Do you scroll social media and walk away feeling less than? Like everyone else is doing amazing things, and you're not important, not making a difference, and not even sure what your calling is? Who told you that?

In this episode, Pam shares five ways comparison is costing you, and how to stop comparing and start walking in your true identity. It's not a problem with your abilities. It's a problem with your identity.

## In this episode - **00:00** Who told you that? Plus an invitation to the free From Identity to Influence workshop - **02:30** Welcome to episode 254: comparison is costing you more than you know - **04:20** It's not your abilities, it's your identity - **04:45** 1. Don't borrow a title that isn't yours. Pam's unfair fitness comparison, why it's a "them vs. Him" problem, and the speaker story that shows why you can't compare - **10:50** 2. "What is that to you? You must follow Me." What Jesus told Peter, and what He's telling you - **13:10** 3. Test your own work. Elevate your perspective, and three questions to ask before you compare - **17:30** 4. Turn comparison into celebration - **18:55** 5. Identify your secret sauce. God didn't make any copies - **21:15** Join the free From Identity to Influence workshop on November 10

## Three questions to ask when you start comparing 1. Is it true? 2. Did God tell me that? 3. What has God asked *me* to do today?

## Scriptures in this episode - John 21:21-22 - Galatians 6:4-5 - Ephesians 2:10 - Ephesians 3:20 - 1 Corinthians 12 (one body, many parts)

## Quotes to remember - "We don't want to be like them. We want to be like Him." - "Leaders who celebrate others grow influence, and leaders who compare shrink influence." - "God didn't make any copies."

## Reflection Who do you catch yourself comparing to? This week, send her a message to celebrate her, then ask God, "What have You asked *me* to do today?"

## Free resource Download the free L.E.A.D. Framework: pampegram.com/leadframework

## Free workshop: From Identity to Influence Tuesday, November 10, at 7:00 PM Central, online. Join live to ask your questions and win special prizes. Can't make it live? Sign up anyway, and you'll get the recording. **Save your free seat:** pampegram.com/workshop

*Called to Lead. Created to influence.*

Do you feel God calling you to more, but you're stuck? It's probably not about your abilities. It's about your identity. If the enemy can't steal your salvation, he'll come after your identity, because he doesn't want you walking in who God says you are.

In this episode, Pam names three common lies that keep Christian women from leading, influencing and making the impact God has called them to make, and gives you the scriptures to speak back over each one.

In this episode

• 00:00 You're called to more, so why are you stuck?
• 00:55 Identity theft: why the enemy goes after your identity
• 01:45 Lie 1: "I'm not qualified." Pam's story of feeling like a fraud with "Pam Pegram, writer" on her contact card, and why feeling unqualified is an invitation to rely on God
• 04:55 Lie 2: "I've messed up too much." Your past is a chapter in your story, not who you are, and the $100 bill that never loses its value
• 08:10 Lie 3: "Someone else could do it better." Why that's your fear talking, and the role only you can fill
• 09:50 Obedience brings clarity, confidence and a life rooted in your identity in Christ
• 10:50 Join the free From Identity to Influence workshop on November 10

Scriptures to speak over the lies

"I'm not qualified": 2 Corinthians 3:5, 2 Corinthians 12:9, Philippians 4:13

"I've messed up too much": Romans 8:1, Isaiah 43:18-19, 1 John 1:9

"Someone else could do it better": Ephesians 2:10, Ephesians 3:20, Romans 12:4-5

Write them on cards and keep them where you can find them. When the lie shows up, speak truth over it.

Quotes to remember

• "We have to speak truth over the lie."
• "Anything in your past is just a chapter in your story. It is not who you are."
• "Nobody can tell you who you are better than God's Word."

Reflection

Which of these three lies hit closest to home? Write it down, ask yourself, "Who told you that?" and write God's truth right beside it.

Free workshop: From Identity to Influence

Tuesday, November 10, at 7:00 PM [Central], online. We'll go deeper into identity, map out the scriptures, and get rid of the lies for good so you can walk in who God created you to be.

Save your free seat: pampegram.com/workshop

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Called to Lead. Created to influence.

Connect with Pam:

• Website: pampegram.com
• Instagram: @pampegram
• Facebook: Confident Christian Leadership Group

Do you replay every decision until you feel completely stuck? You want to get it right and honor God, but somewhere along the way, careful thinking turned into overthinking.

In this episode, Pam shares 5 biblical truths to help you stop overthinking, find God-given clarity, and take your next faithful step with confidence.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why overthinking is often fear in disguise
• Why bringing your decisions to God first changes everything
• The simple swap: trade your “what if” for “even if”
• How to ask God for wisdom, and expect Him to answer
• Why clarity comes as you move, not before you take the step
• How to use the L.E.A.D. Framework when you feel stuck

Scriptures mentioned:

• Philippians 4:6–8
• James 1:5
• Psalm 119:105
• Philippians 4:13
• Ephesians 2:10

Your next step: Choose one decision you’ve been circling. Pray about it, set a deadline, and take one faithful step this week.

Free resource: Download the LEAD Framework at pampegram.com/leadframework

Read the blog post: How to Stop Overthinking Decisions: 5 Biblical Truths for Clarity

Connect with Pam:

• Website: pampegram.com
• Instagram: @pampegram
• Facebook: Confident Christian Leadership Group