

If you want to hear Elizabeth's interview follow this link for more:

https://youtu.be/IGtexvEVVn8

https://www.elizabeth-johnstone.com/

Elizabeth Johnstone wrote a book about her journey of loss as a Mother when she lost her baby during pregnacy - this conversation with Elizabeth made me revisit my own giref as a Dad - the resources are not readily available for Dads - why is this? Why are we just a paragraph in a take home pamphlet on dealing with grief - who cares for a Dad when Dad is caring for Mom?

When do we get to grieve as a Dad and is there anybody out there for us - if you have ever felt that there is nobody here for you in your grief, I tracked down a great author and fellow grieving Dad to help us all - check out Kelly's details here

https://www.grievingdads.com/

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Episode 192 - When Parents Aren't Getting Along - When Relationships Impact Family

4 Key Points for Dads: "When Parents Aren’t Getting Along – When Relationships Impact Family"

Acknowledge What Kids See and Feel

Children are deeply sensitive to tension and arguments between parents—even when you think you’re hiding it. Recognize that your kids notice changes in tone, body language, and distance. It’s important to reassure them that both parents still love them and the issues are not their fault.

Model Healthy Conflict and Respect

Disagreements are a normal part of any relationship, but how you handle conflict teaches your children crucial lessons. Aim to demonstrate respect, self-control, and active listening. Avoid insulting, yelling, or putting each other down, especially in front of your children. Showing that you can disagree and resolve issues maturely sets a lifelong example.

Prioritize Open Communication

Be proactive in talking to your partner about challenges rather than letting resentment build. Also, talk with your kids in an age-appropriate way: let them know families sometimes have tough moments, but working together as a team is important. Open communication supports a sense of safety and stability for everyone in the household.

Protect the Parent-Child Relationship

Never use your relationship struggles as a reason to involve children in adult concerns or to undermine your partner as a parent. Commit to supporting each other’s roles with your kids. Children benefit most when they see that, even in hard times, both parents remain invested in their wellbeing and daily lives.

Encouragement to Dads:

Being honest about difficulties, while working towards a respectful atmosphere, gives your children security and valuable coping skills. Family challenges are real, but with intentionality, dads can contribute to resilience and healing for everyone.

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Episode 191 - Bret Davis - Author of Bretisms - Philosophies For a Life with Less Anxiety and More Confidence

Bret Davis is the author of a new book called "Bretisms" - A collection of thoughts over 30 chapters designed to be your new daily read! "You can't trip over things that are behind you" and more help you to hit the reset button and create space for yourself as a Dad.

This is a shortened version of Bret's appearance on my author podcast, Living The Next Chapter. If you are dealing with a lack of confidence or an abundance of anxious thoughts and beliefs, this book might just be your next best read.

Want to hear the entire interview? Check out out other podcast - Living The Next Chapter

Bret's episode:

https://pod.link/1607392975/episode/365e21188c332d1c7ebc3c58b9a8012f

Bret's Website"

https://bretisms.com/

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Episode 190 - Alex Lloyd Hunter - The Dad Shift, parents campaigning for better paternity leave in the UK

The Dad Shift is a group of men, dads and other parents campaigning for better paternity leave in the UK

The UK’s statutory paternity leave is bad. Really bad. In fact, it’s the worst in Europe.

Dads and non-birthing parents get only two weeks off, paid at less than half the minimum wage. Self employed people get nothing.

There’s now loads of evidence that this is bad for everyone: mums, dads, kids, and society as a whole.

Gives dads enough time off to support their partner and bond with their kids, without taking leave away from mums.

Is paid at a rate that means everyone can afford to take it, with self-employed people getting paid too.

Gives both parents equal leave, so mums and dads are free to shape their own roles in the family, not have them dictated by gender.

We’re campaigning for substantial, affordable and equal leave for both parents in every relationship - same-sex, heterosexual, or adoptive - and for self-employed people.

donate here!

https://dadshift.org.uk/?form=website

https://dadshift.org.uk/

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Episode 189 - J Hall - God Help Me, I'm a Young Dad - Ten big ideas for Dads

J Hall is an author, educator, podcaster from Oklahoma City where he lives in with his wife, two dogs, and a rotating cast of adult children who stop in for meals and occasional dog-sitting. Most importantly, he is a grandpa, and he will certainly bore you to tears telling you how awesome his grandson is.

J is the author of two books - God Help Me! I’m a Young Dad: 10 Essentials for Becoming the Dad Your Kids Need and his new book - College Unpacked: A Practical Guide to Choosing, Preparing For, and Excelling in College. J clearly does not believe in short titles.

After more than 15 years in professional ministry, J has spent the second half of his career in higher education, currently serving as Dean of Social Sciences at Oklahoma City Community College and teaching sociology.

Since 2021, J has hosted and produced the Okie Bookcast, a podcast dedicated to connecting curious readers with their next great read through interviewing authors and storytellers connected to Oklahoma. He also co-hosts a monthly book chat show through the Bookcast with his daughter, author and screenwriter Hannah Herron. J is a regular guest on a number of podcasts, talking about everything from books to pop culture to fatherhood and more.

Book: God Help Me! I’m a Young Dad presents ten big ideas for dads who desire to become the father God wants them to be. Full of stories, encouragement, and practical application, this book equips young fathers to develop these essential characteristics in themselves and model them for their children while also helping those children begin the process of developing these traits in their own lives. Written for dads with kids from birth to age twelve, the insights and applications connect with dads of all ages and at all stages of fatherhood.

Additionally, the book features a thirty day devotional guide to encourage readers to think about and begin to practice the essentials discussed in the book.

https://www.jhallwriter.com/

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