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If your family feels like a beautifully chaotic ADHD ecosystem — grandparents, parents, kids, everyone with big feelings and lost keys — this episode is going to hit home in the best, most validating way.

In this must-listen replay, I sit down with Jami Goldfarb Shapiro, ADHD expert, coach, and author of the brand-new book This Explains So Much: Understanding Undiagnosed ADHD for People Who Have Too Much, Feel Too Much, or Have Been Told They Are Too Much.

Together, we dive into what ADHD looks like across generations, why so many adults were missed or misunderstood growing up, and how those undiagnosed patterns shape parenting, communication, emotional triggers, and family dynamics today. This conversation is funny, real, and wildly eye-opening — especially if you're spending the holidays surrounded by multiple generations of neurodivergent energy under one roof.

We talk about:

• The signs of ADHD in parents and grandparents who were never diagnosed
• How undiagnosed ADHD impacts family relationships, communication, and conflict
• The emotional inheritance ADHD families carry (and how to break the cycle)
• Why understanding your own ADHD helps you parent differently
• How to build connection and compassion across the ADHD family tree

Whether you're navigating holiday chaos, reflecting on your own late diagnosis, or raising ADHD kids while healing your own childhood, this episode will feel like a warm, “ohhhh THAT makes sense now” hug for your brain.

Grab a cozy drink, hide in the laundry room if you must, and let’s unpack the generational ADHD story no one ever told you — until now.

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In today’s powerful episode of Chaos & Caffeine, Danielle sits down with Daryl Potter, author of Even the Monsters, to dive into the brutal, beautiful truth of raising a neurodivergent child while navigating grief, loss, depression, and the identity-shifting spiritual journey that comes with it.

This is not your typical ADHD parenting episode — it’s honest, unfiltered, and deeply validating.
Daryl opens up about the emotional weight parents carry, the moments no one prepares you for, and the raw reality of loving a neurodivergent child through heartbreak, hope, and healing.

If you’ve ever felt alone, overwhelmed, misunderstood, or scared you’re “not doing enough,” this conversation will feel like someone finally turned on a light in the dark.

Whether you’re parenting an ADHD, autistic, or otherwise neurodivergent child — or you’re navigating your own mental health while trying to show up for your family — this episode holds space for you.

Listen in for:

• The grief and identity shifts neurodivergent parents never talk about
• How spiritual growth and parenting collide (and sometimes explode)
• What Daryl learned raising his neurodivergent child
• A reminder that you are not alone in the hard parts
• Hope, healing, and honesty without toxic positivity

If this episode resonates, share it with another parent who needs to feel seen today.

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🧮 Pop Sugar Cafe

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A line of science-backed sensory furniture and tools designed for kids who feel everything — loudly, quickly, and all at once. Ted Kangaroo’s patented chairs, vests, and rockers give your child a safe, calming, multi-sensory space to refocus, self-soothe, and regulate their emotions.

🎁 Play Therapy Supply

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If you’re raising a neurodivergent child and traditional parenting advice makes you want to scream into a throw pillow, this episode is your new safe place. Today, I’m joined by Dayna Abraham — bestselling author, founder of Lemon Lime Adventures, creator of the Calm the Chaos framework, and the internet’s favorite “I’ve-been-there” ADHD mom who turned family chaos into a science-backed system for connection and behavior support.

We dig into what actually works for ADHD, sensory, and emotionally intense kids — the kind of strategies parents Google at midnight because nothing else is cutting it. Dayna breaks down her signature approach, shares raw stories from parenting her three neurodivergent kids, and gives you practical, real-world tools you can use TODAY to reduce meltdowns, improve emotional regulation, and feel less alone in the hardest moments.

If you want compassionate, realistic ADHD parenting support that doesn’t require perfection, color-coded binders, or pretending your kid is “easy,” this conversation is your lifeline.

Listen in and discover:

• The truth about ADHD and “big behavior” kids
• Why typical discipline fails neurodivergent kids
• Dayna’s 5-step Calm the Chaos framework (and how to use it fast)
• The small changes that completely shift home dynamics
• How to build connection when your kid’s emotions are on fire
• What parents can do right now to feel more confident and in control

This episode is raw, practical, and full of tools you’ll want to replay again and again.

Connect with Dayna 👉 Calm the Chaos

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🧮 Pop Sugar Cafe

The printable shop saving ADHD parents everywhere from pure morning meltdown chaos. Their visual schedules, routine charts, and emotion trackers are actually cute and neurodivergent-friendly.

🪑 Ted Kangaroo

A line of science-backed sensory furniture and tools designed for kids who feel everything — loudly, quickly, and all at once. Ted Kangaroo’s patented chairs, vests, and rockers give your child a safe, calming, multi-sensory space to refocus, self-soothe, and regulate their emotions.

🎁 Play Therapy Supply

Because sometimes the best gifts aren’t found in the toy aisle. Play Therapy Supply curates sensory-friendly tools, fidgets, and therapeutic toys that actually help kids calm their bodies and connect with their feelings.

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