In this powerful episode of the Connection Codes podcast, Tera and Phyllis sit down with trauma-informed coach Echo Hill Vetter to break open what happens when we let go of punishment and choose connection over consequence. Together, they unpack why punishing our kids “into good behavior” often fails — and how to replace control with curiosity, repair, and true partnership. Echo shares how dance and movement are medicine for kids’ big feelings and how parenting leadership really means supporting our kids from beneath, not controlling them from above. If you’ve ever wondered, “If I don’t punish, what do I do instead?” — this honest conversation shows the way forward.

Links and Resources:

• Download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠https://youtube.com/@connectioncodes?si=phORYBsGMOOrj9mA⁠⁠⁠
• Find out how to become a Certified Coach:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://connectioncodes.co/certified-coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• Find a coach:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://connectioncodes.co/coaches#find-a-coach-menu⁠⁠⁠

Chapters:

• 00:00:00 - Welcome + Why This Conversation Matters
• 00:00:38 - Echo’s Raw and Real Parenting Story
• 00:01:10 - When Parenting Feels Like Constant Friction
• 00:01:24 - What It Means to Parent Through Trauma
• 00:03:21 - Why Culture Taught Us to Punish
• 00:05:04 - Dance, Movement & Emotional Survival
• 00:08:28 - The Truth About Traditional Parenting Struggles
• 00:09:22 - Choosing Connection Over Consequence
• 00:18:13 - Leadership Reimagined: Parenting from Beneath
• 00:21:40 - How Our Kids Mirror Us (Literally)
• 00:22:10 - What to Do When Kids “Act Out”
• 00:23:01 - Regulating Ourselves Before Reacting
• 00:23:25 - Is Talking Back Actually a Good Sign?
• 00:24:20 - Seeing the Need Behind the Behavior
• 00:27:27 - Real-Life Tools for Collaborative Parenting
• 00:28:57 - When Your Kid Is Wild (And Wonderful)
• 00:34:51 - Curiosity and Compassion: The Game Changers
• 00:36:13 - Echo’s Parting Encouragement to All Parents

If you are in a happy, loving relationship where you feel safe but have moments that suddenly your partner feels like the enemy... Ooooo... you aren't alone. It is easy to feel like they are the ones in the "wrong." Today, we talk about reframing our thoughts and having deep conversations to experience new depth and peace in your relationship.

Links and Resources:

• Download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠https://youtube.com/@connectioncodes?si=phORYBsGMOOrj9mA⁠⁠⁠
• Find out how to become a Certified Coach:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://connectioncodes.co/certified-coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• Find a coach:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://connectioncodes.co/coaches#find-a-coach-menu⁠

Chapters:

• 00:00:00 - Emotional Struggles And Communication Breakdowns
• 00:03:52 - Dr. Glenn & Phyllis: Dedication To Helping Others
• 00:07:40 - Importance Of Deep Connections In Relationships
• 00:18:34 - Power Of Vulnerability In Relationships
• 00:22:48 - Partnering Against The Cyclone: Unity And Protection
• 00:27:55 - Building Deep Connections Through Connection Codes
• 00:31:16 - Effects Of Physical Pain On Behavior And Parenting
• 00:42:31 - Three Steps To Connect And Communicate
• 00:46:02 - Power Of Consistency In Improving Relationships
• 00:50:45 - Emotional And Physical Pain: Loneliness, Guilt, And Fear

When did motherhood start to mean sacrificing your whole self? In this honest episode, No Guilt Mom founder JoAnn Crohn joins Tera to unmask the hidden expectations that keep moms overwhelmed and stuck in cycles of guilt. JoAnn shares how a single permission slip — and a head of cabbage — helped her break free from the “selfless mom” myth, reclaim her identity, and build a thriving community where moms stop doing everything alone. If you’re ready to rewrite the good mom story and trade guilt for real connection, this episode is your sign to start now.

Links and Resources:

• Download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠https://youtube.com/@connectioncodes?si=phORYBsGMOOrj9mA⁠⁠⁠
• Find out how to become a Certified Coach:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://connectioncodes.co/certified-coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• Find a coach:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://connectioncodes.co/coaches#find-a-coach-menu⁠
• Website: noguiltmom.com
• JoAnn on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joanncrohn/⁠⁠

Chapters:

• 00:00:00 - Opening Thoughts & Gentle Disclaimer
• 00:00:38 - Meet JoAnn: The Voice Behind No Guilt Mom
• 00:02:49 - From “No Kids Ever” to Motherhood
• 00:04:25 - Surviving Postpartum: The Turning Point
• 00:06:58 - Why Moms Need Real Self-Care
• 00:12:29 - Journaling: A Safe Space for Truth
• 00:19:11 - Smashing the “Good Mom” Expectations
• 00:22:43 - How Moms Cope (and Why It Changes)
• 00:23:12 - Choosing Sobriety: What It Reveals
• 00:23:40 - Why We All Need Community
• 00:24:15 - Can AI Help Us Connect Better?
• 00:26:05 - The Social Skills We’re All Relearning
• 00:28:17 - Building Real Friendships (Not Just Playdates)
• 00:30:30 - JoAnn’s HAPPY Framework in Action
• 00:35:15 - Using the Core Emotion Wheel at Home
• 00:41:03 - Final Takeaways & Resources You’ll Love