In this episode of DPTR, we talk about PPD (Postpartum Depression) — what it can look like, how it affects mothers, and the things people often misunderstand about it.

We also discuss the pressure placed on new mothers, the expectations around motherhood, and why conversations about mental and emotional wellbeing after childbirth need more honesty and empathy.

🎵 Music: “My Little Love” — Adele

The song fits the episode because Adele’s My Little Love captures the complicated emotions that can exist alongside love for a child. It speaks to the vulnerability, exhaustion, guilt and emotional conflict that can come with motherhood — making it a fitting soundtrack for a conversation about PPD.

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In this episode, we take a detour from relationships to question some of the beliefs that shape how we see success, spirituality, culture and what is possible for us.

“Geographical Thinking” becomes our tongue-in-cheek way of examining the ridiculous idea that certain levels of greatness require some hidden spiritual connection — or that where you come from determines how far you can go.

From superstition and inherited beliefs to “all-natural” claims, secret knowledge, religion and the tendency to credit spiritual forces for things that may have much simpler explanations, we ask:

What happens when your beliefs become the ceiling on your ambition?

And perhaps the bigger question: Have you ever stopped to ask why you believe what you believe?

🔜 NEXT EPISODE

We bring it back to relationships — exploring how deeply held beliefs about marriage, money, children, religion, gender, family and success can affect compatibility.

🎵 Music: Industry Baby — Lil Nas X ft. Jack Harlow - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HCq1OcAEAm0

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Who decides who does what in a relationship?

In Part 1, we talked about why relationship roles shouldn't automatically be assigned based on gender and introduced the CWRF framework — Capacity, Willingness, Reciprocity and Flexibility.

This time, Dam and Oyindamola take the conversation further.

We look at some of the less obvious ways people end up with particular roles in relationships. Sometimes it's because one person is more competent. Sometimes it's because one person can tolerate the responsibility better. And sometimes, people simply inherit expectations from their parents, culture or society without ever discussing them with their partner.

This episode gets into all of that.

🗣️ In This Episode

👫 How competence can automatically assign roles in a relationship

⚠️ The danger of one person becoming responsible for everything simply because they're better at it

🧠 Weaponised incompetence and what happens when someone refuses to learn

🤝 Why relationships require reciprocity and shared responsibility

🧹 How everyday things like cleaning and washing dishes can expose deeper differences between partners

🏠 Why small differences in habits can become bigger issues when couples start living together

👨🏾‍👩🏾‍👧🏾‍👦🏾 Gender inheritance — the relationship expectations we pick up from our families and culture

🍳 The story of a couple whose disagreement about cooking reveals a much bigger communication problem

💬 Why you should discuss your expectations instead of assuming your partner will eventually understand

❤️ Why you shouldn't enter a relationship with the intention of changing someone into the partner you wanted

⚖️ Traditional roles, modern relationships and the importance of finding what works for your partnership

The conversation keeps coming back to one simple principle:

Discuss it. Don't assume.

Your partner may be perfectly happy with a traditional arrangement. They may want something completely different. Neither of you can know what the other person wants if you don't actually have the conversation.

🔜 NEXT ON DPTR

BELIEFS.

What do you believe about marriage? What do you believe about money? What do you believe about children? What do you believe about religion, family, gender, success and even what life itself means?

And what happens when two people love each other but have completely different beliefs?

That's the conversation coming next on DPTR.

🎵 Music

We close today's episode with “Need Somebody” by Faze (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gmc731kFflk) — a nostalgic throwback that takes Dam back to the era of Faze, 2Baba, D'banj and some of the music that shaped those years.

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