Last week you named the thing. This week Kendall asks you to look at the direction you're actually moving — because your life isn't built by what you intend to do, it's built by what you repeatedly do. Using Haggai's "consider your ways," Martha's kitchen in Luke 10, and a three-year thought experiment that gets uncomfortable fast, this episode is a gut-check on the gap between your stated priorities and your practiced ones. Not shame — information. And one small, repeated choice that could start bending your trajectory.

Scriptures Referenced:

• Galatians 6:7, 9 — "Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap" / "Let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up"
• Haggai 1:5–7 — "Consider your ways" (planted much, harvested little; wages earned into a bag with holes)
• Luke 10:38–42 — Martha and Mary ("Martha, Martha, you are anxious and troubled about many things, but one thing is necessary")

Questions From the Episode:

The Three-Year Question (the core exercise):

• If nothing changes for three years, where does this take me?
• If I keep spending this way — where am I?
• If I keep treating my marriage this way — where are we?
• If I keep giving my phone this much of my attention — what does that do to me?
• If I keep saying yes at this rate — what does my capacity look like?
• If I keep avoiding this one conversation — what happens to this relationship?
• If I keep relating to God exactly the way I am right now — what kind of roots am I actually growing?

Now Flip It:

• What small, repeated choice could start bending that trajectory?

The Inventory (eight areas to "consider your ways" through):

• Calendar: Where are you chronically overcommitted? What keeps getting bumped because everything else feels more urgent? Do the people you say matter most actually get meaningful access to you, or the leftovers?
• Money: What does it repeatedly make possible? Are your spending patterns building the financial life you say you want, or is Future You constantly footing the bill for decisions Today You made?
• Attention: Where does your attention keep going? When someone you love is talking, where's your mind? When you're praying, how long before your brain wanders off?
• Relationships: Who's actually getting the healthiest version of you, and who's getting whatever's left at 9pm? Are there relationships you say matter deeply that have quietly gone on autopilot?
• Habits: What do you do without thinking?
• Rest: Do you actually believe it's necessary, or do you treat it like a reward you'll collect once everything else is finished? When exactly is everything finished?
• Spiritual rhythms: Are you abiding, or is prayer mostly an emergency response system you activate when things go sideways?
• Commitments: How much of your life did you intentionally choose, and how much did you just agree to without ever deciding whether it belonged?

Your Faithful Shift This Week:

• What do I say I want? What am I actually, repeatedly choosing? Where's that trajectory taking me? And finally — what would faithfulness look like here?

Links:

• Join The Shift Collective: www.faithfulshift.com
• The Wellness Store: https://mymelaleuca.com/KendallAppleton