Have you ever chased connection until you felt rejected one too many times... and then suddenly found yourself pulling away?

In this episode, we’re exploring the push-pull pattern that happens when our attempts to feel safe accidentally keep the cycle going. I’m sharing how I learned to use distance to get connection, why we can move between chasing and withdrawing, and the question that helped me understand why the same relationship dynamics kept showing up in my life.

If you’ve ever wondered, “Why do I keep ending up in relationships like this?” this episode will give you a different question to ask.

This episode is for you if...

* You keep finding yourself in anxious/avoidant or push-pull relationships

* You chase connection until you feel rejected, then suddenly shut down

* You judge yourself for how you’ve behaved in past relationships

* You keep wondering why the same relationship dynamic follows you

Your invitation…

Instead of asking, “Why do I keep ending up in relationships like this?” try asking yourself:

“What is the lesson I’m being invited to learn when I find myself in this relationship dynamic?”

Actually write the answer down, and if you feel open to sharing, leave it in the comments.

Maybe this relationship isn’t proof that something is wrong with you. Maybe it’s illuminating something you’re finally ready to see.

And if you want to go beyond understanding the push-pull pattern and actually tend to the part of you living inside of it, last week’s members-only episode is a guided Shadow Work + Inner Child Healing practice specifically for this dynamic.

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Have you ever had one of those days where you just don't feel like yourself?

Maybe you're more emotional, more sensitive, or more irritable than usual, and your first instinct is to wonder what's wrong with you.

In this episode, I'm sharing the simple practice that completely changed my relationship with myself. It helped me stop judging my emotions, recognize my patterns, and communicate my needs with more compassion in my relationship.

We'll talk about why understanding your body can be one of the greatest tools for emotional healing, how this practice has transformed my relationship with Justin, and why slowing down is sometimes exactly what your nervous system is asking for.

If you've ever felt like you're constantly trying to "fix" yourself, this episode is for you.

Your invitation…

If you know what day you are on, share it in the comments, along with anything you notice about how you feel today.

Mentioned in this episode…

* Taking Charge of Your Fertility (here are their free downloadable PDFs)

* Lively cycle tracking app

* What I have learned since tracking my cycle

If you’d like to go beyond understanding your patterns and actually practice healing them, inside the Codependency Alchemy Membership we come together each month for guided shadow work, inner child healing sessions, live AMAs, and a private community where you don’t have to navigate this work alone.

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Have you ever felt jealous in your relationship... even though you genuinely trust your partner? In this episode, I’m sharing one of the most vulnerable stories I’ve told on the podcast.

A moment with Justin that brought up unexpected jealousy, led to one of the biggest ruptures we’ve experienced, and ultimately taught me that jealousy is rarely about what we think it’s about.

Together, we’ll explore what jealousy is actually pointing toward, why it often has very little to do with your partner, and how asking one simple question can help you move from reactivity to self-understanding.

In this episode, you’ll learn…

* The hidden fears that commonly live underneath jealousy

* How insecure attachment can shape conflict and repair

* The mistake I made when trying to repair too soon

* A shadow work question to help you understand what’s really happening beneath the trigger

This episode is for you if...

* You find yourself overthinking interactions between your partner and other people.

* Jealousy quickly turns into anxiety, anger, or self-doubt.

* You want to respond to triggers with more curiosity instead of shame.

Your invitation…

In the comments, share your reflections to this shadow work prompt:

When you felt jealous, what were you actually afraid would happen?

Then notice what lives underneath that answer. Jealousy isn’t asking to be judged, it’s asking to be understood.

You can read my original post from when this event happened here: "I don't want to be with you anymore"

If you’d like to go beyond understanding your patterns and actually practice healing them, inside the Codependency Alchemy Membership we come together each month for guided shadow work, inner child healing sessions, live AMAs, and a private community where you don’t have to navigate this work alone.

Click here to learn more and join our growing Codependency Alchemy community on Substack