“We should look at this as an opportunity.”

You’ve probably heard some version of that about conflict, and it may have sounded like a platitude. Opportunities are things we want. How could conflict possibly be one of them?

In this episode, we explore why we may not want conflict, but we often need it to grow, learn, and create meaningful change. The problem is that years of difficult experiences can train our brains to associate conflict almost entirely with threat.

But that association isn’t the whole story.

I’ll break down the neuroscience behind why our expectations going into conflict matter. When we believe a positive outcome is possible, optimism engages brain systems associated with motivation and persistence while reducing the threat response that can push us toward defensiveness or shutdown. That shift makes it easier to stay open, think clearly, and work toward a solution, and research on negotiation shows that people who expect something constructive from conflict tend to communicate and collaborate more effectively.

That doesn’t mean simply deciding that every conflict is “an opportunity.” There’s an important condition that has to come first, and without it, optimism can become denial.

I'll also explain where that line is and offer a practical way to begin changing your own relationship with conflict.

This episode explores one of the seven principles from Jeremy’s new book, Wired for Peace: Using 7 Neuroscience-Based Principles to Resolve Conflicts.

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About Jeremy Pollack, Ph.D.
Jeremy is a social-organizational psychologist and the founder of Pollack Peacebuilding Systems. He helps people and organizations better understand what drives conflict—and develop practical ways to handle it more effectively.

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