What if healing is not another demand to correct yourself - but an invitation to connect with yourself differently?

In this episode of Trauma Meets Recovery, Dr. Mark McNear sits down with Andy Carlson, a trauma-informed coach, group facilitator, LIFT Online Learning Facilitator + Coach, and co-host of the Time with Tim Fletcher podcast.

Andy shares a candid perspective on growing up with constant correction, the nervous-system responses that can remain long after the original experiences, and the shift he describes as “connect instead of correct.” The conversation also explores humiliation trauma, shame, discomfort, self-compassion, internal safety, and why joy can begin to appear more often when we stop forcing ourselves to chase it.

In this conversation:
- how chronic correction can shape self-perception and nervous-system responses
- the difference Andy sees between shame and humiliation trauma
- learning to notice pain without immediately shutting down or running away
- replacing self-rejection with curiosity and connection
- rebuilding agency, boundaries, compassion, and room for joy

Healing is not about denying what happened. It is about discovering that what happened does not have to determine every next step.

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Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy, medical advice, or crisis support. If this topic feels activating, please pause, take care of yourself, and reach out to a trusted professional or support system.

🌐 Learn more about Andy Carlson:

Andy Carlson is a trauma-informed coach, group facilitator, and co-host of the Time with Tim Fletcher podcast. His work focuses on helping people understand trauma, rebuild internal safety, and grow skills in boundaries, agency, and self-compassion.

Andy's team profile: https://www.timfletcher.ca/our-team
Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/@TimeWithTimPodcast
Tim Fletcher Co.: https://www.timfletcher.ca


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