You said yes. Now what?

Maybe nobody official is involved and you're figuring it out on your own. Or maybe, like me, you had caseworkers, adoption workers, and psychologists, and still nobody showed you how the pieces fit together. Either way, you can end up at the kitchen table wondering what comes next.

In this episode of 62 and 2 AM Feedings, I talk about:

• Why most kinship families raise kids outside the foster care system
• Child-only grants: money set aside for the child, where your own income usually doesn't count
• Why a school and medical form isn't the same thing as custody
• Kinship navigator programs, and how to find one by calling 211
• Why you're the file now, and what I learned about keeping important papers safe after the Camp Fire

Your one next step: make one call this week. Write down the date, who you talked to, and what they said.

Mentioned in this episode:

• Notice Them Grow (The Noticing Log): https://noticethemgrow.com
• Fire-resistant document bag: https://link.amazon/B0b8QmAE9
• Grandparents as Parents by Sylvie de Toledo and Deborah Edler Brown: https://link.amazon/B04PssrfC
• The Back Porch, a community for kinship and relative caregivers: www.backporchscore.com

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I'm not a therapist, social worker, or lawyer. This episode shares my personal experience and general information, not legal, medical, or financial advice. Rules are different in every state, so check with your county or a qualified professional about your situation.

Next week: the parenting that worked before, and why it might not work now.

Maybe it was a phone call. Maybe a text. Maybe somebody showed up with a car seat and a trash bag full of little clothes. However it came, you said yes before your brain caught up. Then the house got quiet and the panic set in.

In this first episode, I share the day my brother called and asked if I could get custody of my baby niece, while I was living in a one-bedroom cabin with no plan and no manual. If you're a grandparent, aunt, uncle, or other relative caregiver who just got the call, this one is for you.

In this episode:

• Why the panic doesn't mean you made the wrong choice
• What the first night is really for (it's simpler than you think)
• Who to ask and what to ask when you're ready
• One small homework step to start getting organized

Grab my free guide, Navigating the Call, on The Back Porch app. It walks you through the first few days one step at a time. www.backporchscore.com

I'm not a therapist, social worker, or lawyer. I'm a relative caregiver sharing what I've lived and learned.

The porch light's on. Pull up a chair.