The "Let Them" Theory from Mel Robbins has been embraced by millions across the globe, sparking thousands of Instagram and TikTok videos, and many tattoos.

Mel Robbins' book of the same name asks a simple question: what if the key to happiness, success, and love was as simple as two words?

In simple terms, if you're overwhelmed, angry or frustrated, the problem isn't you. The problem is the power you give to other people. And two simple words―Let Them―will set you free.

But is that too simple? Is it just ancient Buddhist and Stoic wisdom wrapped up in contemporary self-care? What happens when people hurt us, or act in ways contrary to our values? What do we do then?

Matt and Graham dive into "Let Them" this episode, and seek to make sense of a global phenomenon.

Let Them mantra; https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/p/C7O-KhCyIyE/?hl=en-gb

Let Them tattoos: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/p/DEOApA0vmR3/seeing-so-many-of-you-get-let-them-permanently-inked-on-your-body-is-proof-of-ju/?hl=en&img_index=1

The Serenity Prayer: https://www.alcoholics-anonymous.org.uk/magazines/the-serenity-prayer/

Attachment theory, and attachment styles, are having their moment. Search any social media site and you'll find thousands of videos how attachment theory explains everything about you, from your success (or lack of success) in romantic relationships, to your overall mental health.

Matt and Graham have spent a big part of their professional lives investigating attachment, and using it to help individuals and couples improve their lives.

But what's the reality about attachment?

What are its limitations?

Should we continue to talk about our attachment styles?

This episode explores those questions, and more.

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Miranda July's "All Fours" was one of the literary sensations of the summer. Many women in particular resonated with the tale of midlife sexual and creative freedom.

The New York Times called it "The First Great Perimenopause Novel" and, in a separate piece, discussed how women across the globe were rethinking family and married life as a result of reading the novel.

Others are not so sure. Some see naïve fantasy in its politics instead of liberation.

Matt and Graham consider all this in today's episode of the podcast, and have a think about how the story compares to what they see in their clinical work with couples.