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Four words can slice through a tender moment of grief: “At least it was” (now, fill in the blank). We’ve heard it, we’ve felt the sting, and we wanted to unpack why platitudes show up so easily—especially around miscarriage—and what to say (and not say) when someone you love is hurting. Sophie from Miscarriage Mumma Support joins us again to explore the complex reality of baby loss, the social pressure to “look on the bright side,” and the deeper work of choosing presence over pat answers.

We talk about why people reach for platitudes in the first place: discomfort, fear, and the reflex to fix what can’t be fixed. Together, we examine the false hierarchy of loss that pits experiences against each other, and we share how separating spaces—loss, trying after loss, pregnancy after loss—can actually reduce comparison and increase care. You’ll hear concrete language swaps, gentle questions that open a door instead of closing one, and simple ways to show up that don’t require a solution: sitting in silence, remembering dates, checking in after the initial shock fades.

This conversation also looks at the “good vibes only” mindset and how it slips into support as quick tips and toxic positivity. We reflect on cultural habits that push activity over acknowledgment—from pep talks to one-size-fits-all “fixes”—and why real healing starts with being witnessed. If you’ve ever struggled with what to say, or if platitudes have left you feeling unseen, this episode offers a compassionate, practical framework: get comfortable being uncomfortable, ask better questions, and let people lead their own stories.

If this resonated, share it with someone who wants to support better, subscribe for future conversations, and leave a review to help others find the show. Your voice helps change the way we show up for grief.

Related Episodes:

• E14: The Unspoken Agony of Life after Multiple Miscarriages (ft. Miscarriage Mumma Support - part 4)
• E18: Doing Right by Grief (ft. Miscarriage Mumma Support)

Visit Miscarriage Mumma for more information and resources.

Show Music from Soundstripe:

• Vinyl Glow by Joachim
• East London by Nu Alkemi$t
• Nowhere Left To Turn by Ghost Beatz
• Caesura by Hale (theme)

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A lot of people want to help—and end up reaching for the worst sentence in the English language: “Everything happens for a reason.” We go straight at the hard stuff with the hosts of the Still Parents podcast, unpacking why platitudes land like a slap, how they fuel self‑doubt for grieving parents, and what real support sounds like when words fall short. Along the way, we share the story behind Still Parents—born in lockdown, built on honest conversation, and now recognized with nominations at the British Podcast Awards—and why that visibility matters for dads who are told to “man up” instead of speak up.

Together We Care becomes more than a theme as we compare emotional pain to physical pain, explore the long tail of grief after baby loss, and underline how presence beats quick fixes every time. We talk intent versus impact, faith and friction, and the small unspectacular acts that mean everything: a hot meal, a late‑night answer, a friend who listens without trying to solve. Think of grief like a museum where the bereaved is the tour guide; your job is to follow their lead. No timetables. No reasons. Just respect for a love that didn’t end.

If you’ve ever wondered what to say to a grieving parent—or feared saying the wrong thing—this conversation offers practical language, grounded empathy, and permission to choose silence over cliché. Listen, share with someone who needs it, and if this resonated, subscribe, leave a review, and tell us: what words of care have helped you most?

Related Episode:

• E38: Still Parents - Grief, Identity, & Purpose (ft. Still Parents Podcast)
• E15: When Faith Falters in the Face of Miscarriage (ft. Chris Cheatham)
• E16: Cliché-anity: When Consolation Becomes Controversy (ft. Mary)

Listen to the Still Parents Podcast here

Show Music from Soundstripe:

• Daybreak by Ghost Beatz
• Penn Station by Ghost Beatz
• Collaverating by Sam Barsh
• Caesura by Hale (theme)

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Welcome to the Narrative Series, a poetic frame exploring a father's perspective of pregnancy and pregnancy loss.

What happens when grief meets love on Father's Day? This poignant episode features a heart-wrenching letter written from the perspective of an unborn child to their father. The raw emotions capture both the devastating loss and the enduring connection that remains after pregnancy loss.

"From the very first time you thought of me and loved me, I felt it," the letter begins, immediately immersing us in the profound bond that forms even before birth. Through gentle, innocent language, we experience the child acknowledging their father's pain while offering a unique perspective on their shared connection. The letter beautifully articulates how love transcends physical presence: "You just loved me before you even saw me and that's the best gift ever."

For fathers navigating the complex emotions of pregnancy loss, this episode offers a tender framework for understanding grief as an extension of love. The letter doesn't shy away from difficult emotions, acknowledging the pain of missed milestones and Father's Day celebrations. Yet it also provides comfort in the idea that the relationship continues in a different form: "I live in your heart... like a little whisper of our love that was there and will always be there."

Have you experienced the invisible bonds that remain after loss? If this message resonated with you, please share it with someone who might need these words of comfort today. Remember that acknowledging grief is a powerful step toward healing, and that love persists even when physical presence cannot.

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Narrated by: Julius'Camillo Jean-Philippe

Script by: Kelly Jean-Philippe

Music: First Light by Half Measure

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