A chat about being single by choice. More and more women are opting out of not just marriage, but out of relationships with men altogether - and choosing new paths to economic independence, professional and personal fulfillment, and adventure - that does not include a man as part of the plan. Women are also connecting with each other across cultures and creating new, unconventional women’s communities at exponential rates - all while unsubscribing to patriarchal norms.

In this hour we talk about the act of de-centering men, the liberation women experience when going solo, the explosion of women-only travel, the rise of mommunes, and the increasing demand for women’s communities.

EPISODE LINKS

In Her Nature | Rachel Hewitt

Living by yourself | Anxiously Alej

Women Only Space | Briggygee

Stop Waiting | Healwithmegs

Solo Travel | Wonder Tours

Solo Travel | Women in the Wild

Feminist City Guide | Unearth Woman

Being Single Backlash | I am Jannah Santana

Communal Living | CoAbode

Communal Living | Commune

Mommune | NBC The Today Show

Dating Yourself | ChloBow

Not Looking for a Man | Rihanna

Golden Girl Gang Forum | Brigg

Co-Housing Houston

OWCH Women’s Community

Fempowerment App

CONTACT US

Website: www.chatinthecommons.com

Instagram: @chatinthecommons

X: @ChatInCommons

Email: https://www.chatinthecommons.com/contact

CREDITS

Hosted by Natalie Blundell and Elle Kamihira

Produced by Natalie Blundell and Elle Kamihira

Edited by Elle Kamihira

Audio Engineering by Jason Sheesley at Abridged Audio

Cover art by Reda Tomingas

Theme song by Moushumi

Music by Midnight Door

A chat about dating. In part two of our series on the 4B movement, Elle and Natalie take a read on what is happening in dating culture, listening to a diverse cross-section of women to try to understand why a growing number of women are saying no to dating.

EPISODE LINKS

Influence of Sex and the City | Emily the Recruiter

Hook-Up Culture | Cunty Chanel

Transactional Dating | Pure Michigangster

Backlash to Women’s Standards | Shawnda

Being Bitter vs Being Aware | Professional Sassatron

Internet Boyfriend | Joshua Summerfield

Self-Love Journey | Caitlin Checker

Women Benefit Men | Fashionably Divorced

Burning the Haystack | Crazylocks918

Burned Haystack Method | Jennie Young

Rising Standards | Jennifer Moxley

Bumble Ad Campaign | Daily Mail

RESOURCES

Are We Dating the Same Guy? | App

Tea for Women | App

FROM THE COMMONS

FiLiA is the largest international women’s rights conference in the world. They know that building a global sisterhood is essential for the dismantling of patriarchy. Learn more and buy your tickets for the October 10-12, 2025 conference in England at:

https://www.filia.org.uk

CONTACT

Website: www.chatinthecommons.com

Instagram: @chatinthecommons

X: @ChatInCommons

Email: https://www.chatinthecommons.com/contact

CREDITS

Hosted by Natalie Blundell and Elle Kamihira

Produced by Natalie Blundell and Elle Kamihira

Edited by Elle Kamihira

Audio Engineering by Jason Sheesley at Abridged Audio

Cover Art by Reda Tomingas

Music by Moushumi

A chat about coming of age in a man’s world. As Rebecca Solnit says, “It gets you even if it doesn’t get you. You have to think every day of your life as a girl and a young woman, if I wear this what will happen? If I go out, what will happen?” and girls and women are getting the message that “this is not your world, this is not your street, this is not your city, this is not your adventure, you are not the protagonist.”

In this hour, Elle and Natalie reflect on growing up female, and unpack the conditioning all girls and women are subjected to.

EPISODE LINKS

Rebecca's English Hub |Tik Tok

Science of Smiling | National Library of Medicine

Lake Bell Interview | CBS Mornings

Why Some Grown Women Sound Like Girls | Psychology Today

In A World | Lake Bell

Inside Voice | Lake Bell

Untamed | Glennon Doyle

The Gift of Fear | Gavin de Becker

Men Hazing Girls & Women | Rebecca Solnit

Men Explain Things to Me | Rebecca Solnit

The Hero’s Journey | Joseph Campbell

The Heroine’s Journey | Maureen Murdoch

Twelve Feminist Lessons of War | Cynthia Enloe

Cynthia Enloe Interview | Subject To Power

Women’s War Stories | Sonora Jha

I’m Gonna Be an Engineer | Peggy Seeger

CONTACT

Website: www.chatinthecommons.com

Instagram: @chatinthecommons

X: @ChatInCommons

Email: https://www.chatinthecommons.com/contact

CREDITS

Hosted by Natalie Blundell and Elle Kamihira

Produced by Natalie Blundell and Elle Kamihira

Edited by Elle Kamihira

Audio Engineering by Jason Sheesley at Abridged Audio

Cover Art by Reda Tomingas

Music by Moushumi